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dumping your mates

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
You dump crap lovers so why not crap mates. If they're driving you mad read this new article of ours: http://ned.thesite.org.uk//relationships/families/dumping_your_mates.html

Any of you had a mass cull of your mates? Tell us here <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hehehe v. interesting susie! thanks <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lost faith. Turned to "friends" for support. Lost friends cos I was deemed akin to the antichrist.

    Still at least I was honest, and I found out who my REAL friends were, those who don't put conditions on friendship. The cull has made me appreciate more and not to take anything (or anyone) for granted. Be careful with who you trust.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    possibly planning a 'mass cull' (makes them sound like sheep <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; ), problem is i might get a bit carried away, ditch 'em all, and escape to florida. or maybe not.

    getting rid of crap mates is quite a good idea though!

    Nolite te bastardes carborundorum
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've done a mass cull(really big one). I just couldnt live with them anymore and they also thought i was the antichrist type of thing except i'm not christian(i dnot believe).

    Problem is now i'm all alone and finding it hard to make new friends. Whats the best way to get in a big group again?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im on the verge of doing the same....
    and i spose the best way of getting into a group is to make get to know a couple of people in the group n then take it from there. You'd start to be included that way.
    xxxxxs

    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind-
    Shakespeare
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i have done that to mates if they are just not mates at all. Making a habit of it isn't the way tho, that would be bad cos you wouldn't be a mate to other people at all.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Lordofchaos:
    i have done that to mates if they are just not mates at all. Making a habit of it isn't the way tho, that would be bad cos you wouldn't be a mate to other people at all.

    I wouldn't make a habit of it, and haven't before.
    Does anyone else feel like sometimes they've moved on, n ur friends r stuck in a rut behind u? - or is that just me?! lol

    xxxs


    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind-
    Shakespeare
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had this very very good friend. We would share all our heartache and complain about men (who let us down) and then I found out that when I finally found a boyfriend (a wonderful person, we're still together) who accepted me just the way I was and didn't make me feel miserable all the time, she couldn't cope with it. She told me I had betrayed our friendship. I never intended to neglect her or anything but of course I wanted to spend time with my boyfriend and not always have her with us! Well, it turned out really nasty - she ran me down with all our common friends and her family wrote me angry letters telling me what a bad person I was to prefer this wicked (?) boyfriend to their wonderful daughter... Now doesn't this sound sick? It was completely out of proportion and I had to forget about her and our common friends because she would always be around them, too... Anyway, I still have nightmares about her sometimes and this happened years ago!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like a very bad case of jealousy! I wonder what she'd actually told her rents about ur bf!!!?


    It wasn't me! - honest.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i'm beginning to realise that my best mate is a self centered cow most of the time and that its largely because i let her be, and do what she wants all the time.... i'm sick of it! recently shes hardly spoke to me because shes had this new man in her life, trouble is he went off to australia last week and now suddenly she wants to be mates again. thing is, i've gone off and made other friends in her absence, so unlike usual i'm not there as soon as she needs a mate again - hopefully she'll learn her lesson coz i really don't need her like i used to!
    god that was bitchy!! everyone can relax now, my rant is over!!! i feel better for that!

    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Back in February I found myself homeless again, the result of my "friends" deciding to live with me then leaving because they missed having their mums clean up after them. When my letting agent discovered that I was living in my house alone & wasn't 18 yet she gave me less than 2 weeks to get out or she was taking me to court.

    Anywho, in a way it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I dropped those friends pretty quick and moved onto someone's sofa until I turned 18.

    During that time I also decided to go through all my friends and weed out all the ones that had ever hurt me badly. Anyone I thought was taking advantage of my generosity in any way I got rid of. Anyone I felt I had to keep chasing to be my friend I got rid of. And at the same time as weeding out some people, I went through all my friends mentally and thought of those who had never hurt me. I called them and re-made contact.

    As a result, when I left England in August I had a small group of people I knew I could count on no matter what. They may not have been the "coolest" group of friends I've ever had but I could have a laugh with them and know that I'd never catch them laughing at me behind my back.

    Semper ubi sub ubi
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