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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've been 'howsyourfathering' this bloke for about 2 months, he stays at mine most weekends and maybe a few times in the week. We dont always end up in bed - sometimes its just snuggling.
I have spoken to this guy about where this is going as he has not long broken up with someone and so have I (both ex's have new g/b friends)
Recently he's gone a bit cold - I think its because I've come on too strong lately.

The question: Do I or dont I send him a Valentines card. With his recent 'coldness' it might scare him off. or it might just remind him Im here.
I know he likes me but I think he thinks he has to act the hardman infront of his mates.

This will be my first Valentines day alone - ever. I dont want to spend it like that.
What do i do??

PS. Sorry that was so long, Im new, Im sure I'll get the hang soon. <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol! my first posy was about 3x as long but cool hear cos there usualy few peeps that will read it all!
    if u dont send him a valentines card u will most likly regret it!
    i say just send him a V-card then talk after about what wana do! 'u only live once' if u do nothing u will never find out!
  • Porky_StalkerPorky_Stalker Posts: 108 The Mix Convert
    send him a card, even if you think you shouldnt

    i dont think it will scare him off. like you said, it will probably just remind him that somone in this world cares about him, and that is what he probably needs at the moment.
    send the card, then if see what he says.....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Send the card but make sure that it's one with an appropriate message- maybe something flirty but without the "I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you" message inside.

    And then keep your message humerous and light-hearted. It will remind him that you exist without scaring him off.

    And don't worry about the length of your post- it wasn't bad at all. Usually the first posts people make are much much longer.
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