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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi everyone, I've been reading the board for a while so hopefully someone can help me. I've always used condoms for sex but have always found they irritate me inside, as i trust my current boyfriend and am on the pill, for the 1st time I had sex without one. My boyfriend asked me if I wanted him to pull out before he came. I said no not realising what a mess was about to be made. For some silly reason I thought it would stay up there for a bit and not start leaking out immediately which it did.

How do you (girls) cope with the mess afterwards without it getting awkward infront of your boyfriend?

Also how can you avoid fanny farts because they are SO embarrasing <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif"&gt; and why are they a lot louder when cum is running out?

Thanks for any Help it will be greatly appreciated!


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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    god yeah i sooooo know what you mean. ive only had sex without a condom before, coz im on the pill, and ive trusted both my bfs. and they've been virgins too in fact.

    i usually dash off to the loo lol, its a bit embarrassing sitting there wiping yourself innit? its not something ive ever liked to talk about lol in case its just me or something! but i guess if he doesnt pull out, its got to go somewhere and that'll just make a mess of the sheets and stuff! more awkward if your mum does the washing lol

    guess its something we girls just have to put up with. *sigh*

    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fanny farts are normal, everyone does them, cause of all the air being pumped into you, it's got to go somewhere!! There's no need to be embarrased by them!!

    As for the cum leaking out thing, thats normal too!! I normally just ignore it!! You shouldn't be embarrased, you've just been realy intimate with someone, you've done the embarrasing bit!! If he's a mature guy then he'll just ignore the fanny farts, as you can't help dong them, as for cum running down your leg, most guys like it, as it shows a kind of marking thing, like you're their property!!

    I wouldn't worry about either things!! You'll find you can enjoy your after sex cuddles and tlaks more rather than sitting there, worrying about fanny farts or cum trickling out!!

    Also some guys may get offended if you go to the loo straight after having sex with them, for whatever psychological reason they have for that!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; guys are just strange i guess!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Anyways, Don't Worry Be Happy, as they say!!

    I thoud I saw a puddycat, I did, I did see a puddycat!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There's nothing wrong with keeping a box of kleenex by the bedside (chances are if it's a guy's room he's got a box there already <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">), I've known of some girls not to mind and just do nothing, some girls have had to clean up imediately. I'm sure he has no problems with you mopping up afterwards, do what feels right, it's your body after all.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well my ex would always make me go to the toilet and clean myslef up afterwards which didn't make me feel too good but with kev it's different.

    if it's at night and we r gonna go sleep then i have no prob with sleeping in the wet patch (neither does he!) so we just take turns. but if it's a quickie and then we r gonna get dressed and go out then i normally dash to the loo and clean myself up abit. he normally comes and gives me a hand.

    you see it's as much his mess as mine and neither of us have a problem with it, thats the way it should be.

    sometimes after sex if i've been on top he doesn't mind if i just stay there and fall asleep on top of him whilst the cum just trickles all down his leg!

    at the end of the day we don't think about the mess as being a mess coz thats just another part of a sexual relationship that u have to come to terms with. there is absolutely nothing to be embarrased about.

    and as for fanny farts, there the same! every girl does them, some more that others and if your relaxed enough with each other u should be able to laught about them together or just ignore them altogether!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OMG i can totally relate u! when my bf 1st came up me, i thought it would stay inside but no such luck!

    i was reading through my pill instructions the other day and 1 of the ways it stops u getting pregnant is it thickens the mucus around ur cervix, so it stops sperm getting through, so i came 2 the conclusion that this is why cum escapes so much! (i m be wrong!)

    as 4fanny farts u just simply cant help them they are caused when air gets inside u and oh well i know its soooo embarrasing! try and just turn it into a joke wit ur bf and it makes things so much easier!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    r fanny farts just something that happens in sex, im naive and <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;

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