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Why am I attracting older guys?
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Well I'm 15.....not 16 for ages yet and I do act and look alot older than I am. I've made good friends with guys online before and they're always older but I just intend to chat with them because they're more mature. And when they just chat to me they say I'm a really sweet/nice/intelligent person but as soon as they see my pics or see me on cam (and NO i DONT do anything) they seem to go crazy over me and giving loads of compliments about how i'm ''really fit'' etc....and they never see sexy or revealing pics. I'm confused, because after that they always flirt with me. Do they just like me because of my looks and youth....or does my personality still play a part?
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Unfortunate fact of life #1:
Men who talk to girls online want sex
Unfortunate fact of life #2:
Older men are better at disguising this and more adept at flattery
Unfortunate fact of life #3:
Unscrupulous older men often think it's easier to get sex from a younger woman
Unfortunate fact of life #4:
Some men are actually sicko sex perverts and actually only want sex with young ladies.
Of course you've already said you act and look older, perhaps it's understandable that they would like and fancy you. Do you tell them your age? Does doing so make them more or less keen? How much older are they? Ask yourself why are they talking to a fifteen year old online when there are real, available women everywhere? Perhaps they have a socially unacceptable preference? Just treat internet chat with the cynicism and contempt it deserves and be careful out there.
You're not after sex? But you're having sex with her though, right?
And if she wouldn't have sex with you? From my perspective, if you loved and respected her, you'd wait, protect her childhood and not be pushing her to grow up so fast.
You say here you like to feel power in your sexual relationship, that you like to feel in control. Exerting power over children for sexual gratification? That's so very very wrong. I urge you to stop. Until she's older.
Childhood doesn't end at 13. She's still a child. The law doesn't recognise her as able to make decisions about whether she's ready for sex and neither do I. As a legally recognised adult you should have the awareness to know that doing as you do with a child is wrong. You should take the moral high ground with her as you know what would be better for her.
I don't expect any more of you than I would of myself. No doubt you'll ignore my opinion but it's stupid to open yourself up to a statutory rape accusation retrospectively if ever you two were to split and either her or her parents sought retribution.
Yes, the two issues are relatively unrelated. My first post is my real contribution to this thread. None the less, after Matt brought our disagreement in here I stand by my other comments.
they're usually 3-10 years older......i never want anything to happen with them, i just wanna chat.
Seriously, find me a 16 year old who understands Shakespeare or what love is.
Masturbating can't get someone pregnant at an early age and impact upon their future. Masturbation is an individual act, not the act of a couple and no-one can manipulate you to do it.
You could easily decline to have sex with her, she's not going to be raping you.
And I agree, she wouldn't magically become ready on her 16th birthday, at the same time she's not obligated to have sex as soon as she's legally able.
The more I read your attempts at justifying yourself the more I think they should insist on tests to breed.
Erm...hi :wave:
My step sister's 15. In my youth I dated 15 year olds. None of them are/were mentally ready for that kind of relationship. From my perspective, and from the laws perspective what you're doing is wrong.
Which one are you trying for here?
I don't know why guys are like that. I last year before I got with my bf and after I broke up with my ex, I started seeing a 38 yr old. I thought he would be more mature but actually, was worse..... Every day after work he would go to the pub. He was an electrician and at weekends he would go home to see his kids. He would not phone me so I would send a msg saying it's over.... he would then phone (always not at home, eg, in his van or in town) and tell me some sob story that his kid was ill e.t.c.... I would feel guilty. I only put up with it for 5 weeks though! Felt really bad as I found out he was married. Ended it as soon as I got told! Bastard!!
Personally, you should enjoy life first. The only way to know if I guy wants you for you is to make him wait. Don't jump into anything.
You don't mean parents, you mean parent. You've got it so wrong, don't ever consider practising psychiatry professionally. I had to grow up faster because my parents split, my father left and ceased contact, I was the only male in the house and I was the entirety of emotional support available to my mother. I've been treated like an adult since I was 10. I've not been an adult since I was 10. Every person needs a childhood, that childhood needs protecting and it's deeply disappointing when someone like yourself takes that childhood away from someone.
I consider it abuse, so do the laws of this country. If you feel the lasw doesn't apply to you then good luck. I hope life's lessons aren't taught to you too harshly.
Want a hint? Never meet an older guy off the internet unless you are with at least 3 other people. In fact... don't do it at all
Varies from person to person. I'm shocked to say this but Melodie's right. Making them wait will give you the chance to find out their motivations and enable you to avoid as many hurtful mistakes as possible.
The laws of the land agree with me. It comes down to me having more respect for them than for you.
You're right though, seduction's not your forte.
I like how you resort to swearing. It really highlights your intellect.
Why do I remind you of a politician?
How totally self appreciating. Shall we let this nice girl have her thread back or are you comfortable with moving in on her as well?
lol :wave:
Hello, and sorry for distracting from your topic.
lol its ok! and i wouldn't jump straight into things with a guy....i'd deffinatly wait and give him a good looking at first
Ouch......
Sowwee!
Keep proving me wrong.
SO GINNER DONT FUCKING GO ACCUSING 15 YEAR OLDS OF NOT MAKING EVEN THE RIGHT DECISIONS FOR THEMESELVES BECAUSE THATS WHAT TEENAGERS LIKE HER CONSIDOR FIRST :mad:
' and it's deeply disappointing when someone like yourself takes that childhood away from someone.' He hasn't taken my firends childhood from her at all - she grew up very early on in life and since has been making decisions for herself and how it would affect the other person NOW don't you think that is respectable ?