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haven't heard from him in over a month...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey guys,

anyone who knows my situation will know what i am on about. for all those who doesn't basically my boyfriend (who's in the forces) got posted to Arghanistan on February 17th. I got a message on my phone saying he had to leave, and that he couldn't get hold of me (i was at home, and no reception where i live) to say goodbye. He said he would contact me when he got back.

Got an email on 20th March saying he would be out there longer than he thought cause of the situation over there, and so that i wasn't to wait for him. I emailed back saying that he shouldn't be noble, and that i would wait for him, but i still haven't heard from him!!!!

It's been over a month now, and i am getting really depressed. Anyone with any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated!!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't know much about the forces but i know things a pretty bad out there. He probably doesn't get the chance to e-mail you that often as there are lots of other troops out there all wanting to contact there loved ones all over the world.

    It sounds like he is trying to do the right thing by you, he must be a really nice guy.

    I don't know if it's the best thing to say to you but, it's probably in the back of his mind that not all of them will come home.

    Chin up, and i'm sure everything will work out all right.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MortUK:
    <STRONG>I don't know much about the forces but i know things a pretty bad out there. He probably doesn't get the chance to e-mail you that often as there are lots of other troops out there all wanting to contact there loved ones all over the world.

    It sounds like he is trying to do the right thing by you, he must be a really nice guy.

    I don't know if it's the best thing to say to you but, it's probably in the back of his mind that not all of them will come home.

    Chin up, and i'm sure everything will work out all right.</STRONG>

    I am being realistic about things. I know he's probably not got access to email out there, at least not 24/7. But it still gets me down. We had such a good night out just before he left, and has made arrangements to spend the next weekend together. Now it seems like such a long time ago. It sounds strange but i haven't got any photos of him, and i'm scared his face will fade from my memory and i will forget what he looks like....

    I know how dangerous it is out there, but it doesn't change how i feel about him. Just praying that he will come back okay.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Have you thought about sending him a letter?
    i know e-mail is nice and quick and convineant but a letter is so much more personal and means so much more when you recieve it. When he gets it he may write back. He may even be able to send you a picture if you ask him for one. it might be nice if you send him a picture of you?

    You could telephone the base he was posted to and they will tell you how to address the letter so that he gets it. (Bare in mind that it may take a couple of weeks to reach him).

    Let me know haw things turn out.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just think of him and think of wot his doing its not like he can just pick up a phone u no wot they say no news is good news im sure his fine and missing u like hell just keep thinking of wot u can do when he gets home and how its going to be one of the best moments of ur relationship seeing him again im sure he will call or e-mail as so as he can


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MortUK:
    <STRONG>Have you thought about sending him a letter?
    i know e-mail is nice and quick and convineant but a letter is so much more personal and means so much more when you recieve it. When he gets it he may write back. He may even be able to send you a picture if you ask him for one. it might be nice if you send him a picture of you?

    You could telephone the base he was posted to and they will tell you how to address the letter so that he gets it. (Bare in mind that it may take a couple of weeks to reach him).

    Let me know haw things turn out.</STRONG>


    Not sure how i would contact him. I mean he's in the marines so he's based in Bagram Airbase, but don't know how to reach there. Also he's been out there for 2 months now, and will probably gone til July. But cause they don't know how the operation will unfold over there, i don't know if he will be at base to get the letter, or out in the mountains!

    I know he can't help his situation, and that it's his job to go out and do dangerous shit, but it doesn't make it any easier. Just miss him like crazy!! Am even looking forward to exams, cause at least i will be kept busy, and it will help pass the time!!

    How sad am i? Answers on a postcard.......
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Goto the armed forces careers office. They will put you in touch with a liasons officer.As long as you can find out his full name and pay number, which they will help you with they can forward any letter on for you.
    Letters being sent to armed forces personnel are sent through different channels, so it will get there eventually.
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