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how do you know when your in love

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
How do you know when you are in live is it when you see someone and you feel all strange around them and you cant talk to them
or when you are.........

what do you think?
id love a sensation or a real thing?
can you love some one to much?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was thinking a similar thing, is it anything like the movies? you know, all those cute smiles and awkward & tense moments.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you had been in love before, you would know. Believe me, you know. It's the best feeling in the world. Everything is good in the world, and it feels like everything is going right.

    It's not the best answer i know, but it is the truest. If you have to ask then you obviously haven't been in love, no offence to you..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, if you dont know it you havent been in it.

    Its not like in the movies, though, not so twee. It is a great feeling, though, with long gazes and great sex <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Its one of those tings where you know you are in it, but cant actually describe it to someone else. But if you dream about them, daydream about them and masturbate about them then its a strong attraction, probably love <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is a tricky one to answer, because in 35 years of living I have almost never met two people who meant exactly the same thing by 'in love'.

    There are so many different aspects to love, and some focus more on one aspect than another. Its therefore very much a matter of personal perspective.

    Firstly there is the high feeling of being in love. You feel invigorated, more alive, and able to conquer anything life throws at you. You walk her home, and kiss goodnight, and you find yourself running all the way home with a song in your heart, a grin on your face and the wind in your hair.

    But you can get those feelings many many times for many different people in your life.

    Another feeling of love is the feeling that you need to be near someone all of the time, that life without the person you love is only a shadow of life.

    But you can get that feeling during a 'crush' where there is no real love at all.

    There is the quiet love. The kind where love is a peaceful, contented feeling and you truly feel at home with the person you love. You feel deeply connected and there are few if any misunderstandings.

    That one is often the most enduring form of love, the one that lasts long after the 'high' feeling has faded away.

    There is another aspect of love, selfless love. This is where the object of your love means so much to you that you can put their needs above your own. Like letting them leave because it is for the best, even though it breaks your heart.

    Many separate 'love' from the feelings of being 'in love'. Love is generally made up of a mix of the last two aspects I listed, while 'in love' is much more the first two.

    Real love tends to combine some of all four aspects.

    To be 'in love' is common enough, and most of us will be 'in love' many times in our lives. To love is almost as common, more common if you include all the forms of love that are non-romantic. Family and true friendships are both based on love. Real love, romantic love, the kind poets and storytellers call 'True Love' is very rare.

    True love transcends the various aspects, it is the kind that you only know when you feel it and realise that all else was not so real, not so complete. I just can't find anyway to properly express it further.


    Sorry, but that's really the best answer I can give.

    [ 21-02-2002: Message edited by: Black_Knight ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    that is a very good answer! yes it is very hard to answer this question which is why i posted it! because so many people have this problem of they think there in love but they arnt!
    i think i love my g/f but is it love? if she wants to leave i would let her go if it was the best thing for her.
    Crush love is a very common thing as you said every one will expirence it but its rae for it to go on to real love.
    if you are together with you g/f or b/f for a long time does that mean you will stay together for ever?
    should you belive love test and star sign stuff?
    my g/f and me have for our star signs "no hope in hell" but we have been 2getha for a while and its working a it could be love but again how do you know when you are in love?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    this is the sixty-two million dollar question. there is no one answer, although Black Knight came very close.

    I've been with my bf for almost a year now, and it took us more than seven months to say those three words. at the time I was fairly sure, and now I'm even more sure - but if someone said to me that we were "passionately" in love, I'd disagree. he makes me feel safe, and happy, and comfortable, and cared for, and loved, but I wouldn't kill myself if we broke up. it's a very odd feeling, because we connect so well and the past eleven and more months have been brilliant. I love him and he loves me, but neither of us are so wrapped up in the other that we couldn't survive on our own.

    I don't know if this is good or bad, usual or unusual, sensible or ridiculous. it's not a conscious thing. but there you go, stellar's lovelife <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    what everyone else said is right though. you'll know when you are.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think one of the best ways I've heard love summed up is:
    "A state where the happiness of one person is essential to your own."

    I'd have to agree with what's been said so far, you'll know when you're in love, it's just a spark when you're with someone, some indefinable magic that you can't quite put your finger on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As one person put it:

    "Love is Patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

    Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

    If you identify with that, you're in love.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My bf always used to tell me that he loved me. Then during a conversation we had not long ago he realsied that we werent going to last forever. Really he had just reached my plateau in thinking but now he doesnt say it anymore and I miss it...because even though I wasnt sure if he meant it (im sure he did) it still felt nice.

    I know Im in Love with him. Hes a sweetie and I love his company. I feel happy and like black knight said (in his amzing answer) I feel like I can take on the world...most of the time.

    However...I can say that I would like to give him up for his good but it would kill me...in the beginning at least. I cant stand the thought of life without him...even if I am only 17 and run at the word 'commitment'

    ugh love and life are soooo weird....we just have to live it and enjoy it I supopose and not ponder on whether its love or not and just enjoy.... <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> xxxxxxx
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