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He isnt your Father
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Assume you knew someone and found out that the person they believed to be their biological Father in fact wasnt. The fella they had called Dad for the last 23 years is not the real Father. She has not got a clue and theres no way the parents are gonna tell her. What do you do ?
Tell her the truth that he aint her real dad
or
Say nothing ?
This is real life, its not hypothetical and its advice for a good friend of mine.
Tell her the truth that he aint her real dad
or
Say nothing ?
This is real life, its not hypothetical and its advice for a good friend of mine.
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It's not my place to say anything and only by pure misfortune did I find out in the first place.
I just wouldnt like to be the person to tell them and think the Mother should have told them a long time ago.
Im not sure what she intends doing about this, am a bit worried about the girl in question if she finds out.
How will she feel about it ? Will it totally destroy her ? or do you think at first it will really upset her but she will be glad to be told ?
You've just got to wait and see, and don't interfere.
Sorry i dont know if you have misunderstood me but this does not involve me. Its a good friend of mine and its within her family (I know the girl in question though). I shall not be saying anything.........however my friend is the one who is on the verge of speaking out.
If I can influence her of course i will.
It's just easier if I talk like it's you mate.
Reason is the mother fell pregnant witha kinda one night stand. Met someone straight after and he knew that she wasnt his and has brought her up as his own. (She knew the one night stand but wasnt going out with him or now, they met up one night at the pub and the rest is history)
The Mother didnt want to tell her family that she'd slept with this guy on this one night stand so when the new fella came along they said it was his.
The fella has took her on as his own but now the marriage has broke up. so this girl has a biological father that she knows nothing about, the man she sees has her father has a new wife and family and the mother is also remarried.
Hope that made sense :eek2:
then my aunt was like wow, mindfuck, what about all the stuff i want to know about him?
so personally i'd go with telling, cause if the truth comes out when she's in her 50s, and by then it's too late to do owt about it, she mght be really pissed off.
then again she could live her whole life without knowing and be perfectly happy.
I know that dispite this they still deserve to know, but I'm just trying to make you see things from a different light.