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My ex husband (henceforth referred to as "wanker")

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
The wanker is refusing to give my son back after he went there for Christmas. What planet is the man on?! I have a residence order FFS!! :mad: Now I have to spend all day tomorrow fannying about at court, all because of that BOLLOCK!



I am pissed off.
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    JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
    What a twat. Sounds like you need a hitman.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well calm down before tomorrow and sort it out at court. If he has broken the rules of his visitation order thing then its slappy hands time for him............twat eh :mad:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    kermit, mr roll, time to send the boys in
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    phone the police the police, what he's done effectivly kidnap..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by twisted_trinity
    phone the police the police, what he's done effectivly kidnap..

    Nope, they won't do anything, they say it's a civil matter.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmm after the court.. punch him in the stomach for me... plz... don't forget meeeee

    it will all get solved... but plz... calm down... act just after the court
    :p

    seriously... good luck!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Miffy
    Nope, they won't do anything, they say it's a civil matter.

    Go to court and get it sorted, surley this must affect his visiting rights. Couldnt he now be made to have supervised visiting times ? not too clever on the law like, you need to speak to a solicitor/citizens advice or someone to find out exactly where you do stand.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rachie004
    When I was 12 I decided I didn't want to see my dad anymore and didn't have to

    lucky... I'm 17 and I have to see my dad... they are divorced now, but he still lives here :\ (not now, actually... he is sick, so he is @ mommy's home)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    now i underastand a previous thread!
    the guy will loose his visiting rights and you will get your son back and then ...he will give you hell!
    then after more fucking moronic behaviour he will end up in jail ...tell him this.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Does your son want to stay there at all?
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    Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
    Oh dear... Sad how you can never know people... :( Good luck (or whatever's needed) for tomorrow.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    how old is he. My brother went through this recentlym, but the courts told her she had to give my nephew back to my brother.
    Only now shes run away with him again, and hes corroberating her stories.
    Been a sad xmas for my brother.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What a twat, hope you get it sorted & that your boy is ok. It must be confusing for him.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fan-bloody-tastic. I have to wait until next Tuesday because the courts are closed tomorrow onwards and I can't get the application sorted out in time for today.

    So that gives wanker another week almost to drum all kinds of shit into my son's head.

    Beautiful.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This man's actions are utterly despicable.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by stargalaxy
    This man's actions

    He's CERTAINLY not worthy of that title.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *hugs hugely* Doesn't help much, but dude I'll be praying everything ok.
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    Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
    There has to be something you can do! What if there's an emergency?
    Do try the police again...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Christ almighty.

    Honestly, you're worth 439024839024839024 times more a parent than your other half is. You'll get it sorted, and you'll have the last laugh.

    Thinking of you. :(

    x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    how old's your son, miffy?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Miffy
    He's CERTAINLY not worthy of that title.
    Accepted.
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    littlemissylittlemissy Posts: 9,972 Supreme Poster
    :(

    I'm sorry to hear all this Miffy. As I can't offer any constructive advice I just wanna say that I hope it all works out for you (and your son)

    edited as had a spelling mistake
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Fiend_85
    *hugs hugely* Doesn't help much, but dude I'll be praying everything ok.
    Same goes for me. All the best.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by kaffrin
    how old's your son, miffy?

    He's just turned 7. And to answer someone's earlier question (can't remember who) about whether he wants to live with his dad, if you knew my ex you would probably feel pretty much the same way as I do, that you would hesitate to leave him in charge of a gerbil never mind a child. My heart is in my mouth when he goes to visit, never mind to LIVE!

    And as for my son, he clearly, as far as I'm concerned, showed his lack of a proper understanding of the whole situation a few weeks ago when he told me he'd like us all - me, Mr M, my ex, and all of my children - to live together in one big house.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Miffy
    He's just turned 7.

    hmmm. still quite impressionable then, really.

    it's a crappy situation to be in, but i really think the best you can do is keep your head and do everything by the book, and then you will show yourself as a good, capable mother, while the evil ex will inevitably show himself as being unreliable and quite clearly mental.

    i think your son is old enough to appreciate that, even if it's not totally clear to him atm.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't know why ex's do this. It's not like it's going to do them any favours in the long term, especially if they have already been through court to arrange contact.

    The police are really useless in these circumstances. I hope you get it all sorted soon.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Joolyknockers
    The police are really useless in these circumstances. I hope you get it all sorted soon.

    Sometimes they are, sometimes they're not.

    Up here they do something, because I know my next door neighbour had his kids for the weekend once and his ex called the police and said he'd abducted them, y'know, as you do of a Saturday afternoon when you're bored, and there were two police cars outside trying to get the kids!!

    Well, I mean the CARS weren't trying...oh you know what I mean.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Joolyknockers
    I don't know why ex's do this.
    Vindictiveness?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by stargalaxy
    Vindictiveness?

    I think it is. In my experience they don't actually want the child living with them 24/7, the ex is just throwing their weight about and they usually bring the child back when they decided they have had enough and want to go to the pub instead.
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