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probably should never have shagged my housemate?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
does anyone out there reckon they could shed some light onto why my mate is acting like he is?
basically, for a couple of nights in a row ive had sex with one of my housmates, a best friend who i've known for years.
this had been building up for a while and i felt it was inevitable that we were going to have sex.
anyway, things were really cool with us after the first night, but since the second time he's started being really weird with me, like he's pissed off with me or something. he was just as up for sex as i was, and its not like i just used him because i do quite fancy him and there are feelings involved.
do any blokes reckon he's being a bit pissed off with me because he actually fancies me or do you reckon he's just pissed off with himself for sleeping with me and doesn't want me to think he likes me as more than a friend?
you blokes are confusing (yes, i know us girls are too!), but i would never have slept with him if i knew it was going to fuck up our friendship. i just don't understand why he's not acting very friendly towards me? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No you shouldn't have, if neither of you actually want a relationship then doing something so intimate is going to change the nature of your friendship.

    Don't do it again until you have established what you both want from eachother and what the nature of your relationship is going to be....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont ask me why, it is a mystery. But guys tend to give you that "rolling-with-the-eyes-look" while looking really grumpy, when you think that everything is cool between you.

    Ask him what his problem is! If he doesn't have one (which he does but doesnt want to tell), then he will stop being like that. And if he admits to some kind of problem then he will probably talk it out with you (as I guess that his problem is concerning you).

    Good luck!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe he just doesn't know how to handle the situation, and come on let's face it, guys are really shit at revealing there true feelings.

    Think you have to decide what you want from this for starters, and then talk to him. Good Luck.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He's probably just as confused as you are, and quite possibly thinking the exact same things, but like chip said...guys have a harder time dealing with and sorting out their feelings, and especially communicating them properly to other people.

    Just have a chat with him, you're good friends so he'll be OK talking to you, and I'm sure you'll sort it out.

    Good luck,
    Phil.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ask him. Wait until you know you're not going to get interrupted ( <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">) sit him down and say you're confused and ask him what's going on. That's going to get you the best answer <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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