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what to do...what to do..?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i think my mum has found out about all my past sexual experiences and considering im 16 thats a bad thing

has this happened to abybody else

what do i say to her if she confronts me or should i ask her if she knows anything

the tension in the house at the moment is unbearable coz she wont even look at me

am i taking it the wrong way...? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    doesnt anybody know wat to do...?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think you should talk about it with her, the longer you leave it the worse it will get. Be honest with her, she will respect you for that.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What do you mean you think your mum has found out? why do you think this? has she said soemthing to you?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    welll i was prieviously *cass* and i had posted a few topics related to my experiences

    and i think i left this site unatended and my mum has read it as when checking my emails the other night she made a sly comment

    wich made me think she has read it since then she hardly talks to me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i thought you used to be *cass*! I could tell by your signature.

    Before you do anything, you got to find out if she DOES know for sure. If she does, then talk to her, say its perfectly normal for a girl of your age to experience this. reasure her that you are being careful and always using protection.

    by the way, is this the reason you changed your name on here?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yep thats y the name change

    good idea though eh?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by GiRLiE_02:
    <STRONG>yep thats y the name change

    good idea though eh?</STRONG>

    you shouldnt need to worry bout be judged or embarrassed on here we are all here to help <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    in answer to your question if it was me im not sure if i would be brave enough to confront her. i would wait to see if she mentioned it and if she did i would just try and keep my cool. if you get all angry it will look like you have something to hide or are ashamed. just tell her that you are mature enough now to made your own decisions about sex and this also includes being mature enough for being responsible about contraception too. im sure she will understand if she knows you are being safe and sensible. at the end of the day its only because she cares about you and is worried <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What was this comment that you mum made then - was it really obvious?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes it was really obvious coz wen i checked my mail she said

    y u doin this so late?

    r u checking ur mail of thesite.org!!


    anyways she confronted me an now wants to put me on the pill but after previous thinhs that happened (the bleeding thing) i dont want to touch it now she thinks im being irresponsible about it but i know im not!

    does ne1 know how old u have to be to get the injection?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't know how old you have to be but I do know that it has some really awful side effects like bloating and such like. Also you can remain infertile for over a year when you come off it!! Why don't you just ask about changing your pill? Can't really remember the whole story but you probably just didn't have one that suited you. It took me a while to get one that suited me .... hmmmmm .... and then I kept forgetting to take it cos I'm a dimwit!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    that was part of the problem i cud never remember to take it

    thats y i thought the injection would be better coz i only have to go every 3 months
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you don't have to be a certain age to go on the injection. go to www.fpa.org.uk you should find out what you need to know about the injection there <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Have a look atthis

    Your mum might be able to help you in remembering to take your pill everyday. Have a talk to your doctor about which type's best for you, if you decide not to go back on then at least you'll have weighed up your options <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 19-04-2002: Message edited by: Chica II ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im 16 and my mom found out that i lost it at 15 and she wasnt impressed but we talked about it and she was pissed at first but now i ask her all kinds of questions she says that she dont like it but she nos she cant stop me and the if i eva got pergant she would get the hover out (im not joking she would) but may be ur mom will be like mine just talk to her bout it

    hope i helped <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey
    im on the injection and have been since i first had sex at 14. its been fine for me but it did stop my periods. oh well one pain in the arse out of the way! uve jst gotta find a method of contraception that suits u.
    my parents found out i wasnt a virgin wen i woz 15. they were cool wen they found out i was protected, plus they still think im their angel!
    Hope i helped!
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