touchin him!

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rt, theres this bloke(that Dr 4 n e 1 who read previous posts)and we kinda gettin it on again, not sex like, ive decided i wont go that far and he ses he dont mind. but, when ever we get2 gether 4 a sneaky snog & fondle, i get scared and try 2 put things off. he always ses touch me, but im so so so so scared, i dunno why?
its not just him, i get it with every1? i dont care bout him doin things 2 me, i dont worry bout that(no, its not just cause its doin sumint 4 me!) i used 2 get scared!
he quite experienced(bit, bit older 2!) so i suppose im scared incase he just laughs in my face, i know he wouldnt, so why am i so scared at venturing in that region?
cheers guys
H.xxx

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you just aren't ready yet. try talkin to him and tellin him how u feel and if he cares he will understand and wont pressure u into anything. And u never know, in time u may feel comfortable touching him and actually want to to it

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Hiya helly, it sounds to that this dr is tying to take advantage of his positionas a dr. If you don't feel comftable don't do anything that will leave you vulnerable and more suceptable to hurt and pain, it really isn't worth it in the long run. I noticed you said in my thread about loving and loathing sex you said you feel the same. Is it possible you have some issues repressed (something as simple as being bought up to believe sexual acts are bad and dirty?) It migh be worth seeing your gp or surgery who can give you details of counselling services, if you feel that might help. Take care Persil <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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hiya guys, thanx.
persil, thanx again, i havnt been brought up like that, my whole family r v.open bout sex & wot eva, so i dont think that may b an issue, but mayb it cud.
as 4 sex, i so badly wanna do it and not worry bout things.with my ex, sex was kinda just a thing that happened, no foreplay and was over & done with no more mentioned, and then sex was just boring, also with him i was scared, i trusted him at the time but still was scared.
i know im 'ready' cause i wouldnt of had sex in the 1st place.
cause we had no foreplay, except kissing, i think im now scared 2 do it.
oh i dont bloody know, why do i have 2 get so scared bout things!
i couldnt go 2 a counciler (how eva u spell it) or the doc, id feel like a rt twat!
ta huns, luv H.xxx