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Should we be friends again?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My ex (the wanker who told me his friend had cancer to get sympathy) has been pming me and txtin me after i told him that i didn't want nefink to do wiv him.

So i'd bin goin about my business ignoring him @ college and not replyin to his messages when he pmed me today and said
hello u. When u see ***** say "hi" from me. I don't hate him, that's completely wrong, it was just a bad time b4. He's a good bloke, he must be if ur goin out wiv him. I know u don't wanna talk to me so i'll just continue having this one-way conversation. By the way, my nan's dying- they can't operate on the tumour so it'll just grow and grow until it becomes terminal and kills her

***** is the guy that i was going out with i didn't want to put his name, and he obviously thinks im stil goin out wiv him.

Neway, after all thats happened after all the lies, he comes running back to me. I know it sounds harsh but he chose to lie to me and all his other friends.

Now he puts this thing about his nan to make me feel guilty so i wil say "ok lets be friends" but i honestly don't know if its a load of bullshit.

So i duno wot to do. It makes me feel bad that he wants to talk bout his nan but he made his choice wen he lied to me and others repeatedly.

Should we b friends again?

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had a friend who used to lie to all of his friends, one by one he lost those friends but I kept on giving him chance after chance to prove himself. He never did.

    He lost me as a friend too & I realise that you can only give so much. Friendship has to be two sided, and based on trust. You can be part of his emotional support network, but unless you can believe him, you cannot be his friend.

    Cut your losses now Drifter & move on. He sounds like a psychic vampire to me. People like him can always find another sucker to feed on.

    Don't feel guilty about his Nan, she is an entirely separate person & if you know her, perhaps you could send her a "thinking about you" card every now & then, or maybe visit her. Again, there will be other people who he can talk to his Nan about.

    Good luck & don't accept his harrassment or emotional blackmail.

    j9



    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hes been a twat, sounds like some wanker who used to go to my college, Tom, fucking dickhead, always fuckin around on girls.

    worst part is he died when he was hit by a car a few months ago, got a tree planted in his memory by the back huts and no-ones had the guts to kick it over yet.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh man i just spend hrs on the phone cryin to ***** <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Then ***** sent the other guy a message sayin

    "leave her alone, or i'll come and kick ur ass"

    Then he sent one bak which ***** sent to me and it said

    "wot the fuck is ur problem? I was on the scene long before u & i know her much better than u. i wish u luck with the manipulative bitch but u won't kick my ass!"

    i feel like i am caught in the middle and i'd like to think i am not at all manipulative.

    j9 u r exactly rite, it is harrassment and emotional blackmail.

    That is why i just tried to move on in the first place, i knew what he was like, i said i wasn't going to have anything 2 do with him nemore, but he just kept harrassing me, not leavin me alone and i cudn't get away from it but now he has got to me and everything is collapsing again.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i cant atcually tell who is who if u do the ***** thing.

    i have no idea what ur on about
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    Oh man i just spend hrs on the phone cryin to ***** <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Then ***** sent the other guy a message sayin

    "leave her alone, or i'll come and kick ur ass"

    Then he sent one bak which ***** sent to me and it said

    "wot the fuck is ur problem? I was on the scene long before u & i know her much better than u. i wish u luck with the manipulative bitch but u won't kick my ass!"

    i feel like i am caught in the middle and i'd like to think i am not at all manipulative.

    j9 u r exactly rite, it is harrassment and emotional blackmail.

    That is why i just tried to move on in the first place, i knew what he was like, i said i wasn't going to have anything 2 do with him nemore, but he just kept harrassing me, not leavin me alone and i cudn't get away from it but now he has got to me and everything is collapsing again.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;


    All you can do is ask ***** to not tell you anything about the other guy. The last message that you should pass to the other guy via ***** is to let him know that you have told ***** that you want to be kept in the dark with regards to anything that is to do with him in any way.

    Anything the other guy says is likely to be said in order to get a reaction, which he has. If ***** starts to tell you something that the oter guy has told him, then just say, I don't care & I'd really rather not know. Then leave it at that.

    Good luck

    j9



    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks 4 all the help.

    I sent him an e-mail wishing the best for his nan and his family. I also said that i cant b there 4 him because when he lied to me he chose for me to not be in his life nemore.

    That was the general jist of it.

    If he replies i am not gonna write back. If he tries to lay on another guilt trip i will ignore him.

    It no longer affects me, I have found my inner calm. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.

    [This message has been edited by Drifter (edited 28-01-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    thanks 4 all the help.

    I sent him an e-mail wishing the best for his nan and his family. I also said that i cant b there 4 him because when he lied to me he chose for me to not be in his life nemore.

    That was the general jist of it.

    If he replies i am not gonna write back. If he tries to lay on another guilt trip i will ignore him.

    It no longer affects me, I have found my inner calm. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    Gl;ad to hear it Drifter



    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
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