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Ex and new b/f :o(

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I really need some advice, I don't know what to do <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

I dunno where to start....Me and my ex split up quite a while ago and I still really love him and I was always telling him this but he just fobbed me off and I started to get the message that he couldn't really care less about me. He told me I could never be the kinda girl who could "suit him sexually" which really really hurt me and I cried for hours over it. He said I didn't make him happy or anything. then just as I was getting it into my head that he didn't want me I met some1 else and he asked me out. I thought about it really carefully b4 saying yes, my ex even told me to go for it! THEN when I tell him I said yes he starts saying I have to choose between them cos he still loves me and will do anything to get me back. Last night he nearly did something stupid and I was really worried about him. He says that we can work cos we were 2getha for 15 months b4 we split up and that I make him happy.

I do really love him and I really like my new b/f and if I choose my new b/f over my ex, he'll never talk 2 me again. I just don't know if we could be happy after everything and I really don't wanna lose the one I'm with now.

I really need some help <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

*~OtHeR - wOrLdLy~* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/angel.gif"&gt;

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Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    do you know what blokes are good at htat they dont want but the minuite you find someone else they wwant you back!!
    obviously there were problems with your ex otherwise you wouldnt of split up, so why go back to that.
    if your ex cares about you at all then he will accept that you are with somebody else, and that you can remain friends, if not then it is his lose.
    start your new relationship and enjoy.
    goodluck
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its a classic case of - u don't know what u've got, till u've lost it.
    But if ur present bf is a decent guy, which im sure he is don't leave him just cos someone u were with once wants u back. Your ex is jealous, and u'd hurt ur bf if u went back to him (which i personally advise against, cos he sounds like hes abit of a user). You don't want to be with someone that treats u they way he did for so long.... think about ur hapiness here.
    but then again, if he's then one u want, u gotta tell ur bf, and get everything sorted.
    'No man is worth ur tears, and the one who is won't make u cry' - think about it.
    xxxxs

    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind-
    Shakespeare
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Firstly, I agree with ~SeaShihtzu~ - s/he obviously is an ace advice giver!!!

    If someone said to me ""could never be the kinda (lad) girl who could "suit him sexually" "" then I wouldn't be able to consider going back out with them just like that. But you obviously have the feelings for your ex, which is something different to take into account. Go with youor instincts, but I do have one piece of advice that I realise would have helped and guided me once before.

    Don't take your time and dont keep them both hanging on. Because, believe me, from experience, that it will cause more hurt. You must go with your true feelings inside you. You will get to know what you really want, but you have to make that choice. In the end, I made a choice, and 5/6 months on, im so glad I went with my true feelings.....we are. :-) That was one of the best (allbeit slow) decisions I ever made.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She!! LordOfChaos!
    But yer, keeping both guys hangin' is mean. You probably already know what u want anyway... u just gotta go n sort it, be brave!
    xxxs

    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind-
    Shakespeare
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey every1!

    Thanx for the advice <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; I talked it thru with my mum yesterday morning cos she saw me cryin <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; and she made me realise a few things. I 4got to add that the r/ship with my ex was long distance so we only got to see each other every few months and I couldn't carry on living my life over a computer. I do *really really* care for him and I still love him, but now he won't talk 2 me ever again. My new b/f has been really understanding about everything.

    Thanx again <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    *~OtHeR - wOrLdLy~* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/angel.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Did u tell your ex then?

    xxxs

    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind-
    Shakespeare
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I told my ex how I felt and he was really upset but he said he's accepted we're over but he wants us to be friends.



    *~OtHeR - wOrLdLy~* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/angel.gif"&gt;

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