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How long is good?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ive never had sex but things are going well for me and a friend but Im just wondering how long is good and how long is considered a premature cumer?
Thanks

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i read somewhere that "premature cumers" as you call it, is what most blokes got, it said that if you cum before you wanted to cum then its premature,but that really bull shit, anything over 10 mins is good i heard, but what it matter if you cum be4 that.. just means next time you need more 4play for you and your girl

    happy huntting.

    P.S before you get into sex, be relaxed and if your really worried drink lots of water on the day, it keep your body cooler
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if im honest the longest a lads eva lasted with me is 5-10 mins

    but i dont know if thats just me <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but then you hear about thses men that go on for hpurs ......
    *throws envious looks there way*
    Usually as long as its not oral sex i can last quite a while <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How long?

    Long enough.

    I always want her to cum a few times first, and there are lots of ways to ensure that.

    For starters, extend foreplay, especially touching and oral sex. A good half-hour or so of foreplay (longer if needed to make her cum) is an excellent start to a good session of love-making.

    Don't focus all your attention on your own feelings. Instead, try to concentrate as hard as possible on pleasuring her, and that concentration will again help you last longer.

    You can always lay still for a pause if you feel the very first signs of things getting close, or even pull out and use your hands on her until you cool down a bit.

    Finally, if none of that works and you cum sooner than you wanted to, so what? There is no rule written anywhere that says once you cum, her pleasures are over. Keep kissing, touching and arousing her until she too is satisfied. Keep going like that for a while and you'll find you can rise to the occassion again, and continue with a lot less urgency.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i'd agree with what everyone has said. to be honest im not really into the whole have sex for hours on end thing. about 1/2 an hour-45 mins is about enough for me <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Another helping hand at prolonging from ejaculation is by getting a hand from "palm and her 5 sisters" before you have sex as your well aware it gets harder to ejaculate the more times you cum.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah if you get your girl to toss you off beforhand wait fiftenn minutes or so and then try again <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it doesnt realy matter how long you last but i last for quite a bit of time but i enjoy it anyway
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i don't think there is a certain time because every man is different, it is all about pleasing your partner the time you have not lasting long, i don't like sex that lasts too long bout 30 minutes is ok so don't worry <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My girlfriends like that because after a while she starts to 'dry out' and it hurts her. So longers not always better its what you do during it that counts <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    But i think as long as you both enjoy urself, and you don't do a "Jim" from american pie, you should be fine....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i could never cum twice in that amount of time!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I never had to worry with this one too much, unless its just been a while or something, but I imagine it can be a pain. Often times when I was younger, nervousness would actually make me last longer and once I was more comfortable I was quicker. It just goes to show everyone is different. It also depends on the girl I'm with, her manuevers, and how wet she gets, the weter the less friction and the longer I last. Condoms always take enough feeling away to make me last longer as well. And I don't your attitude toward this but just the right amt of alcohol or ketamine for that matter allows to surpass my normal 5-10 minute time frame. Sometime its hard to tell just how long time elaspes during sex anyway unless you clock it which I don't. If you have time for a couple of positions, every one has had an orgasm, and you've burnt a few calories, I'd say you accomplished your mishion. Also, morning time can be a little quicker and less inventive
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I like it to last long so we can do all kinds of positions in that amount of time. My bf can hold out for about an hr or so, me I could go on for days! hehehe Well maybe not days but a long amount of time. Don't matter though my bf always makes sex special but that’s why I like it longer he’s so dam good at it... <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    alright for some <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Black_Knight:
    <STRONG>

    For starters, extend foreplay, especially touching and oral sex. A good half-hour or so of foreplay (longer if needed to make her cum) is an excellent start to a good session of love-making.

    Don't focus all your attention on your own feelings. Instead, try to concentrate as hard as possible on pleasuring her, and that concentration will again help you last longer.

    You can always lay still for a pause if you feel the very first signs of things getting close, or even pull out and use your hands on her until you cool down a bit.

    Finally, if none of that works and you cum sooner than you wanted to, so what? There is no rule written anywhere that says once you cum, her pleasures are over. Keep kissing, touching and arousing her until she too is satisfied. Keep going like that for a while and you'll find you can rise to the occassion again, and continue with a lot less urgency.</STRONG>

    So.... BK.... Do you come here often?1 <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by deeby doo:
    <STRONG>i could never cum twice in that amount of time!!!</STRONG>

    my bf always can! i think he has a never ending supply in there!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ummmmm long in bed.....
    usually for me i cum in 5-10 min the first time....... cuddling and intermittant foreplay to follow, then bout 30-50 min for me to orgasm when the lil friend pops up again after that......... then over an hour ever after and if i cum again am screamin *girls think it's cute* lol

    ok i'll shut up now.... feel free to email me ladies lol

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Gems:
    <STRONG>So.... BK.... Do you come here often? <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    Hey, don't tease the geriatrics. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Gems:
    <STRONG>

    So.... BK.... Do you come here often?1 <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>


    No, but he does come HERE! <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Heehee (turning the ladeeze on again, you naughty boy!)

    Grrrrr get your own, that ones taken <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 18-04-2002: Message edited by: smoif ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    basically, as long as the girl comes first. i dont like marathon sex sessions, after ive come i lose interest a bit.
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