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How long do you think it takes to fall in love?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ooh usually one month i was thinkin... she probably jus wasnt interested wit u coz she got bored? and wanted other guys... sorry to say that so harshly... but 1 month is long enuff to really get 2 know a person unless u dont see them often in that month. *gives u a hug* i'm single <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> jk lol u'll find other fishes <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    luv ~Darkness~
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You can't generalise about how long it takes to fall in love; people interpret what love is differently for a start. As a quick note to your personal situation, I think that at 16, love is a transient phase in which chemical imbalances in your hormones occur. Distinguishing love from lust is rare, but possible. I think that you have experienced the transitive nature of puppy love. I wish I could say that nicer, but I can't.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    for me it was two months for my ex but it was not meant to be !!!!

    honestly its upto how you feel!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm in love with my girl now and we've been going out for a month. She's been so caring since we've started going out. Even wanted to come and look after me when I was ill earlier. She's a great girl and I love her so much.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but then theres girls like me who simply cannot stay wiv one single bloke for a certian amount of time, for your last girl it was proberly 6 weeks and 4 me its 2 weeks then i get bored and have 2 move on...

    Then you've never been in love GGL. Love is totally different to 'getting on' someone random, getting drunk and having sex with them for a week. You really need to distinguish that for your own good.

    I agree with DJP to an extent. In most cases people your age don't experience love, its infactuation. There are exceptions tho. A friend of mine fell in love with someone when she was 14 and was with him for 3 years, obviously that wasn't just good sex keeping them together! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    Two people can just click automatically but love is very different. I think you know when you're in love with someone when you're out with friends and wish she was there, or you've just got home and you can't wait to phone her, or would jump in front of a train to save her. Or him as the case may be.

    Leave it a while, explore other relationships and do a little maturing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think as soon as you know a person, and what they're about, and where they want to go in life, you can fall in love with them...

    Obviously the longer you spend with them the deeper you'll fall in love with them but who knows?

    I'm very confused right now because I feel to be in love you need to know a person inside-out...I've been lied to quite a lot though and find Isometimes I feel I don't know the person I'm with..and that makes me doubt whether I'm in love with _them_ or not?

    God knows <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    After this one, I'm stearing clear of relationships! That is unless this one works, lets hope eh!

    Phil.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i guess it depends on whether you believe in love at first site!!!!! hehe <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There's no rulebook, I think some people can fall in love very quickly and others take longer...that doesn't mean the strength of the feeling in the end isn't the same. Also I guess it's easier if you both reach that stage at the same time.

    Maybe your girlfriend had too many expectations? My friend finished with a lad after a month because she wasn't 'feeling strongly enough'...I think people sometimes expect too much too soon.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chica II:
    <STRONG>I think people sometimes expect too much too soon.</STRONG>

    Two ways of looking at this.

    1) When is it time to stop expecting and just get out of it? When should you just give up and say "right, that's it, you're a nice enough person but I just can't connect".

    There's also the fact that 2) It doesn't take that long to work out whether you like someone or not, it just takes a long time to fall in love with them. I can say within five minutes of meeting someone whether I like them or not, and 90% of the time I'll draw a correct conclusion.

    If that made any sense.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with both points you made, Turtle.

    Problem is, as with love, and forgiveness etc..Where do you draw the bottom line? When is it too much?

    These are the things I constantly ask myself <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its not about how long it takesl in love, but how intense it is while it lasts.
    ... some times you are in love and dont realize it until later...
    Sometime you fool yourwself into believing your inlove but the truth is that your just inlove with the idea of being with someone - or the way you feel about yourself when your with someone.
    It sounds selfish even, but it happens.

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    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What about when you're in love, but are telling yourself you arent?

    lol, *is in this situation right now*

    I'm head over heels for this girl, but the last week or two I've been slowly telling myself I don't need anyone and I'm not in love, it's not really working as well as I'd hoped, just made me think more about it and wonder what is going to happen!

    Gah!

    Friendship is a weakness.

    Phil.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    <STRONG>

    1) When is it time to stop expecting and just get out of it? When should you just give up and say "right, that's it, you're a nice enough person but I just can't connect".

    There's also the fact that 2) It doesn't take that long to work out whether you like someone or not, it just takes a long time to fall in love with them. I can say within five minutes of meeting someone whether I like them or not, and 90% of the time I'll draw a correct conclusion.

    </STRONG>

    Again: no rulebook. In this case the girl could have known her feelings weren't going to get any stronger...sometimes, you just know. Or she might have been expecting the romance of the century before they'd even got to know each other properly. Some girls do <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why wont my heart just listen to my head when it says I'm not in love!

    Emotions piss me off, I spent the whole weekend thinking what I wanted with regards to something..And tried telling myself things, yet it still all goes arse over tit first thing monday morning..

    Yeah, thanks heart! (Or whatever!@!)

    *Feels a rant coming on about this*

    Phil. <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    better sooner than later you would have got more hurt the longer it was left you tried together and it didnt work out sure you will be able to find yourself someone else much better. Plenty more fish in the sea. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    better sooner than later you would have got more hurt the longer it was left you tried together and it didnt work out sure you will be able to find yourself someone else much better. Plenty more fish in the sea.

    We're still together...lol! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sometimes the inability to get someone you want can be misinterpreted as love. Unfortunately, that's how it works. I don't think true love can be realistically established in the course of a month. I'm not saying it hasn't happened, but not very often. A lot of times it takes me about a month to realize I don't see myself with a person in the long run for various reasons. It doesn't mean I don't like them, but that I don't see a future and would rather get out while its easier. Definately don't push someone with that mindframe or drives them away quicker
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i told my ex i loved him but then we had to split up for certain reasons and im now with some1 else but i told him that i wasnt in love wiv him and i was mistaken cos he wudnt let me get on wiv my new relationship. He accused me off running away from true love?

    Dya think its possible to be in love on your own?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How long does it take to fall in love...an instant...days...months...years...sometimes never-
    The heart is a mysterious thing .Love even more so. I do believe in love at first sight.It happened to me with my 1st love at age 14.The moment I saw him it was as if the world stood still.I will love him for the rest of my life.
    Then there are those who you know casually.The ones you'd never think of 'that way'.It sneaks up on you and suddenly you start to think of them differently.Then you realize- hey, I'm in love.
    Then before you know it you're married with 6kids.
    Then there's the falling in love suddenly and passionatly.You meet someone who makes your head spin.You can't stop thinking about them.You find yourself wanting to be near them always.You love them and the more you know them and all that makes them who they are ,the more you want and love them.
    So I don't think there is one answer for how long it takes to fall in love . no more than there are answers to how much do we love?How long do we love?Will we ever fall out of love?

    If you are blessed enough to feel love or to be touched by the love of someone else-then you've learned what love is. That is worth all the unknowns of love, a lifetime over.
    So don't even question 'how long...'Ask 'how deeply?How selflessly?how well will I love when indeed I do fall inlove?,
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