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I think I fancy his friend

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months and things are great. I think I love him, but I also seem to have this huge crush on his best friend. He makes me smile so much and every time I talk to him I just feel instantly happy again. The other night I was with my bf and we were cuddled up on the sofa together, I looked across the room and his friend was staring straight at us, I looked back at him and suddenly felt incredibly guilty for no reason. It's like there's this chemistry between us. Whenever my boyfriend's not there we seem to get really close, just spend the whole night chatting and laughing. I know I can't let anything happen with him but it makes me feel so shitty when I find myself imagining what it would be like if I were with him instead of my boyfriend. Sometimes it hurts so much I cry.

Oh dear, I don't really know why I'm posting this, except that I can't tell anyone else because I don't ever want my bf to know how I feel. Just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.

Love 'n' snuggles,



  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    theres 2 possbilities - 1) if u r really serious(n u hav 2 b sure) bout his friend, talk 2 both of them, the longer ur relationship goes on 4 the harder it wud b 2 swap guys(even tho it soundz awful) check wiv his m8 if he feels the same way, then talk 2 ur bf
    2) u may just hav found ur 'soulm8', which doesnt mean ur attarcted 2 him romantically. a person like this is usually better as a best friend, dunno y, just works that way, or did 4 me
    prob the 1st thing is rite, hope it all goes well 4 u, n simle:-D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks, u're probably right, i think he is my 'soulmate' or something. I don't think i could 'swap' guys even if i really wanted to, cos it would ruin a lot of friendships and cause a lot of bad feeling. He's just better as a best friend I guess. Still, it's hard to get rid of these feelings I have for him... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've been in exactly the same situation!!

    I wasn't wit the guy 4 as long as u have been wit ur bf but i fancied his best mate nearly the whole time i woz wit him & felt like such a bitch.

    Then i found out his best mate fancied me as well. I dumped my bf & his best mate asked me out the same day. I said yes.

    I know that sounds really bitchy but my relationship wit his mate lasted a lot longer than mine & his although i ended up making them fall out over it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Instead of just rushing in2 it like i did i think u need 2 think about how serious u & ur current bf are, how it will affect their friendship & if u think it could actual last between u & his mate.

    Hope that helped. Wots the situation like @ the mo?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmm...the situation at the moment is a bit fucked. Just when things were starting to settle down and I felt good with my boyfriend, his best mate wrote me a letter telling me he's been in love with me for the past two months. I felt like crap.

    But there's no way I could leave my boyfriend for him, I love him too much now. I just have to accept that his mate can't be anything more than a friend to me. I can't have it both ways.

    Love 'n' snuggles,

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