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wot is love?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i thought that i was in love once but soon realise i werent , wen i use 2 say 2 me mate, 'im in love'
she would say 2 me ' no your not coz u dont no wot love is'

so sum1 please tell me wot love means and wot it really feels like to be in love

thanx
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sounds familiar...i thought i was in love. either the feeling went away or never appeared.

    I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OK I've never been in a relationship but I think you realise that you are "in love" 10-15 years into a relationship and you still feel the same about each other (good things <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">).

    Well thats my 10 cents worth <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    10-15 years!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    i think you can be in love a lot earlier than that, i felt like i was in love with my boyfriend after only about a month. even though it didnt last, because we changed and we kind of ruined it by our actions and how we treated each other, we still loved each other. even if the love doesnt last, i dont think you have to wait as long as you said mark to realise if youre in love or not.

    although its hard, after that long, might it not turn into more companionship than a passionate relationship? towards the end of my relationship it began to feel like that as it had lost all teh excitement. if we had been married we would have tried to work it out, i believe we could have done if we were both willing to talk and listen and make the effort to treat each other differently. as it was, it was just a relationship and i wanted to have other relationships, and i was getting itchy feet i guess! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; but we still loved each other.

    maybe what you said mark about the 10-15 years is if you find the perfect one for you, your soulmate, THE one.

    anyway ill stop my rambling. i think if you are in love (or this might be lust, i dont know <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; ) yuo want to be with them every minute of every day and miss them when you're not, you fnd them interesting, entertaining, and admire most things about them (the ability to see their faults comes later! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; ),you feel almost a physical loss when they go away, even for only a few minutes.

    im sure there are other things but ive said enough <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hey <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    LOVE, what is that?! You think your in love and you get your heartbroken! Leave love till your older..coz you dont want this messing up your life!! BUT do what want!
    Love GrizzlyB <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IMO(thanx JB btw <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; ) being "in love" is alot different to love. bcoz being in love is a feeling that can fade, whereas love is forever.
    falling in love is easy, i do it every day. with joe <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; its an amazing flip in your stomach, lightheaded, dizzy yet amazingly sighably happy feeling.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:


    i think if you are in love (or this might be lust, i dont know <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; ) yuo want to be with them every minute of every day and miss them when you're not, you fnd them interesting, entertaining, and admire most things about them (the ability to see their faults comes later! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; ),you feel almost a physical loss when they go away, even for only a few minutes.


    I was gonna write something exactly like this, but then I saw your post and thought hey I'll just paste yours hehe. I definitely agree with what you've said there, and I dont know whether its love or lust either.

  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    hehe copycat!

    and then you have the whole stomach flippy thing like ickle said, ive had that with soooo many blokes! lol..just ones i admired from afar, i used to be far too shy to do anything about it! :embarrassed:

    the things i described did disappear after a few months, but we still loved each other, and still had the heart-pulling feeling of seeing him pull away on the train... so maybe that was just either lust or the initial feelings of love. who knows?

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There are loads of different types of love, for example I love my parents in a different way to how I love David (Turtle). I think you know you love someone when you want to be with them all the time, when they're all you ever want to talk about, when you get all confused about being with them and when you love them for who they are and not what they are. I've never met David, but I love him for the way he is - how he speaks to me and the special felling/emotions we share. Last night he was late home from dinner and I got all confused <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; I didn't know anymore if I was meant to love him because we live so far apart, but after talking to him on ICQ I realised that you can't help yourself from loving a person - love is something which is just there, you can't be forced to love.

    David is the first person I've loved in this way, but I didn't have to be taught how do do it - it's a gift every human has inside them <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    You'll know straight away when you're truly in love because you get this 'loving feeling' <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    *Tara*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    heres a quote for you:

    "you know you are in love NOT when you know you want to live with them but when you know you CANNOT live without them"

    Respect
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Awwww city_boy thats sooo sweet,

    i know u probably didnt make it up but i think its true.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    lol my fault for giving lee a link to a 2 month old topic! sorry! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    anyway i just quoted some stuff from here in the new love topic, everyone go and read THAT!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Spirit II:
    Awwww city_boy thats sooo sweet,

    i know u probably didnt make it up but i think its true.

    No i didnt, but its true in my case. I dont tend to like love quotes but i thought that one was really true and sweet.



    "Is sex dirty? Only if its done right."
    - Woody Allen
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    to be honest i have no bloody idea what love is!! that sounds really wierd cos i am in love with my bf, dont u think it is wierd how people can say they are "in love" when no one (i dont think!) can acctually say what love is?

    i think i am in love cos when ever my bf goes home i just want to be with him. we see eachother everyday, and when 4 some reason we dont i feel like somthing is missing.

    4 example: last year in june (i got with my bf in the feb) he went on holiday 2 ibiza with 3 mates, of which i hated. i can honestly say that they were the worst 2 weeks of my life!

    i cried 4 practicly the whole of the forst week, i had convinced myself that he was going to meet some1 else or pull behind my back. it felt awful i just wanted 2 be in his arms. then when he got back 2 weeks later i went on hol 2 spain. and that was my worst holiday ever, it felt like every1 had their bf or gf with them and i was the only single person there!!!! silly i know but thats the way it was.

    i was so moody 4 the whole holiday that my mum and dad decided 2 invite him with us this year!!

    my mum well mainly my dad wont let us share the same room on a night, which really annoys me!!! and when i sleep at his his mum lets us sleep in the same room (after alot of begging!) but not the same bed. he has a key 4 his door and at first his mum used to take it out the door, but the bathroom key fits his door and he used to knick that and we would sleep together!! now she doesnt bother with the key but still thinks we sleep separatly!! ha ha!

    anyway sorry i rambled on but yeas i am in love!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    can someone define the difference between love and infatuation for me??

    someone once said there is no love...only infatuation...and it's kinda got me thinking...

    children in the front causes accidents...accidents in the back causes children...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Does anyone believe that you can only love once-if you have loved more than once then that musnt be love?
    Or could the most loved one- be true love?
    what would you say is true love?
    difference between live and true love?
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    Does anyone believe that you can only love once-if you have loved more than once then that musnt be love?

    no. ive been in love with 2 differnet people and i know they were both real love!

    Or could the most loved one- be true love?
    what would you say is true love?
    difference between live and true love?

    not entirely sure what you mean here.



    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, my love experiences have always been awfull, until now. I mean,before,I never knew i loved a guy until i lost him! It happened about 4 times and hurt like hell. Now ive been with my current boyfriend for a year,and i fell in love with him after about 2 months,but when i did fall in love with him,i fell MADLY in love with him! Were together pretty much 24/7 which may not be healthy,but never mind! We have such a laugh together and both know absolutely everything about eachother-sometimes were even psychic!I get really really depressed when im not with him too.I think my life actually evolves around him! Quite sad really.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    NOOOOOOOOOOOOO not sad at all alley, im exactly the same! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; i live on 1 side of hull and jamie lives on the other but we still see eachother everday! i love him 2 pieces and i know that maybe being with eachother so much may not be good 4 the relationship but we r fine up 2 now!! oh well maybe a few hicups! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i fell in love with my boyfriend before i even met him <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; hows that for weird?

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    i fell in love with my boyfriend before i even met him <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; hows that for weird?


    that's savage garden "i knew i loved you..." for you!!
    so sweet...


    children in the front causes accidents...accidents in the back causes children...
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    hehe angelfire, i know what you mean! i dont like that song thuogh, its really annoying and gets in your head for days!! some savage garden songs are okay, just that one i have something against!! hehe not coz of the lyrics at all <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *sings*

    i knew i loved you b4 i met youuuu,
    i think i dreamed u into life,
    i knew i luved u b4 i met youuuu
    i have been waiting all my life....

    i luv that song. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I like Affirmation myself. Didn't when it first came out but now...........it's grown on me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i like truly madly deeply and the first one!! what was it called? someone tell me pleeeeease or itll annoy me forever!

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    i like truly madly deeply and the first one!! what was it called? someone tell me pleeeeease or itll annoy me forever!


    'To The Moon And Back'

  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    thats one of them cheeky, that ones okay.... bu it was before truly madly deeply then got re-released, is it called "everythign "or "anything" or something?

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I've got my Savage Garden album with 'To The Moon And Back' on as well as 'Truly Madly Deeply' and there's no mention of 'Anything' or 'Everything'. Can you not remember some of the lyrics? Sorry - this is really bugging me too now!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Has anyone heard "two beds and a coffee machine"? It's a beautiful song, but everytime i hear it, it makes me cry because it reminds me of my childhood. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; If u haven't heard it then u shud because its beautiful!

    ~*~Emma~*~

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    its called "i want you" and its the one with the cherry cola in it!!


    just downloaded it, ahhhhhh i needed to hear that!

    "anytime i need to see your face ij ust close my eyes and i am taken to a place where you crystal mind... magenta.... ermm something... cherry cola!" so there <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    right i just went and found the lyrics to that song coz i wanna know what hes saying!

    for anyone thats interested, they're at http://lyrics.astraweb.com:2000/display.cgi?savage_garden..savage_garden..i_want_you

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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