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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Im in the upper sixth at college and im going to uni in september this year, im really looking forward to it, but with one exception; i've been with my boyfriend for 18 months and i cant stand the idea of breaking up before uni. We've agreed to stay together, even tho we're going to different unis (although they're not far apart). But we're both doing 4 yr courses and im worried we'll drift apart. I just wanna know if there's ne1 who's stayed together, despite going to different unis, is it such an unrealistic goal to aim for?
Thanks x

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, my friend's sister is 2 years into a 4 year course in Scotland and her boyfriend's at Uni in London. It's working so far although they don't get to see each other a lot. Mind you they had been together for three years before they moved. I know they're on the phone to each other several hours a day...it might work for some people but I think for others it would be a bit overbearing? And it must be difficult when you're meeting so many new people etc.

    But if you love each other and are committed to making a go of it then you're in with a chance <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    -Edited because I can't spell-

    [ 30-04-2002: Message edited by: Chica II ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well when i moved i hasd been with my boyfriend 5yrs and it was really serious (on my side) and i went to his house to suprise him and he was in bed with my best friends so now i dont trust men full stop.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont worry about it!!! im sure u'll b just fine - it sound like you love each other A LOT so just make sure each of u know that and be prepared for LONG phone calls!!!! Also just be honest with each other!!!!! GOODLUCK <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You know what they say:

    Out of sight - out of mind.

    But then they also say:

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

    Conclusion:

    There's no reason why you should split up, but you might want to consider the possibility of not staying together.

    I have friends who stayed together under almost exactly the same circumstances and are now married.

    And then I know people whose relationships lasted between ten and fifteen minutes after arriving at uni.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had the same problem with my g/f. We talked it over and we are now both *hopefully* going to the same uni (bangor) and will be living with one another. I know this is a bit late for you to decided on now of course <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Depending how often you will be able to see each other will affect how you feel...if you are really worried about drifting apart talk to your b/f and reassure him that you want to stay with him. If you both make the effort im sure it will work out <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi
    ive neva bin in that situation! sorry

    but ive just got one thing to say if you love each other! u shud stay together and last lots more together. just make sure u both make the effort to c each other even though u goin to different uni's!

    good luck at uni

    luv charnz
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm going to uni as well and I don't want to split with my girlfriend. I'm moving to Kent and she's staying in Liverpool. I'm going to miss her like crazy but gonna try to see as much as possible. In my first year I'm in the halls but after that I have to find other accomodation. Maybe with my girlfriend moving in with me. I dunno yet.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    emm i kinda did thinks the wrong way round. i moved to uin totally single then came home for christmas and met my boyfriend, it has been hard me being away during the week, but in some ways it is also easier for us as we have never known any different. all i'd say is be prepared to make time for each other even though your away, if you have MSN or any other that helps on the communication front. ohh and save up now coz it could lead to expensive phone bills and i my case i've spent a fortune on petrol since xmas, my flat mate and her bf decided to go to the same uni and then promptly split up after a few months so there really is no way of knowing. but if you love each other then anything is worth a try if you don't do it then you'll never know
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiya!

    I know the being apart thing may seem very scary, but as many people have said, long distance relationships aren't all guaranteed for failure and they could even be said to prove a relationship's durability - the not-living-in-one-another's-pockets yet still being able to make it work test.

    Your unis not being far apart will make the situation easier, as will being able to see him more during the holidays. And there's always the phone.

    I met my boyfriend not long before he graduated from my university, so we don't live near each other either during termtime or in the holidays, and by the next time I see him, it will be the first time in 2 months (bloody exams!) - yet so far we've been together for over a year, and I hope we'll survive when I go to Hannover in October.

    Go for it :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've been with my boyfriend for a year and in january he went abroad for 6 weeks, came back and he's gone again for 3 months

    We originally planned to break up when he went away but decided not to.

    Basically I think its a bad idea to break up just coz you're gonna be a bit further apart. you might look back in 10 years and think..."what if?" You should give it a chance to work, an if it doen't then at least you'll know

    Its better to regret what you have done than what you haven't.

    mwah
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oooooo and buy a vibrator ;)
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