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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi
i have been in love with this girl now for 3 yrs but i have never said anything to her about the way i feel. However, i feel like now is the time to say something to her, as i have become VERY good friends with her and she is currently single. I really need to tell her how i feel because i get really depressed sometimes (i spend wks in my room listening to music and hurting myself), but i dont know what to say to her.
Please help me out because i need to know how to say this right, without sounding like a complete twat

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh thats easy....kinda, well Im a girl and if i were her(the girl that you like) I wuold defenitly like someone telling me how beautiful I am. tell this girl just how you feel, and dont be afraid. If I were her I would love to have a boy right now. Chances are once you tell her you will get together. stop hurting yourself too. God Bless, and good luck! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    sPaRkLe
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeh, definately tell her how beautiful she is! you could also tell her what it is about her that's so speacial, like the parts of her personality you love,
    but most importantly be yourself! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    xxxxs

    (aren't girls gr8 at advice like this hehe)

    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind-
    Shakespeare
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi e-e,
    firstly-you aren't in love only in desire, there's a difference but you won't know it until you really fall in love. Your feelings are physical with added fantasy about how you imagine you would like her to be. Be prepared to discover that the reality could be different.
    Of course you need to go out with her to find out just what sort of person she really is and if you could actually fall in love with her.
    I used to write to the boys I was attracted to, saying that I liked them and what it was about them that appealed to me etc.
    Have you thought about how you will handle a rejection? I found that rejection only stung for a moment and then I was free of my obsession with them and I could look elsewhere, I hope this works for you.
    I hope this girl is willing to get to know you and that you enjoy a good relationship. Whatever the outcome please learn from your experiences and mature as you go along until 'the one' special person comes along.
    Good Luck xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell her how you feel. Tell her what about her attracts her to you, be honest. Please stop hurting yourself to thats not gonna help you any.

    Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, now would be a good time to show her your true feelings. Dont prepare a speech or anything like that, just tell her how much you like her, see her as more than a mate, and how you want to be with her. Or whatever else comes to mind.

    But dont hurt yourself mate, even if things dont go as planned with this girl, freindship is a wonderful thing, and you sound like a really decent guy.

    Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know how u feel but not so long term i have been going thru that 4 the last 3 months
    how the hell have u kept going this long?

    n e way i dont agree with wot trish said about desire a (at least if ur n e thin like me that is) i luv every thing about this girl shes smart, funny and pretty but she aint wot i would normally call beautifull but im crazy about her i dont think its desire though ( dont ask me wot it is cos i dont know) but she is really special.

    sorry 4 dronin on but she is my favourite subject but i say tell her ur 1 stage ahead of me so i say go 4 it and teel me how u get on good luck!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Get rid of everything u've used to hurt urself and don't let urself use anything else.
    Ive gone through this too, n it's the only way of stopping, which u have to btw!!
    xxxs

    Who ate all the pies??
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