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Cheating!!!!
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I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and i truely do love him to bits, however i am finding myself stuck in a rut!! I am getting bored of the same routine everyday and want some more excitement!! I recently went to a club and actually ended up sleeping with someone else, although it meant nothing and i feel totally dirty!! i love my boyfriend so much, but it can't be good if i am finding myslef cheating on him, and have been tempted to on more than one occasion!
i don't want to end it, i mean why end a good thing there is nothing wrong with our relationship we get on well!! but i want to exeriment with new people, what should i do??
i don't want to end it, i mean why end a good thing there is nothing wrong with our relationship we get on well!! but i want to exeriment with new people, what should i do??
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Try starting out again, making the time to go out for a nice meal/cinema/theatre/picnic or something, make the time to spend an evening in just the two of you. If youve found that youve been neglecting your friends a bit then let the two of you spend time with them, apart. We tried all those aswell as new things in the bedroom too toys, undies, different positions/places you no the sort of thing. But dont give up, try not to go looking for the excitment somewhere else, but if you continue to then maybe youve got to face that the relationship just isnt going to work.
good luck!
If you want to experiement with new people then the only route is to leave the current cause it's unfair to consistently cheat to experience new kicks. Sorry if I sound a bit harsh but, am kinda, feeling the same vibe as I think Kermit picked up on.
Malt Munk x
Agree with you there bud . Maybe I'm just in a harsh mood though . Maybe he's not aware of any problems? I mean, although I enjoy experimenting and stuff,I'm a sod for routine. After so long together, ad so much routine, if it changes can be abit scary knowing you thought you were going on good...and he might guess the real reason for her sudden need to change their relationship
It obviously isn't a good thing or you wouldn't have cheated and been tempted numerous times. Something must be wrong with your relationship... you said yourself "I am finding myself stuck in a rut".
What you should do is be honest with yourself first and foremost. You aren't happy so stop pretending.
i went out got drunk and slept with someone else & felt so guilty after, but i found myself doing it more often so i ended it and never looked back im happy sleeping around.
But now your saying don't dump him, but what if he finds out, it will kill him!!
Theres nothing wrong with sleeping around per-se` but there is if youre convincing your boyfriend that youre faithful and that your relationship is monogamous and actually going somewhere.
Youre not excited by him anymore, and while its not his fault and you still may have feelings for him, youre not right for him, and hes not right for you, otherwise you wouldnt even WANT to sleep with anyone else, let alone go and really do it.
finish with him and do your own thing for a while.
really unhappy you love him and made a mistake he will be more hert if you finish with him or tell him. it happend to me once i found out wish i just never found out .
I dont know if thats anything like what youre going through, but if it is, then thats how I dealt with it.
Good luck
Malt Munk xx
just a thought x