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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey guys,

Sorry to be really depressing, but i am really down, and i don't have anyone i can talk to about this.

Basically this guy i've been seeing (not yet at boyfriend status, but not for his want of trying) since about October has had to go away on military duty, and i can't cope!!

We last saw each other last monday, and had a really good nite out. Thing is we argued, because he wanted us to become a proper couple, and i've just come out a long term relationship!

Anyway we left it on okay terms, and i headed home for weekend where i don't get mobile reception. He phoned, and we were okay again, when i was on the bus, and we were gonna do something this weekend. Then i got on the bus on sunday, and got a message saying he'd been called up, and was leaving that morning. He said he couldn't say where he was going, and would be gone for 'a few months'.

Thing is i was too late to talk to him, so now he's gone and i have no way of contacting him. And i can't stop thinking about him, and i know now that it's him i want to be with. I think i am falling for him...

So he's gonna contact me when he gets back, but that could be July or even October (worst case scenario)

What do i do? Please help, i miss him soo much

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    First off, cheer up!!!

    He's probably in exactly the same situation as you, and will probably not stop thinking about you for the next few months. I'm sure you can get in touch - find out where he's based and write, or something like that.

    Don't worry about feeling a bit upset - if you're sure that you love him, then it's only natural, and he may well feel the same.

    Smile, girl!

    At least you've got someone!!!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He's with the marines, so although i have a rough idea where he is, it's all really unsettled there.

    I mean before he could at least get on the net, but now it's the real thing they don't get those luxuries.

    I know what you are saying is true, it's just i don't know if i can handle 6 months with no contact at all!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Write letters to him, explaining how you feel and what you think!

    It doesn't matter if you don't post them, or that he doesn't get them - it will bring him closer to you in your heart.

    If you can post them, and find out where he is, then that's ideal, but failing that, just try writing!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's weird you should say that cause i have sent him a couple of emails, although i know he won't get them til he gets home, telling him how i feel.

    It's just really messed up, cause if i'd known (and i know hindsight is a marvellous thing!) we could have sorted it out properly before he went

    [ 19-02-2002: Message edited by: emmex ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Life is like that.

    You do get the "if only's".

    The challenge, I think, is to deal with them, and not regret anything. It would, perhaps have been better to have sorted it out. On the other hand, this period apart might strengthen what you already have, and benefit your relationship in the long run?

    Keep smiling, keep on burning that flame in your heart!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, i have just found out that he'll be away until the end of summer - whenever that is!

    So i'm guessing i won't hear, or speak to him until about August. Very depressed now. Any words of wisdom...?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey guys,

    it's me again. know you are all probably really sick of me by now, and for that i am sorry, but i am still feeling really down about things.

    know he's away in the gulf, and won't be home until the end of summer, and i can't handle it. very depressed. please help.

    *apologises profusely*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Right, I think I've been watching too much Trisha, but anyway -

    Do you have interests of your own? You need to find something for YOU so that your b/f isn't your whole world.

    You miss him, that's understandable but moping will solve nothing.
    Keep in contact, do your own thing, become your own person and become a stronger in yourself.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sure i have my own interests. Most of them involve coursework for my degree.

    Just really miss him. It wouldn't be so bad, but we can't even contact each other until he gets back in August.

    Do you think it's worth it? I mean i just realised how i felt, but before i could tell him, he was gone. I really do love him!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why can't you get in touch with him?

    The Armed forces have a mail service, and you could send him a 'Bluey', which I think are available from post offices. Could you get in touch with someone in the Marines to get them to forward it on?

    Think positive, girl - if things don't survive this enforced break, then he's not the right guy for you. And if he's a marine then these enforced breaks would be a way of life.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i don't know where he is for a start. Besides i don't even have his address for this country, let alone any other way of contacting him.

    Feeling better about things though. Got heaps to do for the final term of uni anyway. Then it's the summer holidays, and they always fly by, so he will be back before i know it... i hope!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Glad you're cheering up

    Best wishes, PK <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for all your comments. Cheered me up knowing that there is always someone to talk to!!

    Cheers
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