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still lonely - still depressed - madness is my friend!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
HI

ive decided that if im to find people to like/accept me im going to have to love myself- ok ive went a bit psycho, but its a start (to the looney bin)

seriously though, adopting a split personality can be a good thing, if your someone like me who is frightened of social contact than adopting an outgoing, extrovert split personality can be a good idea.

anyone agree with me?

Love from Norman

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no i dont agree wiv u at all. iv dun dat and it just turns out crap cos ur wearing a mask da whole time and it is v.hard 2 keep up wid it and in da end ppl find out wat ur relly like and they h8 u!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont pretend to be someone your not, people can see when someone is putting up a front! i certainly can! i have a friend who is always putting up a front when she is in public! i can see right through it and so can a lot of people i know, they say she comes accross as false! so dont create split personality! be who you are and be proud of that!

    Cae9
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Shellfish,

    I used to suffer from depression & bad self-image, too. There's a real logic to depression, I think, because facing facts really there's nothing intrinsically lovable about us. We've all got dark sides to us - things we've done and attitudes we wish we didn't have.

    When I started to look at the Christain faith, I realised that they knew all about this dark side. Christians call it 'sin' - those things we wish we hadn't done, the attitudes that pollute us and keep us captive. God, because he's absolutely just, can't gloss over it, either - 'the wages of sin is death' - sin leads to spiritual death. Eternal separation from God. The everlasting reject pile.

    That's the bad news, but here's the good -'For God so loved the world that He gave his only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life'. When Jesus died on the cross he took the punishment that we deserve, and then came back to life to prove it ! Cool.

    I became a Christian 5 years ago now - since receiving God's forgiveness I haven't been haunted by that 'dark side' any more. If you want to find out more here's a page which explains it a bit more: http://www.westminsterchapel.org.uk/Christianity.htm

    Best wishes,PK <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    [ 09-02-2002: Message edited by: PK ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh bugger off you religious freak.

    What cult you a member of, preying on the weak in society? You should be ashamed of yourself.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Split personality? Oh, please. <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit,

    You don't seem to have a high opinion of Shellfish, who's depressed, not 'weak'.

    I'm C of E,which is called a lot of things but seldom a cult - Westminster Chapel, the website I linked to, isn't C of E, but highly respected. I'm sure I could have linked to a lot of C of E websites with the same type of message.

    Obviously faith is a matter of personal conviction, but I'm just trying to help Shellfish by saying a bit about how I think God helped me with my depression, and inviting him to investigate the issues a bit further.

    PK

    [ 09-02-2002: Message edited by: PK ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Shellfish, DON'T LISTEN TO PK!
    I know kinda how you feel: desperate 2go out but making excuses not to if the opportunity ever arises. I'm a hermit too and it's so awful staring at the same 4 walls wen evryone else is goin out and doing stuff. I don't feel like there's anywhere good to go or anyone I'd like to hang out with if there was. Sometimes I wish I was a kind of clone, cos I know I could go out with myself; we'd get on pretty well I think!
    My best years have pretty much gone by- wasted. You might feel the same, but whatever you do, do not listen to Christians, converted or otherwise. We're exactly the kind of peeps they look out for; they prey on us when we're lonely and vulnerable and brainwash you. By telling their story, PK was admitting it happened to him/her! You see?
    Being in on your own is one thing, but add a Daniel o'Donnell tape to the equation and it's all over... <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Leave PK alone, he/she? was only trying to help. I personally think that everyone can find some sort of answer if they look hard enough. Maybe Shellfish has tried everywhere BUT religion?
    I'm not condoning preying on weak and depressed people, but turning to a faith of some sort can be positive. It is always healthy to have something to believe in, and goals to work towards. My own personal belief is in patriotism. other people believe that drowning their sorrows with alcohol is the answer.
    Religion might not be the answer for everyone, but it is defenitly an option, don't you agree?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit! what the fuck is your problem? you not eblieve in god??!! everyone has there own beliefs and you should respect them! not call them a religious freak! cos that is bang out of order!

    Pk was just trying to help and then some nazi fuck like you comes along and trys to dampen their beliefs!

    Cae9
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Calm down Cae9, I've explained perfectly why PK was entitled to make that post, and why some people seek solace in different places. No need to call kermit a "nazi fuck" is there?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Everybody has a right to their own oppinion don't they Kermit <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh dear i didnt mean this to get as heated as it has!

    Whenever i write my posts its when im on a really low point in my life, i havent a very supportive family and when you feel so isolated and estranged from family and society and cant talk to anyone i posted up here.

    People keep saying 'go to a councillor' get some help etc etc. the thing is like many people i know whats wrong with myself, i know how to change things, but its hard to make changes like the ones i have to.

    PK< thanks alot for your advice, although my father became a 'born again christian' after alcholism and its a way of escape for him, religion encompasses his life and hes forever preaching to me about it. the thing is i am an aethiest and i cant believe in what i dont account as existing. thanks all the same though it was nice to help me out.

    oohlalar: its hard to hear you feel the same as i do to a 't'. i do have the chances of going out meeting people etc but its almost as if i dont even want to, going out clubbing etc is meant to be a laugh and a tension release for people, for me it would be like a nightmare- this is what being bullied at school can do to people. before hand i was a sociable outgoing person afterwards ive been converted into an isolated recluse, im in a job where i need alot of self control and have to put a second personality on- this is what psychopaths are, im able to twist my personality to what i know is expected and in a job like mine where people are experts at 'sussing' people out people dont know my other side at all. If i could get back at the people who done this to me (which i could do easily now) than maybe things would be better, revenge is sweet as they say, ok you might say its not worth it, to concentrate on getting on with my own life instead, well ive tried that and i still have nightmares over these people, i can handle the most hardest of bastards in my line of work but if i saw one of the guys who gave me such a hard time i would be close to experiencing a panic attack. psychological scars happen in childhood and are not easy to remove, people can understand those who have been sexually or physically abused but when they meet someone whos been psychologically abused they call them "weak" or "weird"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes everyone has a right to their opinion, why did kermit have to jump to call pk a religious freak? what is freaky about having religious beliefs???

    Yes as you said everyone is entitled to their opinion, my opinion is if kermit thinks pk is a religious freak i think kermit is a nazi fuck!

    Cae9
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    when you've been bullied at school (i ran away from home in primary school because of it)the hardest thing to reestablish is confidence socially - when your constantly being ridiculed whenever you open your mouth or even walk down a corridor you just stop talking to people and the only real way to start again is to slowly build up your confidence with a good friend (girls can be especially good at helping you with this) i was a recluse for almost two years because of bullying and one good friend helped me out of it and we've gathered together a whole group of people who were bullied by the 'popular people' at primary or secondary so find a good friend and gather like minded people to yourself and it will happen just take it slowly and be determined no looking back also try to stand up to verbal bullying by ignoring it and making sure your body language doesn't show how much its hurting you - its hard but they will get bored eventually DON'T GET ANGRY OR LOOK CRUSHED BOTH WILL LEAVE YOU OPEN TO MORE INSULTS/ABUSE!!
    and good luck
    bullyiing is the worst social disease and we must beat it.
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