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Why is it Diffrent for BOYZ?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Can Sum1 please tell me why -

When a Boy has been with loadsa girls it is seen as a good thing. his mates congratulate him and it's like sum sort of "manly" <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">Thing!! No one looks badly on them and even thought they might get a rep it's never seen as ne thing bad

BUT when a girl does it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; it's a totally diffrent story.

BOyz, Gurlz, can u please fill me in on why this is???? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know exactly what you mean, but in my experience this has only happened when I was at school, me and my group of mates are a bit like the lads really though, we were very popular at school along with another group of girls, who wore loads of make up and thought they were gods gift to men, whereas me and my mates had a laugh with the lads and were always game for anything.

    I have slept with a lot of people and the only people and I dont get called a slag.

    I think its cos of my mates that i have though and the sort of people i hang around with, we dont think its big if you sleep with loads of people but we pat each other on the back when we get off with someone, but we dont sleep with the guys we are good mates with.

    Ive noticed also that when you sleep with a guy and youve had a few of his close mates as well thats a common case where a girl gets called a slag because shes been through em all.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I got this from the oxford dictionary on

    SLAG
    Brit. informal, derogatory a promiscuous woman.

    As you can see it doesnt say a prmiscuous person it says a premiscuous WOMAN.

    Wonder if theres a name for a premiscuous man or doesnt that exist?


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yep, I totally understand what your saying. I'm still at school AND it's one of those 'posh' public sschools in essex. With the blonde brigade and the Gucci crew etc etc.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh god my crew is more like the men that are women crew.

    And dont worry I am a woman, well a lady, as a lot of people on here will tell you, mind you a few of them will tell you im not a lady after some of the pics ive sent em.
    hehehehe

    Is it an all girls school you go to?

    Id guess that some of them are very bitchy.

    Not that girls who dont go to all girls schools arent cos i know some right bitches form m yold school.

    [This message has been edited by Spirit (edited 25-12-2000).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no, It's a mixed school. And yeah They can Be EXTREMELY bitchy, I'm just glad I'm friends with em.

    I think the whole bloky gurl thing is cool.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Funny how it doesn't matter where you go in the world, that double standard always exists. I suppose the answer lies in the thousands of years of history of women being treated as second class citizens.

    I doublt things are going to change much in the near future. However, I'd be curious to hear from some of the younger people here. Have you seen any changes happening yet? I think the comment about not getting called a slag because you are more "one of the boys" is interesting, and a good sign.

    Man, I can't wait for the day I can screw anyone I want and retain a decent reputation. Just a dream that won't come true....

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LondonGurl, which school is it? Is it Brentwood?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In my experience it's usually just down to the fact that some blokes like to think they can get as much sex as they want yet when a girl beats em at this game this mental projection is shattered.

    then there's the other school of thought, which is that blokes who call people slags are jealous/hypocritical bastards.

    Then there's the super-toff sociological argument which is that men have been brought up to 'conquor' women (hence all the back slapping at having shagged 5 girls in one night, etc) and thus some huge inferiority complex kicks in when a girl does the same.

    which ever one u choose we don't get put in too good a light, but personally i'm gonna have to go with the super-toff version.

    I'm actually really proud of that, came up with it on the spot and everything, fantastic. anyone care to ridicule me on this point?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i just noticed that the first theory and the third theory are kinda similar so just ignore the first one, it was a bit hap-hazard.

    Life: Quite intersting in parts, but no substitute for the real thing
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No, it's not Brentwood. But we play them in sport
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think the whole thing is stupid. Its true tho, a guy can have as much sex as he wants and its seen as a good thing. But if a girl has sex a lot, she's called a slut. Personally, I don't want to go out and just have sex all my life. I want to make sure i know the girl enough b4 we hop into bed. And if we do, i hope that it will last. And i will never cheat on a g/f.
    But if a girl gets called a slut, then why is a guy called "manly" as you said. It is really dumb!

    Normal? Why by normal? Especially when being wierd is so much fun.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    We can have as many girls as we want, and why, cause we r lads! lol.
    Sorry
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can relate to this one. I got myself a pretty bad name while I was at school, but unfortunatly I probably decerved it as I threw myself about and let myself get used. Its hard to get rid of a name once u r known as one and it tends to stick with u foreva, despite wether u change or not. I dunno why its ok for blokes to go sleeping around but girls cant get away with it. I think its og ta lot to do with the fact its usually the girls that do all the bitching.
    One thing that does really wind me up is peoples messed up ideas that all young mums r some sort of slag. Ive met a lot of people who treat me like that since bein pregnant, and it drives me up the wall.
    SOME PEOPLE R SO IGNORANT!
    Just needed to get that out lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thats a good point lolly, Ive noticed that too.

    I know a girl who had a steady boyfriend for 2 years at school and she got pregnant just b4 the summer and shewas then labelleda slag off all the girls who were shagging different blokes every night!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    thats pretty fucked up spirit.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Spirit:
    Thats a good point lolly, Ive noticed that too.

    I know a girl who had a steady boyfriend for 2 years at school and she got pregnant just b4 the summer and shewas then labelleda slag off all the girls who were shagging different blokes every night!


    It dont surprise me, girls can be such little bitches. A lot of girls said stuff behind my back but as soon as I saw them myself they would lick my arse and be really nice. All these big mouth bitches dont have the bollox to say it to your face...I just think to myself well like I value your oppinion anyway!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IN case you didnt realise, lads do get stuck with reputations. They get the reputation with the lads for being a "stud" or woteva. But we also get a bad rep with the ladies. As soon as you get one then you aren't gonna get very far with anymore females are you???
    Or has everyone missed out this little point?
    I have had 2 partners, both long term, so I dont have to worry, but you should hear some of the stuff that goes around my college about lads as well as girls.

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