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Girls don't want a gentleman any more?!
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I'm a damn gentleman as gentle and manly as they come (at same time :cool:
I open doors first all the time. I pay all the time. I us please and thank you and don't wear in front of girls and apologise if I do. I don't raise my voice and always let them go first on whatever the subject. I ask thier opinions on things like meals and drinks. I can't do any more for girls on first dates.
I am not a shy person. I'm well dressed and fashionable. I'm thoughtfu; and kind and can make any one laugh. Girl like funny guys don't they? Why don't they like manners, too?!
If I don't bother with manners and act like a slob not givin a damn, they seem to bloody stalk me afterwards never leavin me alone!!
What's goin on in the world?! Do you girls not care for manners and respect in a man any more?
I open doors first all the time. I pay all the time. I us please and thank you and don't wear in front of girls and apologise if I do. I don't raise my voice and always let them go first on whatever the subject. I ask thier opinions on things like meals and drinks. I can't do any more for girls on first dates.
I am not a shy person. I'm well dressed and fashionable. I'm thoughtfu; and kind and can make any one laugh. Girl like funny guys don't they? Why don't they like manners, too?!
If I don't bother with manners and act like a slob not givin a damn, they seem to bloody stalk me afterwards never leavin me alone!!
What's goin on in the world?! Do you girls not care for manners and respect in a man any more?
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youll find a girl.....lots of girls are probably hating being trodden over and looking for a guy like you!
Personally my girlfriend is incredibly sweet but when I went out with her I found out lots of interesting and exciting things. Maybe that's the thing you need to do: have a hidden side?
So the moral of the story. Nice blokes tend to get taken for granted (because we're evil fickle women) so just have the odd "man tantrum" now and again to remind us that it's an equal partnership.
Its one big cycle mate and i know exactly how you feel. Girl dont like nice guys now. Heres an idea:
EVERYONE ACT LIKE A ****
Nobody will be single then
I much prefer gentlemen there are just very few around!
so very true :yes:
i have never been attracted to bad boys and i doubt i ever will too.
Thats happened to me
It's supposed to be a world of "equality" so let the women pay their way. Sure, pay now and again, but make sure that (assuming they have some money) they at least grab the bill from time to time. it's only fair.
You can still be a gent with good manners etc but, to me, the paying thing is a thing from the past.
I used to pay for everything - not any more.
G.
I'd much prefer someone who treated me with some respect than someone who didn't, tbh. You'll meet someone who appreciates your gentlemanly ways soon, don't worry/
bollocks to anyone who says that girls want anything else than what you describe yourself as...i have been looking for someone like you for ages....and i think i found them too, unfortunatly it's not you. but keep looking cos i'm sure i'm not one of a kind.
no seriously though theres loads of girls who like that. even if there isnt, i do!!!
Seriously there are a lot of girls who like bad boys for the excitement and the crazy side of things but once you've been hurt enough times you start to come back to your senses. Just wait it out.... or alternatively come see me!
I could be really ugleh, tho!
I have a lil a-hole side to me, too! I tend to have a bit of an anger problem but I call it mis-vented passion
With all these girls sayin thats the description they'd love ... I could run the risk of soundin like a Internet dater! Is London the same area as Berkshire?
Where about in London just out of curiosity? I understand that if you reply with just this answer to above question it would be off-topic and annoyin to mods so just PM if that's all you wanna say in reply.
I've been on the Internet too long I know BB rules too well :eek2:
that's true, you know
but yeah, i love a man who says please and thank you in the appropriate places and doesn't mind holding doors open for people or giving up his seat on the bus.
BUT, he's got to be interesting and funny and stuff too. i wouldn't go for a guy just cause he was nice.
the other day i was on the bus, and this rough-looking gangster type got on, swagger and all, and i got the shock of my life when he opened his mouth and said 'scuse me mate, could you change a tenner? ok, fank you vurry much'.
ok, so that alone isn't gonna make me want to be with someone, but it made him a lot more attractive, imo.
You can't judge on the way you look. Seriously yesterday I was in a shop and there were two men in suits browsing the shelves. One of them was on his mobile phone and he was telling whoever he was talking to that he thought it was rude to be on his phone in the shop because he was knocking into people, and he would call him back soon. I watched him as he was looking around and he was very polite to the other customers, saying 'excuse me', and 'thank you' , and 'would you please pass me that', he let a woman with a baby go before him in the queue and he was just generally very nice. His mate was a rude arrogant git even though you would expect a man in a suit to have manners!
p.s, maybe your looking in the wrong places mate, nothing wrong with a well mannered person, just show you can make a little effort. Saying that, when I have been like that I found it picks up older woman more than girls my own age.
you can say that girls only want the bad guys, but could it not be said that us guys only want the the bad girls???
But honestly, if girls know whats good for them they'll hang onto nice guys (I've got mine, and I'm never gonna lose him again!).
Manners, consideration, respect- everything you talked about- it has a really high value in serious relationships- you'll meet plenty of girls who appreciate you!
Nope. I'd say I want a nice girl. Polite in public. A princess in company - and an utter slut in the bedroom!
Always paying, always doing as your told- it's a bit boring, innit?
ROFL...thats so you wobble.
but no Everyones really said what i had to say...I go for guys who are gentlemen... My new fella is the absolute perfect gentleman but he knows how to put me in my place as well. (Yeah I know it don't take me long to move on....please don't say anything!)
Guys need to be strong but still well mannered and polite and helpful. Girls fall for it more and more when they get older and want to settle down. The bad boy sort of image is all well and good when we're just out for a bit of fun, but when we want to be serious it's a no no.