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boyfriend issues :(
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right ive known my bf for just over a year and we've been going out almost two months, thing is its a long distance thing and hes only back here in the holidays which means at most i get to see him a few months a year.
it was all fine before he came back and i wasnt having any issues with it, but then he came and things were amazing and now he's left gone back to england. we both knew it would be hard and i know for sure he likes me (from little things he says and does), but i just feel so neglected and like hes gone off me. he tells me i dont need to worry but i cant help it, i really like him and i really dont know what to do.
please help me
it was all fine before he came back and i wasnt having any issues with it, but then he came and things were amazing and now he's left gone back to england. we both knew it would be hard and i know for sure he likes me (from little things he says and does), but i just feel so neglected and like hes gone off me. he tells me i dont need to worry but i cant help it, i really like him and i really dont know what to do.
please help me
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think i should just get used to it?
-Either get used to it, and try to overcome the distance barrier between you. This will be hard, but if the relationship is strong enough it will get through it.
-Or just remain as friends..
I'm sure the guy is feeling the same way too..:)
thanks nothinggoldcansay, we do try talking as much as possible on both the phone and net but with him doing his A levels and the grades he needs to get its hard to get him when hes not at school or revising. i guess thats why im having random outbursts...cos i dont have the conversations to keep me going.
i was going to break up with him last night but i really dont want to, so i guess i have to get used to it. thanks you lot
Its understandable that you feel neglected, as he is not physically there perhaps when you need him.
Though it is perhaps as tough for him as well, and doesn't want to talk about it because it will bring his feelings out, and this is his way of dealing with the distance?
Being a long distance apart, will make your time together much more special,
and will be a reminder about why your going through it all - because its worth it!
The path of true love is never straight, have you discussed a possible future together ? - you said yourself he shows he cares because of the things he does. This is his way of balancing things out, he may not be able to talk about his feelings but is letting you know in other ways.
it seems as if we´ve got the same problem!
i only see my b/f in the holidays as he lives in the UK and i live in Germany
we´ve known eachother for about 2 and a half years now, everytime i have to go back i feel horrible because i miss him sooooo much! it´s true though u do get kinda used to it but still everytime u have spent a couple of weeks together it´s as if the world is falling apart when u have to say "good-bye"...
after some time i always start to think tht maybe he´ll meet somebody else i get really upset and scared then, but in the end u cant change it if he does meet somebody else! just enjoy the time u can spent together!!!! Talking on the phone and on the net does help i guess but i do find it quite frustrating at times... it´s just not the same
I hope u´ll be lucky and get into uni in the UK everything´s gonna be fine then so just think positive!!!!
Amira sorry to hear the news, I went thru the same thing over a week ago so I can perhaps sympathise a little bit with how u r feeling
Thats so sad that you broke up with your bf!
but mind you with the distance being very long i take it hes in england and your in dubai. you cant be to sure what hes up to and i understand that you miss him loads and its hard for you to meet up!
i miss my bf when he goes home and he only lives 15 minutes away!
I hope you get over him.. and find some one better! xx