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Comedy? I dont think so...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have had a bit of a prob with my bf. We broke up less than a week ago and were back together pretty soon after that. Thing is though, he has changed within a day. He thinks he is all funny...a flamin comedian he has change and I dont think he takes our relationship seriously (it had lasted 14 months beofre the little tiff)he is just jokin around all the time...I dont know what to do...whats up with him anyone know? Im afraid that he thinks we have reached a "friendship stage" but I dont think I could handle that... <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="frown"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="frown">

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He's probably having trouble knowing where he stands and has put on this 'comedy act' of lightheartedness to cover up just how deeply his emotions run - a defense mechanism.

    Thing is, in spotting it, you are now aware that he's trying to protect himself, so you can tell his feelings run deep and he was hurt by breaking up (even if it was his fault).

    To stop the comedy routine, just talk with him, at length and in private and try to re-establish the trust between you and the faith in your relationship. That way you'll both be likely to feel more at ease and less like your relationship is a time-bomb waiting to hurt you both again.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks a lot black knight, your advise helped, I talked, its sorted, we know where we stand and the act has gone away a bit...plus he got me a cool valnetines prez... <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile"> bonus...thanks again <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey that's great. Just knowing that it all worked out is all the thanks I need.

    All the best.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Black_Knight:
    <STRONG>He's probably having trouble knowing where he stands and has put on this 'comedy act' of lightheartedness to cover up just how deeply his emotions run - a defense mechanism.

    Thing is, in spotting it, you are now aware that he's trying to protect himself, so you can tell his feelings run deep and he was hurt by breaking up (even if it was his fault).

    To stop the comedy routine, just talk with him, at length and in private and try to re-establish the trust between you and the faith in your relationship. That way you'll both be likely to feel more at ease and less like your relationship is a time-bomb waiting to hurt you both again.</STRONG>

    cudnt of said it betta myself
    <<<<applause>>>>>>>>>>
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