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first ever date for us, first ever date ever for me!-im scared!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
wooooow im excited, and frightened at the same time! i have my first ever date 2morrow!

he is picking me up and im worried bout the whole chatty thing, i dont want him 2 think im boring, i need some talking promts any one got any advise,

im also scared about the making contact for the first time after it, i will be intrested i know but what if he isnt! ill leave it for him i think, but uts the talking thing i have like 3 things to ask him and thats it!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He's probably in exactly the same position as you... I know I would be. DOn't try and rehearse it, just go with the flow <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey !!!

    first dates are wonderful. Don't worry about what to talk about. start with the basics. how are you, how was your day...all that kinda stuff. it all flows from there.

    The important thing is to relax and enjoy urself. And don't get thinking too much about whether he likes you or not, if you make a connection you'll know.

    Good luck and have fun <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ah i really feel for you, i had my first ever date about 6 months ago and i was absolutely dreading it. i'd only ever met the guy once in a pub and so knew nothing about him or what his personality was like. it ended up it was fine. we went to the cinema so the only talking we had to do was in the car travelling to and from. we talked about the biggest loada crap really, he told me bout his job, i told him bout the course i was doing and god knows wot else. the thing you have to remember is that you are there to have fun. relax and enjoy yourself and hopefully the conversation will flow naturally. good luck and let us know how u get on <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ask him lots and lots of questions - just be careful you don't sound like a journalist of something <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    he'll be feeling exactly the same way. don't worry, the conversation will flow from wherever it starts and you'll have a great time. first dates are fun, enjoy it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Two tips,
    1) listen to everything he says and pick up on bits of info. Ask him to tell you more about 'skateboarding' or whatever, or think of a story of your own that relates, however teniously to what he's just said. That moves the conversation on.

    2) Anytime he asks a question about you, tell your story, and then turn it back - "And how about you?"

    You need to keep a balance between sounding interesting yourself and appearing interested in him.

    (woops, looks like you're on the date right now. How'd it go?)

    [ 24-02-2002: Message edited by: acer ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well, it was shit,
    bad bad bad
    plus he is not interested ahhhhh well
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