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For My Mate Maria!
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This is from my mate lets call her M, im writing it for her, but i'll write it as if its her talking and not me.
I seeing a lad now, lets call him P, we got together in August and ive known him for 4 years, we were together for about two months, and it was pretty serious and I found out he had cheated on me and my mate founf him in his room with a half naked girl and told me about it, so,
i finished with him, and he was in his room for four days crying, and threatening to kill himself, i ogt back with him about a month ago, partly because of him being depressed and partly because it was good when we were together,
he is a really nice guy apart from him cheating on me, hes not into drugs or anything like that and is a bit of a goody two shoes, i really like him and care about him but just as a friend,
Leeanne helped me at first to think of ways to finish it with him and we decided ti was best to be truthful with him now, rather than let it get further and me leasd him on,
he has been up a few times since and i have tried to tell him what i feel but when i did he gave me a necklace and said, htis is to apologise for what i did last time we were together, to say happy birthday cos i missed it and for xmas too and i love you,
arggghhhhhh
i was stunned i didnt know what to say to him!
i told him i wanted a bit of a break from him, but i feel awful because i should have told him straight but when he did that giving me the necklace i just couldnt bring myself to do it, i know i have to tell him because its not fair on him but i need some advice on how, me and leeanne have talked about it a lot but it would be nice to have an outsiders opinion,
THANX!!!!
I seeing a lad now, lets call him P, we got together in August and ive known him for 4 years, we were together for about two months, and it was pretty serious and I found out he had cheated on me and my mate founf him in his room with a half naked girl and told me about it, so,
i finished with him, and he was in his room for four days crying, and threatening to kill himself, i ogt back with him about a month ago, partly because of him being depressed and partly because it was good when we were together,
he is a really nice guy apart from him cheating on me, hes not into drugs or anything like that and is a bit of a goody two shoes, i really like him and care about him but just as a friend,
Leeanne helped me at first to think of ways to finish it with him and we decided ti was best to be truthful with him now, rather than let it get further and me leasd him on,
he has been up a few times since and i have tried to tell him what i feel but when i did he gave me a necklace and said, htis is to apologise for what i did last time we were together, to say happy birthday cos i missed it and for xmas too and i love you,
arggghhhhhh
i was stunned i didnt know what to say to him!
i told him i wanted a bit of a break from him, but i feel awful because i should have told him straight but when he did that giving me the necklace i just couldnt bring myself to do it, i know i have to tell him because its not fair on him but i need some advice on how, me and leeanne have talked about it a lot but it would be nice to have an outsiders opinion,
THANX!!!!
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I think that u r doin the right thing so far although u will have to tell him sooner or later, as u already no. Breaking it gently is probably whats best anyway as it sounds like this bloke has been a bit delacate in the past. At the end of the day, though, there is only one way to tell someone its over and no matter how nice u r about it, he is still gonna be hurt.
U r probably a bit concerned about him getting depressed and threatening suicide but unfortunatly thats outta your control. He shouldnt emotionally blackmail u by saying he is gonna kill himself anyway, and its unlikely that he would ever go through with it, Ive learnt that most people who threaten this rarely mean to actually go ahead and kill themselves. If he does this u should tell him its not fair of him to dump that on you.
Anyway, thats about all I can offer as advice, but I hope that things r ok and this bloke understands that u dont wanna be with him anymore without falling apart <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.