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So Close but yet So Far....

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Guys,

Do you think long distance relationships can stand the test of time?... I would really appreciate some opinions, thanks

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe. As you know i got a 'friend' whose 130miles away and I've know her 6 years and we still talk 3-4 times aweek.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How are things with that.. did you make any decision yet?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Annie:
    <STRONG>How are things with that.. did you make any decision yet?</STRONG>

    my girlfriend is in Lancaster at uni, and it is very hard. But hopefully we'll see it through.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would have thought that if both people are committed to making the relationship work and equally crazy about one another then surely it is not entirely impossible??? Or am I being too optimistic? We only get to see each other twice a month.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> So I guess I'm looking for success stories to give me some hope!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It can work! Right now I'm in a long distance relationship and it's the second one that I've had.
    The first one we were about three hours apart and I saw about once every other month. We wrote a lot of letters and called each other a lot (massive phone bills) but in some ways it was almost better because when we did see each other it was so special. We also got to know each others personalities really well since we had to do so much talking to make it work and couldn't do the normal dating things that aren't as communicative. We did eventually break up after a year and a bit but it wasn't for distance reasons- at that point we were in the same city again (year apart, about 4 months together)
    Then there's me and my current boyfriend. He was a friend before we started dating but now he's very far away (as I'm American studying in the UK for the year). We were only together for a month before I left Georgia and now I've been gone for 3 and some odd months. I'll see him once this year and then not again until July. It's very, very, very hard. But at the same time it feels very right. It's the best relationship I've ever been in and when people ask why I'm bothering with it I know that it's because he's worth it.
    So keep working at it! They're really hard but they are so often worth it!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my bro was in queens uni and his g/f was in scotland and they were together for bout 2 years <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Anything can work if you want it bad enough and if you put your mind to it! <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *jaded*

    doens't work, give up before u cause urself undue stress and pain

    *jaded*

    my $0.075
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I sort of had a relationship with an Australian for a year. I say "sort of" because I was young and naive; he wrote me love letters without any effort to actually make it a "relationship" - we dated for five weeks in Australia and then letters and calls for a year. we broke up in a colourful way <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">

    it can work, it works for some. but it needs a hell of a lot of maintenance.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    it can work. but you need a lot of dedication and trust.

    i went out with someone who lived 4 hrs away for 16 months, and the distance wasnt why we broke up. we saw each other about every fortnight, sometimes every week, at weekends. i dont see how it could work now, because i work at the weekends! (theres partly where my second LDR came unstuck, better sooner rather than later though, was never destined to last). it's an absolute nightmare because you want to be with them and you cant; just one small hug would make everything better. but as long as you keep the time you spend together special, and dont fall into a monotonous routine, then its not so bad. and keep in touch a lot with phone calls, emails, text messages, that sorta thing.

    you have to be pretty serious about them though to make it last!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Annie:
    <STRONG>How are things with that.. did you make any decision yet?</STRONG>

    ERM.... No well stumped on it really.
    have spoken to my 'friend' alot this week and am dame sure she aint just playing with me. she's quite down at the mo. me and my g/f are argueing alot and she dosent know about me and 'friend'. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to think about so far.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I hope they work! <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

    Im in a LDR now, and its running good for now...weve seen each other every week or so, but the problem is its painful when its time to go home.

    Love goes across boundaries and obstacles though <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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