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BillieTheBotBillieTheBot Posts: 8,721 Bot
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Is it normal not to feel depressed all the time?

Cos last week I was always wanting to hurt myself, and for the first time actually did, but this week I havent down at all- Ive just felt really tense. Me mum seeing my cuts didnt change my feelings- I felt just as bad the next day- but I feel different.

Should be grateful really, but Im buggered if I know whats going on anymore.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i know what you mean, sometimes im really really depressed and crying and stuff, and the next day im okay. its weird.... i would consider myself to be depressed, but some days im fine, and i manage to convey fineness to most people.

    sorry, not much help, i just kinda know how you feel.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not at all strange <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    That's what's so weird about it... suddenly everything can go all pear-shaped for no apparent reason.
    It's strange to feel that way... it's like you can't really believe in feeling good so you spend all the time waiting to feel bad again. The way to break the cycle is to just enjoy the time when you do feel good... a lot of the problem is psychological, especially seeing as at the time feeling bad feels 'good'.
    Talk about weird!
    Just try to enjoy feeling good right now. it's really odd when your body starts doing these weird things and you don't know what's going on.
    Hang in there <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont so much feel bad about feeling good, I just dont understand it. Depression is supposed to be long periods of sadness, but Ill feel down for like 8 or 9 days out of a fortnight, feel tense the rest of the time, and then be alright again for three weeks or more. Its like a cycle- depressed/tense/alright- and I dont get it at all.

    I just feel so helpless, as if my body wont let me be one thing or another- I feel like I need to see a doc, then Im alright, so I cant! Oh well, whatever will be will be, I spose.

    Oh yeah, love the Ivansievic pic! Shame he had to beat Rafter mind....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think its alright to feel like that. I know i do for a lot of the time, though the trick is to put on the happy face to people you don't want to get into talking with about it! Mind you i'm a right bastard to my parents!! But hopefully you just grow out of it.
    Hurting yourself is not a clever way to sort things out, but it works for me sometimes, so i don't think it's REALLy that bad. Or maybe thats coz i do it? its difficult. probably regret the scars later?

    Depression is a VERY strong word. I think moodiness and unsatisfaction wit yourself is more of the problem, which is what I'm finding at the moment.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hurting yourself is bad and not ok at all, and I do it too but still realise I shouldnt! If u r sad enough to do that then it is serious wether its constant or not. It sounds to me like u r having mood swings, I get this except mine go from hyper active, to suicidal, to manic, to anxious etc etc lmfao. Go to your docter and have a chat, its obviously bothering u and hurting yourself is a problem in itself. Hope things look up a bit soon <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Kermit:
    I just feel so helpless, as if my body wont let me be one thing or another- I feel like I need to see a doc, then Im alright, so I cant! Oh well, whatever will be will be, I spose.

    i know what you mean. i feel really crap one minute, but i feel too bad to go and explain it to a doctor. and then when im okay again, i dont see the point as i wouldnt be able to explain it very well. anyway, apathy wins in the end. and i just carry on my little cycle..
    "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by lolly:
    Hurting yourself is bad and not ok at all, and I do it too but still realise I shouldnt! If u r sad enough to do that then it is serious wether its constant or not. It sounds to me like u r having mood swings, I get this except mine go from hyper active, to suicidal, to manic, to anxious etc etc lmfao. Go to your docter and have a chat, its obviously bothering u and hurting yourself is a problem in itself. Hope things look up a bit soon <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    i get that a lot as well lolly, only i can never feel happy or content in my mood swings, which is why i probly have a problem

    kermit, as u can see ure not alone in feeling this way, so no ure not abnormal <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">. i also think its normal for u too feel buggered for not knowing whats going on (yeh not v reassuring i know).

    i guess i do what most people do - fake happiness to the people who i'd rather didnt know about stuff.

    and although depression is supposed to be long periods of sadness, no-one has ever really said that it has to be constant sadness. i have read about cases where it swings as often as every 3 or 4 days.

    hope that helps a bit anyway, hang in there and keep in touch xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know what you mean.
    I don't think Depression has to be conastant. I don't know who makes up the stupid 'regulations' (probably someone who felt fit as a fiddle through their whole life), but there really isn't such a common rule.
    I would say that it is more the unpredictability. Feeling awful a lot, but not all, of the time and suddenly having these downward lurches.
    I mean, either way, whether you suffer from clinical Depression or just feeling depressed, it's fine. The way you feel is the way you feel, and no-one can be happy or sad constantly.
    Maybe focusing on trying to keep your spirits up (not that that's easy, by a long stretch) rather than whether you fit a category. At the end of the day, it really doesn't make a difference anyway. No doubt the doctor'll give you some anti-Ds if you want them, and if you don't then it makes no difference anyway.

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