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how do u help a friend in need?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
a mate of mine needs help, before xmas he splt up with his lass and lost 2 jobs he went throught a real bad time he started drinkin and just went down hill i may even think he tryed to end it. he spent xmas and new year alone.

he got back with his ex and was real happy. and now his lass has ended it with no reason and i think it might all happen again.

i tryed so hard before but how do i stop him going back to the way he was?

do i talk 2 his ex?
do i try harder 2 help him?
or do i try and get him 2 sort it out himself?

please help

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dragonball z:
    <STRONG>a mate of mine needs help, before xmas he splt up with his lass and lost 2 jobs he went throught a real bad time he started drinkin and just went down hill i may even think he tryed to end it. he spent xmas and new year alone.

    he got back with his ex and was real happy. and now his lass has ended it with no reason and i think it might all happen again.

    i tryed so hard before but how do i stop him going back to the way he was?

    do i talk 2 his ex?
    do i try harder 2 help him?
    or do i try and get him 2 sort it out himself?

    please help</STRONG>

    Well there isn't much you really can do, apart from be there for him when he needs you. Why he and the girl split is not really the issue, it's obvious from it not working out the second time that it wasn't meant to be.

    Maybe he just finds it hard to talk about. Why don't you just arrange for a night out to cheer him up? If he's still like this in a couple of weeks, and it's been going on this long, then he should probably get himself to the doctor to sort it out!!

    Hope that helps. Good luck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Be there for him is about all you can do. I find its better to have company when going through something like that cuz it keeps your mind off that person. Just take himout for games of pool or something that he enjoys doing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree, taking his mind off it's the best thing you can do. Make sure he doesn't spend a lot of time alone, which is likely to make him feel even more depressed. Get other mates to spend time with him too.

    Keep a close eye on him. If things do get really bad again then you could suggest he talks to his doctor. Hope that doesn't happen.

    Good luck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi hon,

    well ie had the same sort of thimng happen in my family as my mum and dad splitt up last year and it was really messy my dad was drinking in the mornings, evenings and afternoon and he tried to commit suicide a few times and me and my little brother were having to stop him

    so i can see how you must be feeling it feels like there is nothing you can do apart from stay wih them 24/7 but dont worry hon it will get better for him as time goes on and he begins to get over her and get his life back on track try talking to him and making sure he isnt just staying in on his own.

    he needs to get out otherwise he will get depressed i dont think its a good idea to get his ex to speak to him though because sometimes that can make the matter worse just stick by him and there isnt much else you can do,

    so good luck i hope he gets through it ok keep me posted on how he is ok? luv ***** xxxx
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