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Will i find another guy???

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

Hey <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
Well as you know i'm Pregnant! I know this baby is gonna change the life of people&stuff! But will i eva find a guy that will want me&the baby?? I know it would be hard for the guy to except me having a baby so young, but i cant stay a single mum 4eva! A few guys have asked me out and i know what there after,but its when i tell them..its like "oh my god"! So anyone?
Love GrizzlyB <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Grizzlybear:

    Hey <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    Well as you know i'm Pregnant! I know this baby is gonna change the life of people&stuff! But will i eva find a guy that will want me&the baby?? I know it would be hard for the guy to except me having a baby so young, but i cant stay a single mum 4eva! A few guys have asked me out and i know what there after,but its when i tell them..its like "oh my god"! So anyone?
    Love GrizzlyB <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    grizzly, we all think that youre great, so im sure that guys will too.
    im trying to condense all this, coz otherwise id b writing pages and pages..
    basically, to guys, single mum=responsibility, because they are more likely to require a stable relationship, and have less time for them.
    and i know that all guys arent that shallow, but that's the general thing.
    HOWEVER, there ARE guys that this wont apply to, and they are, well, precious. and i know alot of people hate it when i do this, but im telling you what happened to me.
    a while ago, i was pregnant. and i was getting to know joe/tim/wilbur at the same time. and he swore to stick by me, and help me through it. and i know this sounds weird because im trying not to go far into it. but basically, i lost that baby. a few months later, i thought i was pregnant again. and tim said he would take care of me, and take care of the baby like it was his own. so what im trying to say is, there are good guys out there, if you look hard enough. and alot of the time, when youre not looking at all.
    my god, i read this and it makes no sense. so im posting it to see if anyone can make any.
    grizzly, basically, although things will be harder with a baby, there are still plenty of oppurtunities.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    of course guys will still like u!

    its just what ickle said, the responsibility thing. I'm sure if ne guy is worth having he wont mind <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is coming from a guy, BTW...

    Personally, I wouldn't go out with you. But I'm 16 and I couldn't cope with that kind of responsibilty.

    You will find that if you are looking for a guy that will support you all the time, you need to look at the older guys - 20+ i would imagine. the two years can often make a lot of difference.

    I also have a personal view on this, but I'm not gonna state it.

    I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i totally agree with icklemonster. there are some guys who would not like to get involved for the responsibility etc etc etc. but those aren't the guys that are worth it.
    im sure there are A LOT of nice men out there...just give it a bit of time. if they really love you...they will accept whatever that is attached to u too...your baby.
    if not...they might not love you as much and im sure you know what to do!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i totally agree with icklemonster. there are some guys who would not like to get involved for the responsibility etc etc etc. but those aren't the guys that are worth it.
    im sure there are A LOT of nice men out there...just give it a bit of time. if they really love you...they will accept whatever that is attached to u too...your baby.
    if not...they might not love you as much and im sure you know what to do!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't worry Grizzly, my step daughter had three kids when she met her guy (now they have 5!!)

    j9

    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    grizzlybear...heya i'm kate.
    Look i'm not in your position but seriously i think you'll be a great mum. Even if you keep the baby or not then your life still goes on...including blokes. Just watch yourself and make sure no otgher guys use you but treat you as you come, with or without baby.
    may i ask what did your mum say?

    Kat

    Good luck hunny!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you'll find another guy, whether or not you want them is going to be the question.
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