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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i really like this girl, but she has a boyfriend. long term, he lives away from home.

recently, weve been gettin quite friendly, and we went out to see a movie. nothing happened between us, it was on a friends basis.

she has now asked me to go on holiday with her, this summer. But later tells me that her boyfriend will be there.

she knows that i like her, but she doesnt know that ive got fairly strong feelings.

its screwing me up inside, and i was wondering if anybody has any advice to help me what to do.

i dont wanna mess it up and ruin everything, but at the same time i cant stand seein him with her, and i dont think he treats her right.

should i confess my true deep feelings to her ? or stand by her and hope for the best in the future , whilst remaining screwed up ???

someone HELP !

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    not really an expert on this sort of thing, but if she really means that much to you, i wouldnt tell her however, since you say you are really good friends, let her know that you are concerned about her realtionship but i wouldnt just barge in and say "he;s not treating you rite"!!! just ask her descretly how her realtionship is going and stuff. also, go on holiday with her and get to know her boyfriend! sounds crazy but your feelings mite change towards her once you can accept that she is/isn't happy with him! you never know! by the way, dont blame me if that doesn't work, just trying to be helpful but that is what I would do! hope everything goes ok! good luck!x <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    See how her relationship goes. Try and be there for her as a friend first <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    If she knows how you feel about her then there's a chance she won't want to listen to the 'he's not treating you right' thing, she might just think it's jealousy?

    Is she happy with him?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no i dont think she is happy, i think she puts up with him not making any effort for her at all.

    took her out for a drink yesterday, she seemed happy then.

    i know i should make a move like go to kiss her or somethin, but im too worried she would hate me for it !!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would let her know how you feel,most women
    like the honesty, try and explain to her just how you feel about her, her reponse might surprise you..GOOD LUCK <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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