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Sex on a first date
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Since I split with my boyfriend I've been arranging dates with various blokes and all of them seem to think I should be having sex with them on a first date. Is this normal practice?
Do all blokes think women are going to sleep with them on a first date?
Do all blokes think women are going to sleep with them on a first date?
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My sentiments exactly!! I've told one in particular who I really like that he needs to stop acting like a desperate 16 year old!
:no:
I hate men :mad:
See i never mastered the art of being that polite. Pushy, cocky men are like red rag to a bull to me and my manners tend to go out the window. Although holding up my hands i've not been an angel when i was younger
i find guys who sleep with a girl on first date dont think it'l last+tend to just end up with a physical relationship (which tends2be quite short)
My advise- do not go looking for people to date. Someone will come along sooner or later
There is no such thing as 'normal practice,' it's different for everyone. But I think most people will agree that it is ridiculous, and pretty rude for them to expect you to sleep with them on a first date- where are their manners??!!
However, as I said, I want to be sure they like me for who I am and not what they can quickly get.
I'm looking for a gentleman... anyone know where to find one these days?? :eek:
Lol, now this is why I understand why so many of my girl mates are bisexual...
On our second and after dates he did try it on, but i didn't sleep with him. And he told me later that if i had have slept with him right away he wouldn't respect me as much as he does.
I think you should wait, when the right bloke comes along he'll wait to sleep with you.
If they're willing to wait then they really like you. If they're not, they're just after a shag.
Me and the missus had sex quite early, but even then it wasn't a first date. Not even close.
Not if they want anything more than sex they don't.
gentlemen can show affection and interest without saying "nice baps love, giz us a shag!"
It's easy really.
Wasn't quite what I meant!!!
But if you don't show an interest, then the girlie is gonna start thinking you don't fancy her...
It's a fine line I know...
Asking her on a second date is quirte conclusive of interest:)
It's bad form to pester for slap and tickle, old chap.
yep, we are thinking the same thing there...
*knows*
Aren't I clever?:D
All blokes (okay then, I had better make that "most" blokes) are keen to get their leg over and are not going to say no to a bit of 'how's your father'.
If they are genuinely interested in you, they won't push it, and may respect you for not giving it up easily.
Having said all that though, we are living in 2004, and if a man and woman want to have sex and do it safely, who is to stop them.
I slept with my boyfriend on our first date which was really out of character for me, but it just "happened" and more than a year on, we are still together.
Men can be very judgemental and have double standards..they will try it on with you, but some complain if you give them sex too soon. Personally I wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway.
Make them wait until you feel ready, it will be all the better for the tension building up and feeling comfortable together.
why did i like him again!? :chin:
Unfortunately while there are still gentleman out there they do tend to get buried under the growing surge of ratbags
y do ppl do that?? play mind games. ahhhh sorry it annoys me. y???