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How many people have you shagged?
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Alright people...
The numbers game!
Right, cut a long story short... I met a girl last weekend and we slept together... as you do...
She asked me how many people ive been with
Now, this is the gods honest truth, I dont actually know. I stopped counting after 4 cos i didnt really see the point of knowing your numbers.
That was 5 years ago and i think ive probly shagged about 35-45 people... when i count em up i get to about 35 and forget who else there is, then ill remember people i forgot to put in the list.. so i guess its abou 38....Im 23 by the way
Oh and before anyone asks, i have had lots of checks at the clinic, i go once every 6 months
Now girlies, would you say thats alot?
Would you be put off by it!?
Would you think more of the bloke cos he's actually being honest with you!? (thats what i try and tell myself!!)
or... would you rather the bloke lied so you think he's not a slag!
One of my friend has been with about 120 girls who he can reel off, now thats alot in my book!!
Oh, leave your numbers if you want! we all wanna know!
tom
The numbers game!
Right, cut a long story short... I met a girl last weekend and we slept together... as you do...
She asked me how many people ive been with
Now, this is the gods honest truth, I dont actually know. I stopped counting after 4 cos i didnt really see the point of knowing your numbers.
That was 5 years ago and i think ive probly shagged about 35-45 people... when i count em up i get to about 35 and forget who else there is, then ill remember people i forgot to put in the list.. so i guess its abou 38....Im 23 by the way
Oh and before anyone asks, i have had lots of checks at the clinic, i go once every 6 months
Now girlies, would you say thats alot?
Would you be put off by it!?
Would you think more of the bloke cos he's actually being honest with you!? (thats what i try and tell myself!!)
or... would you rather the bloke lied so you think he's not a slag!
One of my friend has been with about 120 girls who he can reel off, now thats alot in my book!!
Oh, leave your numbers if you want! we all wanna know!
tom
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Ive slept with 12. Not too high a number but they do say if a woman has slept with more than 3 they should lie
dont know why.
Rainbow Brite - Thats the attitude I like!! : )
I dont think im a male slag really, ive slept with what seems like alot, but when you break it down over 5 years its only about 7/8 people a year...
Ive never cheated on any of my girlfriends either, most of my 'conquests' have been people ive met on weekends out etc etc, and most of those i still speak to
PussyKatty - I dont think id wanna lie about it really... I dont see the issue really i suppose... I know down the line i would tell a girl if im serious about her, and then id get called a wanker for lying!! hehe!
If a girl were to say to me that she'd slept with say 20 lads, i wouldnt see it as a problem, in fact (sorry if this offends anyone) id think she must be doing something right and id probably enjoy sex with her more as she'd be a little more experienced??
Jus my 2 cents!!
It wouldn't put me off if my partner had XYZ amount of sexual partners, but if he/she constantly had what I view meaningless sex (fuck buddies, constant string of one night stands) then I'd probably worry and be insecure about it.
Everybody's different though, it depends.
if she was doing it so right then how come no one stayed with her? that's what i'd be thinking.
and in terms of skills and experience, i find the guys best in bed are either those with no experience at all (they let you show them exactly what you like) or those who have been in a long term relationship (they've been taught well). guys who sleep around tend to have the 'well everyone else enjoyed it, so i'll do it my way' attitude.
it wouldn't put me off on principle, but i would wonder why he's never stayed with anyone for that long. and i would also think that he was just in it for sex, and personally i'm not a one-night-stand/3 week relationship kind of girl.
We came to that very conclusion last night. Between three of us we worked out that the lads who go round boasting and being complete dicks were the ones who had absolutely no idea on how to please a woman and probably weren't bothered about whether they did or not.
It doesn't put me off people no, knowing that they've slept with a fair few. At the end of the day people grow, they change and everyone has a past. I'm no angel, my partner knows that and we've both been honest about our pasts. Both of us agreed that since neither of us were involved with each other at the time it doesn't matter a fig. He's been worse than me, but hey he's got 17 years on me
It doesn't bother me how many people the other person has slept with, provided that they don't cheat on me and get checked regularly.
One was a one night stand
Somewhat because I got a bit self-conscious when I found out my ex (boyfriend at the time) had sex with all these other girls before me and I didnt know if I would be good enough for him.
Yeah Id be glad he told the truth but at the same time, I would still be a little put off if he slept with that many other women. That's my opinion though. :yes:
One long-term relationship - Few mistakes and a couple one night stands -
I wouldn't like to judge on how many I slept with so I try not to do it to others - Shouldn't matter how many you slept with in the past so long as you don't sleep with anymore whilst being with her -
for example, my girlfriend has slept with sumwhere around 23 people in her time....and even still knows some of these people, but then again i still know most of my ex fuck buddies but i digress, different matter....what i meant was, i dont hold that number against her....what you do when your single and what you do in a relationship are different things....and as for being "put off" by the number of people sumones been with, then i think that all comes down to their attitude..like i said before, if they were all bragging about it and thinkin they were king shit of turd mountain cuz of it then id be put off....
Peace
that also. i've only had one real boyfriend i guess and i regret all of the people i've slept with but that one. i have a tendency to act like a whore when i'm drunk and i used to get drunk alot and not really control myself. but i'm nothing like that anymore :angel:
But hasn't this one been done before?
And if I found out that a bird i liked had slept around a bit i would be put off them. I prefer sweet and innocent girls. Makes me feel more secure.
I would be put off by 35 - 40. Mainly because of what other people have said; you'd wonder what they were doing wrong, or if they were just with me for the sex. My ex/now fuck buddy has slept with 7, and that's fine with me, but I'm not really sure where I'd draw the line. I think the number might not mean so much as that all the girls were accounted for, that there aren't many if any drunk one night stands. I think I feel this way because sex is really important to me emotionally, and I'd feel uncomfortable sleeping with someone who obviously didn't make that connection as well.
I didn't really sleep around much.. just little phases
i agree completely with this. i have had sex with 4 people but i have not "made love" to all of those if that makes sense.
I would be put off if I found out my bf had slept with 30 - 40 girls, cos I'd always think he'd had better sex and that I wouldn't be good enough for him
agree totally - the two are different things......
I have made love with three people..... but had sex four or so times that number.... so I wish I didn't, some I wish I had more than once, some I can't remember, some I can remember every time I shut my eyes! :cool:
I second that motion. I'm so damn self-concious