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my dad has cancer

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hi. yesterday my dad was told her has a brain tumour. this is a real shock to me and i dont know wot to do or much about them so if u know anything about them or u have been someone who has had one but has been cured or knows someone with one please will u tell me more. also if u know any types of cures. i dont know..anything u think will help.

i do not know wot to do. i am constantly crying and upset and im so tired but all i want to do is to make my dad better. please tell me anything u know.

thankyou warped.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im really sorry to hear that. My friends brother had a brain tumour and had surgery and is now living a normal life...there is hope yet <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    Im not an expert in this area, infact I dont know much about it at all but I do hope that your dad is ok and I hope u also no theres a lot of support here if u need it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Brain tumors affect someone because they grown, and because the brain is inside the skull, pressure builds up and affects the nerves in the brain. They can start within the brain, or can spread from cancers elsewhere in the body.

    Depending on the type of tumor and how soon it has been diagnosed affect the outlook, but often surgery can completely remove them which causes the patient no further problems. Of course there is a down side if it's a very serious one which could lead to permanent brain damage.

    I'm sure you and your family will get lots of support from your doctor who will be able to answer your questions more specifically. Good luck and like Lolly says, we'll give you all the support we can here <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    loads of my friends have died from cancer, but loads have survived. my geography teacher at school had a brain tumor and he survived it, then he got another 1 and survived that 2.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am soo soo sorry for you warped. (((hugs))) I dont really know a lot about cancer but these days it doesnt mean a death sentance, there is hope yet i promise. Good Luck and best wishes Lxxx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im not sure cancer is the same as a tumour... if it's just a tumour im sure it would be removed without too much harm to your dad and he would make a recovery

    there is a chance of recurrence, with many of these things, but try not to worry too much. talk to your doc, talk to your dad too and your family will be there for you <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Along with all of is here at the site of course ((((HUGS))))) <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Lxxx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    i dont know very much about brain tumors, but i know how awful it is when someone close to you has cancer so im sending you a BIG HUG!!

    My friends cousin had a brain tumor and shes absloutely fine now, so there must be lots of hope for your dad.

    Id advise you to speak to your doctor and find out as much as you can about your dads case so you know how serious it is.

    I dont think there's a lot you can do apart from stay strong to support your dad and offer him all the support he needs to get through this.

    Hope everything works out for you and your dad, let us know ok?
    Big love,
    S&S xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx for ur replys.

    the thing is ive been told its unlikely they can operate cus its in his head and messing about up there is very dangerous.i think they will do radiotherapy but i do not know wot this is....do any of you?

    i am trying to stay strong but inside im really hurting. im doing as much for my family as possible but wen im on my own i keep breaking down into tears. do you think this is silly? i am trying to be positive but i keep thinking of bad things that will happen. i dont know wot to do wiv myself.ive been trying to keep myself busy to get my mind off it all.

    please reply.
    thanx warped!

    Since i was born i started to decay. Nuthin ever ever goes my way.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru

    instead of us hazarding guesses as to treatments, maybe try searching on the internet for reputable sources, doctors etc, who know what they're talking about? i know radiotherapy tries to shrink the tumour, id probably be misleading if i tried to comment further though, i know there are health sites out there which will give you better information than we can about this.

    as for whether crying is silly, i definitely think its normal! most people would cry in your situation. its a natural reaction to something like this. however, thinking the worst isnt going to help you, you need to have hope and dont think that this is it, the end, etc. prepare yourself for the worst maybe, if it looks like thats a possible/probable outcome of this, but dont give up hope, a positive attitude always helps with illnesses like this.

    good luck warped, and i hope he gets better <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (((warped))), how old are you if u dont mind me asking?

    Is the tumour benign (non life threatening and NOT cancer), or malignant (which is life threatening and cancerous)?

    You've mentioned 'cancer' in your posts so i guess it's the latter.

    I can feel your pain, my Dad died (cancer) when i was 18.

    Cancer can be terminal (leading to death <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; ), or it can be controlled (prolonging life) and even cured. It all depends on how far the cancer has developed, whether metastasis has occurred (spread to other parts of the body).

    Cancer, in the case of a tumour, is a just a load of cells gone AWOL. The cells in the tumour grow uncontrollably, unlike the cells in the rest of our body. Eventually, these cells effect the functioning of the 'normal' cells which make up our organs.

    Cancer in itself does not harm, the harm occurs when it stops the bodies vital organs doing their job.

    Ask your mum for more information on your Dads illness and do a search on the web.

    Cancer is very unpredictable. Mortality rates for certain forms are high. Some people seem to respond well, others dont. Radiotherapy is a high energy beam that 'zaps' the cancerous cells in the tumour on your Dads brain. Your Dad may feel a bit ill after treatment. It may shrink the tumour, hopefully it will get rid of it, but it may do little <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; .

    How is your Dad coping? Be strong for him. Of course it's ok to cry by yourself but share your pain with others (as you have done on here). Talk to your mum or any close family member. The best way to help you Dad is to just be there for him and your family. Try not to be down all the time. You still have your Dad now and thats the most important thing <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; .

    It's gonna be hard and be prepared for all outcomes as anything can happen. But you *will* be ok.

    Please please keep us posted.

    Edited cos there were far too many sad faces in my post!

    [This message has been edited by Sid (edited 11-07-2001).]
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