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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
For the last few months I have started to feel really down. I thought it was because I wasn't doing anything and I was bored. But I've started to feel miserable all the time. Well when I'm with my friends I get giddy to cover up my problems! You've all seen it on here. NOBODY, knows my problems and how I feel inside and now it's getting difficult to cover up!

When I'm alone I feel more depressed and I feel worse when there is nothing on TV. Is it just boredom or depression? I took the online test and got a 48. What should I do?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hello my name is matt im 17 and im new on here so ull have to bear with me. from ur message it seems that u only feel the way u do when u have nothing to do so it could just be boredom but if u r worried about it it is probably best to consult ur g.p. and let him look into it ok.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You do cover it up so well Mark, as many of us do. It really does help to talk about it & tell people rather than internalise, but it's so important to tell people who aren't going to say things like "buck your ideas up" or "you've got nothing to worry about".

    I suppose it could be boredom, but with a score of 48 I would doubt it.

    What is your GP like? Do you get on with him/her?

    If this feeling carries on, no matter what you do, the sooner you see someone about it, the sooner you'll feel better. I know that's easier said than done.

    You could have a look at http://www.depressionalliance.org they have a board similar to this one & Luka has recommended people to that site in the past.

    If you've read my moaning post you'll know that I'm on my way down again, but I'm determined not to go too far this time b4 I get help. I didn't do anything last time & it took me over a year to come back up again. Don't make the same mistake, I certainly won't (I hope).

    j9



    [This message has been edited by j9 (edited 18-01-2001).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think I started to feel depressed when I got muggeed cause it brought back everything that happened when I was at school as well as other things.

    I have no idea what my GP is like cause I haven't been for about 10 years <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; I don't know if it is boredom but I do feel worse when I'm bored and thats why I come on here and try and cheer myself up.



    Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    U must b pretty healthy if u avent seen ur gp in 10 years!

    I think u shud tell ur gp whats botherin u, then they can suggest necesarry steps to makin urself feel better.

    My depression started off as what u described (not sayin u got depression but its a possiblity)

    I just left it coz i was too scared, and it spiraled out of control until i was on the verge of suicide.

    Don't let it get that bad.

    The more sand that escapes through the hourglass of time, the clearer we should be able to see through it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi, well i posted here a while ago (quizzing your ideas of sex ed!) and since then, things have been a bit pants in my life.
    I've been reading a lot of posts by other people, but never felt that i had anything worth saying (hence no advice from me for a while) until i came across people talking about depression.
    I have always been a big fan of the ostrich approach ( hand in sand, nothing wrong with me etc) until now when i feel i am at the point of no return. I always thought depression was something that happened to other people - and it did to a lot of my friends, so much so that i felt i was driving them to it!
    I've never felt suicidal and i don't i just feel hopeless and helpless. I've always had the impression that everyone else has worse probs them me -which they do.
    In june i graduate i have very important exams coming up and a lot of expectation on me, all my life i have done things to please other people and now i feel a failure because i can't do it anymore.
    I guess maybe i feel so low because i am stressed, i look at other people who seem really happy and i could never imagine being like that.
    To be honest i don't know what i am trying to say, but you know sometimes you just need to write stuff down, the thing is i used to have an eating disorder, which i have had under control for about 5 years, but now all the same feelings of disgust for myself and for food are resurfacing and i am a bit scared of what is going on in my head.
    sorry, i haven't made much sense.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mark if you feel uneasy about seeing your gp, which really is the first step, you should try as J9 said http://www.depressionalliance.org I have used it in addition to this site for support, and in addition to the forum boards there is a chat room which you can come into and talk about as much or as little as you feel comftable with, we are a caring bunch there, just like here. If you want to go in there with someone you know, give me a pm and I'll show you round <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">. You could also attend a DA meeting I'm sure there is one in your area, only if you live in the middle of the back and beyond of nowhere there isn't a group, but I guess you are quite a metropolitan area and a group will be abundant, it's a support group in which fellow depressives get together talk about how the day's been, and help out if they can.

    The above though should be done in addition to consulting your GP, he will probably prescribe an anti-depressant and as it sounds in your case bought on by a traumatic incident / incidents in your life arrange for some counselling.

    Depression is an evil illness it knows no boundries, and is terribly debillitating. Sadly it can't always be cured, but controlled, but IMHO I think with a course of Anti-d's and therapy you can and will beat this, if there's anything else I can do to help, you got my yahoo, icq numbers, and my e-mail address is posted above.

    Take it easy friend
    Luk

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I thought everything was starting to go well for me for a change this past week until this morning ( http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum22/HTML/000468.html ). I've just been so fed up and depressed all day and at work I had a face on me. I've tried to talk to my friends about the court case and the answer I got was either "ha ha" or "unlucky".

    I finally spoke to my mum about the way I have been feeling and she replied with "Were moving soon so you can put it all behind you" and that was all the support I got from her. She just blames it on my age but my own mother has no idea what is going on in my head.

    I left school almost 2 years ago and I still have nightmares about the bullying I had and now I have nightmares about getting mugged.

    I just feel like I want to explode! I have so much angerand tension built up inside me that one day it could be so overwhelming that I lose control and do something I may regret.

    Anyway I'm going to make an appointment with my GP in the morning whether my mum likes it of not cause I'm almost 18 and its my life and I will lead it as I want!

    Thank you everyone for listening!!!!


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ((((((((((mark))))))))))

    i think u r makin the rite desicion seein ur gp, parents jus don't understand sumtimes do they?!?!

    ask ur gp to put u in touch with a councellor, they can try to get to the root of ur problems and help find ways for u to deal with it.

    I hope everything works out 4u

    ((((((mark)))))

    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for the hug drifter <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I spoke to my mum again and I'm definately gonna call a GP tomorrow and see what advice he has to offer.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Broken Heart:
    I spoke to my mum again and I'm definately gonna call a GP tomorrow and see what advice he has to offer.


    And if you don't get the answer that you're happy with, then go to another GP.

    Sorry I've only just read this Mark, I'll be around tomorrow when you need to talk.

    {{{{{{{{{{{Mark}}}}}}}}}}}}

    I think you really need to talk it over with a counsellor.

    j9

    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by j9:
    And if you don't get the answer that you're happy with, then go to another GP.

    Sorry I've only just read this Mark, I'll be around tomorrow when you need to talk.

    {{{{{{{{{{{Mark}}}}}}}}}}}}

    I think you really need to talk it over with a counsellor.

    j9



    My mum said there is a new GP and he's really nice! I hope so!! Thanks everyone for the advice!! Its all very much appreciated!


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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    well ive already talked to you bout this but
    (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((mark))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) just coz i think you need a hug! <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    hope your doc is some help, better than most of mine anyway! <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Mark}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
    I'm sorry to hear things are getting difficult, as I said to you outside the academy, you know where I will be if you need to talk, Cause I many not fully understand the way you feel I do have a pretty good idea.

    You are making a brave step by seeing your gp, he will possably put you an anti depressant which does not mean you will be on it for life which I know is a big fear many sufferes of depression first have, A-D's are generally given as a short term treatment. He/she will probably arrange for some sort of therapy (such as counselling) to help you come to terms with the traumas you have suffered, and learn to cope with them in ways that won't result in further depression. I can assure you it won't be easy but the rewards outwiegh the drawbacks.

    If you need further information Depression Alliance has a vast range of information including contacts for their drop in support groups, exellent message boards and a chat room where you can meet other suferes who will be able to offer some support and advice. If you want to go have a look sometime please do, if you see Riverwide around either posting or in the chat room give me a shout.

    Take care mate, if you need anything you know where I am.
    Al

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see

    [This message has been edited by LUKA (edited 30-01-2001).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks Al! I looked at that site last time yousuggested it but never actually made any posts. Maybe I should.

    I made an appointment to see my GP for next thursday and my mum is going to phone victim support tomorrow to get a counsellor.

    Hopefully after the court case is over I can start to look forward and enjoy my life!!!! Thanks Emma (GFM), Al(Luka), Janine(J9) and David (turtle) and everyone else who has helped me! I don't know what I would have done if it wasn't for you guys! I never realised how many people suffered from depression!

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    [This message has been edited by Broken Heart (edited 30-01-2001).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Broken Heart:

    I made an appointment to see my GP for next thursday and my mum is going to phone victim support tomorrow to get a counsellor.

    Good to hear this Mark, Good luck !!!
    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Mark}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    Take care
    Al

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No problme Mark...glad our past difference's have been resolved (over the useless posts thing), and that I can be there to help someone i would call a friend. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; hope you're life improves, I'm glad thesite can be here for you.

    I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I went to the GP today and he has given me a phone number to make an appointment with a councellor.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Broken Heart:
    I went to the GP today and he has given me a phone number to make an appointment with a councellor.


    How does that make you feel Mark?

    You'd best get on that phone 1st think Mark, or else I'll be cross <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    We've had a letter, the family psych is gonna be contacting us within 3 months lol.

    Can't do anything about my problem till after that, but I'll get it sorted if you get yourself sorted, promise <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Good luck Mark.

    j9



    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    sorry for making you seem un-depressed at the docs today mark <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; well its my mission to make you have the best birthday and the best week ever next week! <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    (((((((((((((((mark)))))))))))))))

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont know if youve noticed but i dont really come in health too much,

    I had no idea you felt this way mark! I really hope things get better for you

    ((((((((((((marky)))))))))))
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I didn't really know either! I don't always read all the posts in health (((((((((((mark))))))))) i hope you're feeling better. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    All this GP stuff,sorry but I dont agree,I think you should speak to someone who actually relates to you,just because the GP may be a qualified peopl;es person doesnt mean anything.why do you cover up with yr friends,you should speak to them,they are yr friends,there must be someone who understands you.also your name intrigues me,i've seen many posts by you and they arent very uplifting,what are you broken hearted about.would you care to share it with us?I dont think yr depression is about boredom,i think it dwells deeper into it than that.I think you feel that you are not liked,then why else would you have nothing to do,you dont go out even when you say you have friends.yr self conscious,yr scared/feel no one likes you,you feel unwanted and i also feel that somethings happened in the past and yr still living in that phase,move on-correct me if i'm wrong.anyway get back to me soon.I'm seriously worried about you.spek to you soon.
    love CHEEKy
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    All this GP stuff,sorry but I dont agree,I think you should speak to someone who actually relates to you,just because the GP may be a qualified peopl;es person doesnt mean anything.why do you cover up with yr friends,you should speak to them,they are yr friends,there must be someone who understands you.also your name intrigues me,i've seen many posts by you and they arent very uplifting,what are you broken hearted about.would you care to share it with us?I dont think yr depression is about boredom,i think it dwells deeper into it than that.I think you feel that you are not liked,then why else would you have nothing to do,you dont go out even when you say you have friends.yr self conscious,yr scared/feel no one likes you,you feel unwanted and i also feel that somethings happened in the past and yr still living in that phase,move on-correct me if i'm wrong.anyway get back to me soon.I'm seriously worried about you.spek to you soon.
    love CHEEKy

    Who the F do you think you are talking to a respected member of the comunity like that? Firstly with any signs of depression you should always consult a gp, who can start initial treatment and send a patient on a referal for more treatment in this case it has been recomended that Broken goes for some counselling, he has been through quite a nasty incident which he needs to shed, but I suppose you haven't read the whole post through have you cheeky ?.

    Mark you are doing the right thing, so don't listen to this Cheeky git. {{{{{{{{Mark}}}}}} stick with things, they can only get better <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.

    Cheeky if you think you're gonna get away with trying to be controversial, I suggest you keep it away from the health boards.

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey Luka dont let this person get u donw...he/she clearly hasnt got a clue and has never been there themselves. Well said though, I totally agree with u.
    (((Mark))) I hope things brighten up for you <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Youse all just dont understand me though,surely what I've said is not all wrong.I didnt say to stop taking the medication but whereas talking I dont think a GP will any good.That gp wouldnt know the person and will say the advice that sounds most wise and reasonable,he wont be able to totally relate to the person co she wont know them.What have I said thats so insensitive and as amatter of fact I have been there before and the medication only helped a bit but talking it out was the best and the gp was no help at all.Now dont reply saying well the medication has made you sick in the mind now because I've not-doesnt m,atter now,i dont have to explain myself,just let me say what i want-I am entitled

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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    CHEEKy, you dont have a clue.

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    Youse all just dont understand me though,surely what I've said is not all wrong.I didnt say to stop taking the medication but whereas talking I dont think a GP will any good.That gp wouldnt know the person and will say the advice that sounds most wise and reasonable,he wont be able to totally relate to the person co she wont know them.What have I said thats so insensitive and as amatter of fact I have been there before and the medication only helped a bit but talking it out was the best and the gp was no help at all.Now dont reply saying well the medication has made you sick in the mind now because I've not-doesnt m,atter now,i dont have to explain myself,just let me say what i want-I am entitled


    You are making sweeping assumptions based on supposition nowhere did broken state he was on medication to stop or otherwise. He saw his GP who put him intouch with a counsellor to help him address the issues that have bought this wonderful young man to his current situation. Before such generalisations are made and advice is dispenced (as good intentioned as it may be) may I suggest you read a thread carefully. People posting in the health board are asking for advice for situations that are of sensitive nature and require thought before a post is made. I am pretty sure most of the regulars who post here would agree that with this particular forum (the health board) that a reply is not just bashed out, thought is applied and carefull reading and understanding of the issue is first applied. Please bear that in mind.




    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    All this GP stuff,sorry but I dont agree,I think you should speak to someone who actually relates to you,just because the GP may be a qualified peopl;es person doesnt mean anything.

    Cheeky you haven't got a clue about me! For one a GP knows more than you do! A GP will listen to you and they will know if its a hormone, stress or whatever problem. They will be able to refer you to a councellor if its a mental problem or put you on medicatioon if its a hormone problem.
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:

    why do you cover up with yr friends,you should speak to them,they are yr friends,there must be someone who understands you.

    I don't cover it up with them! I just choose not to tell them because when i am with my friends I want to have a good time and forget my problems
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:

    also your name intrigues me,i've seen many posts by you and they arent very uplifting

    And yours are?
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    I dont think yr depression is about boredom,i think it dwells deeper into it than that.I think you feel that you are not liked,then why else would you have nothing to do,you dont go out even when you say you have friends.yr self conscious,yr scared/feel no one likes you,you feel unwanted

    Didn't you say earlier that only people who know me can help with my problem? Do you know me? Do you know about my past? I'm not scared! I don't go out with friends because I'm normally too tired in the week cause of work and college. But I do have allot of friends!
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:

    i also feel that somethings happened in the past and yr still living in that phase,move on

    Obviously you haven't read my posts cause you would know what has happened in the past and what I have to look forward to next week. But there will be somebody I care a great deal about who will be there to hold my hand <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    get back to me soon.I'm seriously worried about you.spek to you soon

    ROFLOL you don't even know me and there are lots more people I'd talk to before I talk to you. My GP being one!
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    Youse all just dont understand me though

    and you don't understand me!
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    surely what I've said is not all wrong

    99.9% of it is!
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    I didnt say to stop taking the medication

    Again, you haven't read my posts cause you would know that I'm not on medication.
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    That gp wouldnt know the person and will say the advice that sounds most wise and reasonable,he wont be able to totally relate to the person co she wont know them.

    Again your not my GP or my friend and you know f**k all about me and therefor you are in no situation to give me this kind of advice!
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    Now dont reply saying well the medication has made you sick in the mind now.

    read the post properly I AM NOT ON MEDICATION
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    i dont have to explain myself,just let me say what i want-I am entitled.

    I never said you wasn't entitled to your opinion and I'm entitled to mine but I am not going to lower myself to your level!

    A bit of advice when you want to take somebody on in an argument on TheSite get your facts right



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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh and thanks for sticking up for me Al, Emma and Lolly! You guys are great <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Broken Heart:
    oh and thanks for sticking up for me Al, Emma and Lolly! You guys are great <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    I would have stood up for you If I'd been here Mark, but sadly my computer was sick <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    I haven't been here since early friday cos of that & other stuff <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    I haven't read many of this new guy's posts, but I'll have a look soon, maybe he/she is a troll?

    j9



    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
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