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Need specialist knowledge, can u help?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Next week i am helping my girlfriend get off heroin. She has been smoking 3 bags a day for three years now. I have helped her get off it before but i can only see her at weekends and when she went back home she resumed. This time is a little different because when she goes back after doing her rattle with me she is telling her mum who hopefully can keep an eye on her. I have never done smack or know anyone who does it to her level, so basically is there anyone out there who can tell me 1, Of anything good i can do or get for her to relive the pain nxt week. 2, How i could get hold of blockers so when she quits she can stay off. or 3, is it safe for me or her to go and chat to a g.p about all of this without it effecting life insurance, work etc.
Also it would be nice to hear from anyone who is in my position and how they found dealing with it all. Cheers guys, thanks for reading.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You have already posted this in the Health forum!

    There may be specialist help near to where you live, have you tried our search facility yet?:
    http://www.thesite.org/info/in_your_area/
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    id say definitely go to a doctor, it shouldnt affect life insurance because medical records are confidential, not that that should be a reason not to get help anyway because if you dont, she wont have a life to get insured! most people dont come off heroin alive unfortunately. it can be done but she`ll likely need proper rehab.
    HTH
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I thought insurance companies could get at your medical records? You need to sign a disclaimer saying they can before they do anything though. Unfortunatly if you don't sign you dont get insured.
    It's another one of those "Human rights until a large amount of money becomes a factor" situations.
    Same as car insurers discriminating by gender. OK, its sexist, but if they didn't they may not make as much money, so its all ok in the end. <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i didnt know that, but then again i havent got life insurance and i dont plan on getting it as its a con!
    you`re probably right but even so, that should be no reason to not get help. the life insurance thing sounds like an excuse to keep taking the heroin IMO. if this woman dies from heroin abuse (which so many of them do) then she will not be able to get life insurance then because she will be dead!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cheers for the replies. Just thought i would give you an update on things. I went to a advice centre today and managed to pick up loads of leaflets on the subject. I also spoke to this old stoner woman who runs it and she was was a great help and is trying to get us an appointment with a friendly doctor later in the week. Also tring to get some info on a clinic near where she lives. So i am feeling a bit more clued up for next week. oh apparently regular g.p's will record it on your permenant record, so insurance bods and even certain companies who you work for can gain access to this. Evil or what? Well i'am off for a well earned spliff before work. Tally ho.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I sent a private messgae too !!!

    I'm a user & have been for some time - this week I am doing a detox (on day 2 now)- and yes it is really hard - but I am determined too get through this.

    The hardest thing still to cope with is the huge stigma attached to the drug. We are not all scum - I myself fell into using at a very low point of my life - I am intelligent and articulate, and hope to god I can put all this pain and misery far behind me -

    If anybody is an a similar situation IE, a user - or knows somebody in a similar situattion feel free to contact me - I know how hard it can be...

    At 17/18 - I was going to all the raves in Blackburn & Manchester and had a fantastic time with pills and coke - just keeping the use to a weekend - but as we as a group moved on with our lives got married etc, Heroin began to creep in. Before I realised I was hooked, and sadly so are a lot of my ex friends - I have had friends die through e's and H - nothing can take away the pain of seeing someone you love die....

    I wont preach each to his own, but take care in all you do - you can never be too carefull... But have fun - life is for living !!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i really hope you manage to do it clare, youve sent yourself to rehab so you`re part of the way there already. ive had friends die or go to prison through heroin. its a terrible thing. i have never taken heroin although i know what its like to have an addiction, me and my husband both had a speed habit. i was addicted for 4 years. we only managed to give it up completely when i got pregnant. a few people i know didnt manage to give up, and had their babies taken away from them.
    i sometimes think about how nice it was at first, and wonder if i just had a little bit of whizz, that would be lovely, but i wont because its a slippery slope, im not prepared to go there again. i wish you all the luck in the world.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thank you for the reply & encouragement - I am certainly going to do my best to get this detox over and done with.
    I was sorry to hear that you also had lost people close to you, but hope from the bottom of my heart things continue to be good for you as they sound as they are.
    It's tough giving up a drug in any shape or form, but you should be so proud of yourself, I for one think you have done an amazing thing.

    I have friends now that are parents and heroin addicts - they seem to think though that they can be good parents and have an addiction. As you pointed out it usually ends in disaster. I just hope they come to their senses before their children are taken away from them. otherwise they are brilliant parents. That is the thing that most people don't realise we are not bad people - the drug makes people bad. My marridge has broken up - but thank god I don't have children.

    Keep up the good work - as you so rightly said - how nice it would be just to have a bit more - just one last time but you know it could only mean dissaster.

    Clare
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