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female freinds
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alright, I seem to be in the dog house.
My gf has today was nosing through my phone while I wasnt in the room, and found txts on my phone from girls (OMG!!11).
Yes, I do have female freinds, and yes she has male freinds, but apparantly that's different. No I am not (and have no intention of) cheating on her, and the girls I have txts from are just that, freinds.
No matter how I try explain this to her, she is still incredibly angry with me infact called a taxi in order to leave sooner when she was here earlier.
what did I do wrong? I don't understand
My gf has today was nosing through my phone while I wasnt in the room, and found txts on my phone from girls (OMG!!11).
Yes, I do have female freinds, and yes she has male freinds, but apparantly that's different. No I am not (and have no intention of) cheating on her, and the girls I have txts from are just that, freinds.
No matter how I try explain this to her, she is still incredibly angry with me infact called a taxi in order to leave sooner when she was here earlier.
what did I do wrong? I don't understand
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I've actually seen this a lot in the past where women can claim to maintain purely platonic relationships with male friends but refuse to believe that men are capable of the same. Pot, kettle, black...
Ian.
seeing as you asked, she likes to look at the photos on there, most of which were her
but the last photo I have on there is a picture of someone I knows legs (a guy) BECAUSE.... it was raining, he was in shorts and flipflops and looked silly.
she thinks that it's a girl in a skirt and I have a picture of some girls legs on my phone
To be fair, she's always been jealous, and acused me of cheating on her with "insert most recently mention girl in here".
true dat, but, (although personally I'd rather she didtnt feel the need to look through them) they were non- encriminating, (not that there is anything for them to be encrimintating about!) just asking if I was going to be at some party that night. Plus, both these girls have bf's, and usually I'm hangning out with one of them and her bf, who I get along with really well
(appologies for the typos, I've had a couple of beers
The thing is, which makes this even more hypocritical, she's always had more male freinds that female freinds!
but like i said, apparantly me having like 2 or 3 female freinds is different to her having male freinds :yeees:
it is a bit of a blurry picture (cos it was taken on my phone) but still, I wish she'd believe me!
I'm going away for the weekend, that should give her time to cool off, but we've been going out nearly 3 years, and she's not been this made at me since... well, just after we got together!
she already knows what I think about her nosing throught my phone, and althought I really dont have anything to hide, it's not very nice her going through my phone...
and I've already told her that she's the only one for me and that these girls are only freinds and nothing more.
*sighs*
I don't know... Well, I'm off to bed cos I have to get up at 0530 tomorrow as I'm off for the weekend, but hopefully there'll be some more good replies (like thoese here already) when I come back late on monday...
Thanks for all the replies so far :thumb:
While you may have nothing to hide, if she's an insecure person and has doubts it will still play on her mind so dont be too harsh on her. It may seem hypocritical to you that she thinks she is allowed male friends, but from her point of view she knows that she's not doing anything with them. She doesnt know for certain that your not doing stuff or wanting to do stuff with your female friends because she is simply not in your mind.
Texts can often be taken the wrong way to other people, maybe she just thinks your so irresistible that she cant understand why other girls would want to keep their hands off you? On the other hand she may think that she herself is so horrible that you need to look elsewhere. Maybe you need to have a proper chat about this and find out the root of the problem; is she insecure, paranoid, extremely jelous or just hipocritical? And depending on the problem i think you need to put her mind at ease. Has your girlfriend met your female friends? If she hasnt; to her its the unknown that can be the worst. Maybe if she met them and could see that you are not interested in them it would put her mind at rest and stop accusing you.
she sounds like a bit of a divvy, tbh.
or, it sounds like she wants an excuse to get mad at you, and this was as good as any.
being jealous is one thing, and a lot of people can't help it, but most people also listen to reason.
But...if you've been going out for 3 years then shouldn't she already know who these girls are and that they have boyfriends?
I think she's over reacting by being mad at you for a few innocent text messages especially if she has male friends herself and I'm guessing sends them texts. It's just hypocritical.
I feel sad, but not like crying, I dont think the realisation of what's happened has hit me yet
I love her so much... Guess it wasn't ment to be
Bob on there mate. The best example from a personal P.O.V is my best friend is female and I'm crazy about her. I have other female friends as well and at some point I've fancied them.
If a woman is fedup there's nothing you can do about it..
of course not! which is why I didnt like the fact she went through mine. she did prefusely appologise a few days later...
we broke up
but we're back together now, because we didnt really have a decent reason to break up thinking about it :chin:
and things are great :yes:
it was most deffinately her insecurities that made things a lot worse though unfortunately.