Is This Pathetic?

BillieTheBot

I'm 17, nearly 18 and totally not sexually experienced. Although I've pulled a few times, I never enjoyed it and I've not had a real relationship before.
When I told my friend I'd never given a blow job and asked her for some advice she found this amusing...but then I guess every girl's given a guy a blow job...right?
I'm a virgin (although I've been offered sex & asked out on numerous occasions)and sometimes I feel scared to talk to guys or to get involved because of this...when my friends are talking about sex, I feel a right melon....

Do guys like virgins or does it turn them off?

Is it sad to be a virgin and to have not given a bj?

Is it actually worth me waiting to do something which might not be so good anyway?

Damn I probably sound sad, but please could I have some help?

Former Member

Dont worry about it.

Do guys like virgins or does it turn them off?

Some do, some dont, most arent bothered.

Is it sad to be a virgin and to have not given a bj?

Nope

Is it actually worth me waiting to do something which might not be so good anyway?

Wait till you feel the time is right. You will know when its right..Its been mentioned here before but dont do it just to fit in.

There are tons of people in the same situation so dont feel bad. Just live your life normally and go with how you feel.

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WellIm 18, a virgin and Ive never recieved a blowjob.

I know how you feel about feeling like a melon, I do too, but tbh, Id rather wait until Im comfortable with the girl now.

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if i really like a girl then id rather she had had no sexual experience before, dunno why, but thats just me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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The idea of being with a girl who is still a virgin makes it all the more special in my book. Mmmm....! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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Liberty, don't rush into anything because your mates laugh at you. Like everyone else has said here, just wait until it's right for you. I think I actually had sex before I'd given anyone a blow job! so don't worry about it.

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Do guys like virgins or does it turn them off?

It would really turn me on to be with a virgin! Its kinda like your showing them the ropes!

Is it sad to be a virgin and to have not given a bj?

Definately not sad!!

Is it actually worth me waiting to do something which might not be so good anyway?

This is a real big opionion thing! I think its great and it always has been for me, but it really depends on your partner and whether you really feel ready. For your first time just take it slowly and make sure its with someone you care about.

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OK my bf didn't lose his virginity till he woz 18 & he'd never been giving a bj till he met me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; his ex (the only girl he's slept wit other then me) never gave him a bj or ne thing like that they just had sex a couple of times.

As every1 else has said it doesn't matter when u do ne thing sexual. Its up 2 u & only u, u shouldn't feel like a melon about it @ all. Just do stuff when U feel ready! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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definitely no problem being a virgin, just make sure you dont pop your cherry through peer pressure or curiosity. Do it for the right reasons and you'll LOVE ITTTT!

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some guys will respect you more for not blustering in to sex aged 14 - i know i would. thats not a condemnation of those that were 'ready' emotionally at a younger age. i'm just saying that waiting until you find the right person is something people will respect you for.

pushing 18 and still waiting........

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Thank god for that..other 18 yr olds not having lost their virginity. just wish i knew more people like that,,,,that didn't think that we cannot have a opinion on love just coz we haven't had sex.
mind you i do feel emotionally weak(or should that be strong?) for not having "done it"!!!!

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Hiya Liberty,

Firstly, please, please, please, please, PLEASE do not sleep with someone just 'cos all ur mates have!!!! You'll look back on it and regret it. It's best to have sex with someone you're either in love with or have strong feelings for. Secondly, don't worry about not having gone down on anyone!!! You're NOT sad!!! What IS sad is when someone goes down on someone else and they don't really want to, but just don't have the guts to say no. Do what YOU want, wait as long as you want, and don't feel ashamed or embarrassed. It's ur life and it's up 2 u what u wanna do with it, and if that means waiting 'til you're married to have sex/go down on someone/etc then so be it!!!!

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Hi Liberty,

Yeah i have to agree with everythng said on this topic, there is some real quality advice here. Most importantly, u should be comfortable with the way u are and it would be so stupid to just have sex cause ur friends have.

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hey. sorry i missed this post before.

personally, no i dont think you shoudl have sex because everyone else says, and no i dont think you're weird for not having given a blow job. although i'm not a virgin, i havnt given one either. just shows how much i rushed into it i guess.

i don't think i can add much else to this thread other than my "wait for ythe right guy" vote. take care

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I'm not sure about some guys but I love being with virgins. A lot of men feel privellidged to sleep with a virgin. As regards to blowjobs, it will all come in time, too many people rush into things these days when its not really worth it. Find someone special and you'll both enjoy showing each other what you like.

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I am a guy and certainly do not think being a virgin is bad. It would make me feel more conmfortable relaxed and "special".

Whent he time is right for you then go for it, but theres never a rush.

As for the blowjob thing theres even lesst to worry about there... Alot of girls just simply dont like / or like the thought of giving bjs. I have many friedns who are girls one is very sexually experienced and has never given a blow job, others say they dont really like to give them.

In both cases follow your feelings liberty <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Its not pathetic 2 b a virgin or 2 nvr have given a blow job. So wat if u hvnt? Its not wat u do its who ur wiv dat matters. U prob hvnt really enjoyd gettin off wiv sum plp as perhaps u wernt relaxed wiv dem/didnt fancy them or perhaps they were just CRAP snogs!Wen u feel ready go 4 it, enjoy urself- and it REALLY dosent m8r wen dis happens.

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Hmmmmm..... feeling the burn of peer group pressure perhaps?? Realising that others have some "in depth" knowledge that you don't?? Maybe even slightly jealous?? Or annoyed when they start talking about stuff that you have no idea about??

Well if this hasn't happened to absolutely everyone (doesn't even matter wether the subject is sex, driving, writing out a cheque, working, whatever) I'll eat my hat. And because I don't have a hat I'll specifically buy a really untasty one just to eat if I'm proved wrong.

Soooo....... you could try and "catch up" but meaningless sex (although fun) is the direct route to loss of self-respect. But if you don't, you're still stuck in the same position. So how do you win?? The answer is you can't 'cos there no easy answer. Frustrating isn't it??

The point is you're measuring yourself against others, which is fine if you only want to know where you stand, but no so good if you want to know what to do about it. What you have to decide is what's best for you, because you're an induvidual with your own needs and desires, and fooling yourself into believing you want something else will ultimately lead to unhappiness.

Ask yourself what you truly want, and then stick by it.

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Hey liberty, no its not sad that you havent had sex or given a blow job. And you should wait until you are ready to do it. Personally I dont like Bjs,(this is when I think I am strange) ,they do nothing for me, I get more of a kick doing oral on a lady, it drives me insane watching them having an orgasm and I could do it all night until she told me to stop. So maybe your boyfriend is like that you just never know. Just wait and do it when you feel ready to do it but believe me you will love it when you do it. Take care of your self <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Do guys like virgins or does it turn them off?

Well, i think there is two levels here to be discussed... Love and lust. These are my own opinions. In a love since, it is much better that you be a virgin. It makes it easier to NOT picture you with another person. I cannot think of any benefits of not being a virgin in a love sence. Lust, it is cool to be a virgin as well as experienced. As someone stated earlier, "showing the ropes" is a good example of virgin sence in lust. Experience may be better for a good time and maximized pleasure in a lust situation.

Is it sad to be a virgin and to have not given a bj?

Alot of people just don't have the stomach to handle these things. I would much rather be turned down, that thrown up on.

Is it actually worth me waiting to do something which might not be so good anyway?

That really is your own opinion. If you have a major history of short term relationships, you may want to try things out. If not, and comittment is more ideal to you, wait it out.

I am young, and wish to live life to the fullest while i still can. I personally am saving the long term stuff for later in life when i am through college. So, waiting was not ideal in my situation.