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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i have a problem with my girl,she is always lookin at other guys everytime we go out i have told her so many times that it hurts me to see her do that.i need your help, i dont know what to do i was thinkin of dumpin her

any suggestions?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Okay, firstly there isn't anything wrong with looking ... however, if it's something that bothers you and you've explained this to her then really she should stop it.

    As for dumping her, that seems a little harsh. Does she understand how much this bothers you?

    You could always just stay and lech at all the girls that come past until she gets the picture. It's petty I know but will most probably work .... and then your point will be proven.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    she cant really help looking at other people mate. i know blokes that do this to girls and it must be the most annoying thing to be constantly worrying about where you are looking. just chill, she wouldnt be with you if she really wanted to be with anyone else. just give her some freedom and trust her
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my advice is just grow up mate.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Helpful.

    It depends whether she is looking with intent, or just browsing. If you watch her shop, then you'll be able to tell the difference.....

    I don't know that it is such a major problem as to warrant being dumped over, but I do think that if it is causing issues for you, then it can only be your decision. Is it that big a deal? Do you need an excuse to get rid of the girlfriend? Most of the posts which deal with something like this are full of claims about how much they love her, and they can't bear to be hurt, but is it for the best. You don't mention that. You say that you are hurt by seeing her, but I would argue that you're not that close and are looking for an easy way out.

    Correct me if I'm wrong, and I'd be more than happy to take up issue again if I am. More information would help, perhpas, and then I don't have to rely on nuance and inferred guessing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    god DJP you sure you aint drawing to much from the info given??

    Why dont you sit her down and ask her why she is doing it? Also has she ever cheated before and how long have you's been together?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I may well be. Which is why a second opinion, and further information helps...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If the shoe was on the other foot it would be world war 3 rite, she would go mad i bet.. the fact is you have told her right?
    and she is still doing it, if u wanted 2 be Childish give a few girls a looking, make sure she sees you doing it

    maybe she young and wants her freedom back, at the end of the day unless u ask her you wont know, but i don't want 2 add to your Worries but er should i be saying this?

    if she looks at other blokes when your there, what the hell she going to do when your not there.

    Sorry but it seem you and your girlfriend need 2 sort out some more trusted maybe on her part. Maybe give your self a deadline with her, if after so many weeks she still looking at other blokes then maybe you could think about calling it off

    i do hope i've not added to your worries mate, tell me how it works out

    [ 16-04-2002: Message edited by: Harmless ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There's nothing wrong with a little "window shopping", as long as you don't buy anything.

    Admit it, you must check out the babes when you guys go out 2!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    speaking as a female, i know girls do this just to piss their boyfs off because they want to feel attractive.

    ha your fault for going out with bitches instead of nice girls like me - ha

    that was to all men not just you!

    leese power!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wel I can ony speak from experience, sometimes I get abit pissed with my g/f looking at guys and sometimes she gets pissed at me looking at women, but thats just insecurity messing with us. we talked and agreed to tone it down when with each other as much as possible, but hey we both do it still it's normal.

    Talk to her if she just gives you drap like she can do it if she wants to and doesent respect your feelings then your going to have to consider if she's right for you, good luck with it either way,

    if she wont talk then abit of looking from you might drop a hint,
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well leese please tell me where i can find a nice girl then, are you a real??

    what do i have to do to get one???

    i'll beg, steal and do anything else, i just don't wanna end up with another bitch!!

    awwww!!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well if there was a place where nice girls could meet nice guys i would be there, trust me.

    Guys dont tend to look beyond whats on the end of their nose, i dont do too badly but i hate it when guys seem to go for the most arrogant bitchy horrid slags and then wonder why they get hurt,

    why, a million times why

    *falls to her knees with hands to the sky*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    and whats more when they meet us the "nice girls" they cant seem to forget that they're not their ex and fuck things up

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    smiple answer us guy are dicks some times, but we live and learn and i've learnt now because i've been burnt...now i try and go for the nice ones, but us nice guy are alittle shy....just like some of the nice girls

    its a catch 22 eh
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    and so....only meet the slags, i get what you're sayin.

    i think once in a while you have to take a risk when you know a girl is nice, and make the first move.

    im quite shy but i think the attitude when it comes to blokes who are shy is to make the first move, but still not be pushy.

    Sometimes i wonder though, even though guys say they would like more girls to make the first move, whether they actually mean it

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes!!! blokes would...well i would...but its what u mean by 1st move

    Us guys..even the shy ones want some control...(we only have little egos.)

    but i'm sure girl don't like lowing them self to ask a guy out, not sure why?

    how wonderful life is, does the funnyest little things to you, i've not ask a girl out in a while, but had them or their mates ask me

    i missed out on one of life great lessons by not asking lots of girls out when i was younger, now it come back 2 bite me on the ass

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, but one of the things iv learnt about guys is that sometimes if a girl makes the first move, even if they really like them they think, uh they're making the first move and jump to conclusions like "uh she wants a serious relationship, she's too clingy"

    honestly do they not think we have a shred of independence or restraint.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    right now i'd love a "clingy girl", got 2 be better then the girl that in my life now, but she not even my gf and she still in my head

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ist that the girl that wont leave her bloke for you.

    i know loads of girls like that and she's just messing with your head, even if she does have feelings for you she wont leave him, its a security thing and she's probably too involved by the sound of it.

    YOu prove my point exactly, nice girls dont get the guys cause they're too stuck into the nasty girls even if they cant have them.

    Beside it was only a shag, welcome to the world of most females after a one night stand
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    shes with you not them so just chill hun it'll will be ok

    try an see it from her piont of view

    an u can look as long as u dont touch
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks Leese your so kind, well at least i'm learning about woman, i know she just messing with my head, but i wish i could tell her 2 f*** off, but i like her. i hate this weak heart of mine
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