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where do i stand??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
ok.. firstly let me jus say hey to every1 on thesite.. as this is my first post..

anyways let me explain the situation.. about 5 months ago i met this girl. i got her number and we got talking.. sometimes for hours everyday.. the problem was she wasnt allowed out that much cos her dads really strict, and she lived quite far away.. we both really liked each other, but the situation prevented us from seein each other.. so at some point we decided that we were only gonna be friends.. then for about 2 months i was 'seeing' another girl, but i still kept thinkin about her and i spoke to her almost everyday still.. we finally got to meet up in mid february; and as she was leavin to get on the train we pulled.. we got confused but once again felt friends is wat we shuld be.. then a month later i went to her school ball with her jus as friends again.. this time we pulled for practically hours.. and she stayed at my house that nite.. we didnt have sex but did everything else pretty much.. after that she was really confused.. and i think she wanted me to ask her out.. we both had really strong feelings for each other but i for some reason said it wuldnt work.. after that we still kept talkin but jus recently things have changed... ive realised how much i really really want her.. and its killing me inside.. i told her how i felt but i think shes moved on, but i can help feelin so depressed.. everytime i get a txt or a fonecall or anything i keep hoping its her.. i sit in school thinkin of her and i jus cant get her out of my mind.. i think shes still a little confused about us but i dont want to ask her too directly whats goin on cos im scared shell jus reject me.. 2 questions.. where do u think i stand? and secondfly do u think theres ever a chnace of things working out between us??

sorry for the long message.. jus needed to explain everything

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiya...well i think that you and her should be together, if i read that msg right then i would say that she is really into u, just really confused, if u say that u did pretty much everything apart from sex that night, then she is probably just scared, but i think that she likes u alot, if she didn't then she wouldn't have done anything with u in the first place. If you were to phone her, or txt her wotever and say that u relaly like her, and u don't know how she feels, but needs to get this off your chest blah blah, then she will reply and she won't be harsh or anything. That is what i would do, but its up 2 u, some one else will probably say summit completely different.

    Nicola xxxx

    Good luck
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You have a great chance but you need to make that move now and i mena now!!! If you dont say anything she might go with another bloke. Dont loose it fight for her and tell her honestly how you feel and care about her


    good luck! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey thanks for the advice...
    when i said i think shes moved on... wat i meant was id told her how i felt and how i realled loved her.. n she got all cushy n sweet etc, but then said 'at the moment i dont think i feel that way', but i cant help thinkin deep down inside she still does have feelins, but shes jus given up hope.. and now with exams and everything goin on shes really busy n i dont want to burden her with the added stress of figuring out 'us'.. i guess its gone past the exciting stage now.. and maybe she really jus want to be friends.. i dont want to ask her again cos shell see it as nagging <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    At least she does know how you feel, and you're doing the right thing by letting her decide without you nagging. Good luck with it all..xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    They say you never realise what you have until you loose it and I've realised myself recently that thats true.

    I think its positive that you have realised how much you want to be with this girl because it means that if you do get together you can do it with out confusion.

    It seems to me like this girl really likes you but is scared of getting properly together with you incase she gets hurt, maybe she is worried about the distance. If she didn't want to be more than friends then she wouldn't have kissed or done stuff with you.

    I know its hard but try to let her decide without crowding her, make sure she knows how you feel but don't tell her it every fone call or she'll feel pressurised.

    I think given time she will realise she was worrying over nothing and let herself be with you.

    Good luck
    Annii
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    she called me today n it was really gd cos we spoke jus like old times!! i didnt say anythin to her bout my feelins.. cos she knows how i feel.. i jus felt really gd after we spoke cos it felt like nothin had changed.. i think shes slowly gettin round to the idea of us bein together.. but im gonna give her time to decide.. id be so happy if this works out cos i love her sooooo much.. thanks u guys for all the positive advice <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    she called me today n it was really gd cos we spoke jus like old times!! i didnt say anythin to her bout my feelins.. cos she knows how i feel.. i jus felt really gd after we spoke cos it felt like nothin had changed.. i think shes slowly gettin round to the idea of us bein together.. but im gonna give her time to decide.. id be so happy if this works out cos i love her sooooo much.. thanks u guys for all the positive advice <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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