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I have left him

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by * k-t *:
    <STRONG>Well if you read my other post a few weeks ago you would know that I already walked out on my b/f after he hit me, then I went back. Stupid maybe. But I didn't really have anywhere else to go and I fooled myself into thinking everything would be ok.

    Well this time I have left for good. After yet another argument which resulted in him driving round Birmingham at about 100 mph then making me sit in the car waiting for him for an hour, then locking me in the toilet, I had enough, I can't live like that, and I packed my bag and left.

    So now I am at my Mums house, not an ideal situation, she doesn't really want me here.

    So what do I do?

    Last time I left I applied for CSV on the spur of the moment which is where you go and live somewhere for 4 months and work voluntarily. I am hoping to go to uni in September so that would at least sort me out until then.

    I could go to the council today and say I am being made homeless but my Mum moans about that, and as I have no furniture or appliances I can not see me lasting long in a council flat.

    I have a grand in the bank of my student loan so I could find a flat, does anyone have any advice for me?

    How do I go about finding somewhere to live? I wouldn't mind living in a shared house.

    <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Oh yeh I have no key for here so once I go out in a bit I have to stay out till 7 tonight.</STRONG>

    [EMAIL]respect yourself and do not go back to him. I may be able to help if you lives in London but not Cardiff[/EMAIL]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi K-T, glad to hear you got out in one piece, we were all worried about you.

    Your home situation doesn't sound ideal, and you seem to be needing something temporary before you go back to uni later in the year.

    We have some stuff about declaring yourself homeless and getting council housing: http://www.thesite.org/info/housing/homelessness/

    You could also get down to your local Citizen Advice Bureau (number in the phone book) for some good free advice. They may also be able to refer you to a nearby support group for women who have been in abusive relationships. It can be a great help to talk it through with someone who really understands.

    You can also try our database for other local organisations: http://www.thesite.org/info/in_your_area/

    best wishes,
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Glad you finished with him Katie, no one should have the right to hit someone weaker than them, it's bullying.

    Where are you from?? Someone said something about Cardiff? If so I may be able to get you put up with a mate or something or at least somewhere to come and hang around on the weekend! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Hope you cheer up a bit hun and with everyone on here we'll all help sort you out <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Loadsa love,

    Phil. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    P.S. If you do get really stuck for somewhere just gimee a call, chat to me on MSN later and I'll give you my mob #.

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