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Are all boyz bastards?????

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
A boy i have been really close to for about a year now asked me out a month ago.
I didnt want to say yes straight away as i was goin to Egypt the next day and i wanted to see if he was truthful enough by waiting a week he knew i was goin.
when i got back he seemed to have gone all cold, but i thought nothing of it and carried on flirting with him, and he did back as usual!
so then we became REALLY close and i felt that i really wanted to go out with him. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

It was only then he told me he had got a girlfriend while i was away and too make it worse this week i found out it was one of my friends at school!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;

i cant believe how stupid and used i felt! even though i wasnt even goin out with him yet!!
why did he carry on flirtin with me when he had a girlf?? especially as it was one of my oldest friends?!
come 2 think of it why didnt she tell me??

can anyone help with my heart ache?
am i better off without him?
thing is ive gotta face them both at school every day! what do i do??????? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes they are all bastards <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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    I wonder who she is
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    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    try to forget about him and go into school and act as if it doesnt bother you and that you are happy for them both. they will probably split up soon anyways and if he does come running to you then tell him where to go cos he aint worth it if hes gonna treat you like that
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not all boys are bastards but a large majority are but I'm gonna give them the benefit of the doubt that they will mature and very very gradually. I'm sure there are people will agree. There alot of nice boys around and one of them is taken by me! Sorry but I just had to let that out.
    Anyway-this lad seems like a player so carry on and not think about him. I wouldnt advise you to 'look' because I find that useless because then it may disappoint whereas love arrives unexpected.
    Go girl-no lad is this much bother if they treat you like this.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by shazza:
    try to forget about him and go into school and act as if it doesnt bother you and that you are happy for them both. they will probably split up soon anyways and if he does come running to you then tell him where to go cos he aint worth it if hes gonna treat you like that

    when was the last time THAT plan ever worked?
    u know that if he comes running to her, all pathetic and desperate for TLC, she'll just say yes. 90% of girls do.

    and yes, we are all bastards.

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    all boys are bastards and all girls at bitches.

    if not all of the time at least some of the time.

    and i dont care about sweeping generalisations, im saying this and sticking to it. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    all boys are bastards and all girls at bitches.

    if not all of the time at least some of the time.

    It's true, it's true.

    You've hit the nail on the head there gfm.

    I used to fly like Peter Pan
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    yay! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey u guys I don't like this I don't think I'm a bitch

    I think I'm THE bitch <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    leave me alone it's late and I'm bored :P

    I know I'm not perfect but I can smile
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You can be sure of one thing turtle
    i WILL NOT go running back to him!!!!
    hes done this to lotsa people
    and i spose he thinks he's 'All that' coz girls still want him. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;
    can you believe he had the cheek to say:
    "when ive finished with this girl do you wannna go out with me?"
    RRRAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
    What is he like!!!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sounds like a pretty cool guy <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    *stirring* j/k, of course. sounds like a wanker tbh. ego to big for his body.

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    That wasnt very cool
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kitty_Meowing:
    Hey u guys I don't like this I don't think I'm a bitch

    I think I'm THE bitch <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    i have that exact t-shirt! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    down with the pork and apple combination!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by candie_flossie
    Are all boyz bastards?????

    Yes. But unless lesbianism is an option for you, you just have to put up with it like the rest of us <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    (Sorry for the pessimism, I know I was s'posed to say there are a few nice ones out there, but they all convert so bastardism sooner or later).

    *|* Chica *|*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hate him
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chica:
    Yes. But unless lesbianism is an option for you, you just have to put up with it like the rest of us <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    (Sorry for the pessimism, I know I was s'posed to say there are a few nice ones out there, but they all convert so bastardism sooner or later).

    *|* Chica *|*

    uhoh, i think i've started the girl on a role. she wont shut up about this for weeks now! lol

    and as for us all being bastards, unfortunately it IS true, sorry to say.


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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    lol wow an admission of bastardism! have to keep that one for prosperity!!

    Never put off to tomorrow what you can avoid altogether.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just to add a male voice to this.
    WHAT DID YOU BLOODY EXPECT!
    He asks you out and you don't give him an answer and then bugger off to Egypt for a week!
    U expect him to sit indoors waiting for you to come back and avoiding all female contact?
    If a girl takes a week to reply to whether or not they want to go out with me then I pretty much take that as a no and move on. Otherwise its just teasing and that just sux. You can`t blame him for finding someone else as it probably looked to him like he had no chance with you.

    Ok, maybe he shouldn`t have flirted with u. But u were flirting with him and the natural instinct is to flirt back. But he still should`ve restrained himself.

    Sorry but you tried keeping him waiting on a string and it broke, I reallty don't feel sorry for you at all. You couldn`t expect him to wait a week for an answer as if u wait that long it is pretty much always no. Oops, already said that. ah well, fuck it!

    Anyway thats my opinion and if you don't like it. Shit happens.

    "Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well yes there is alot of jerks out there but there is SOME, SOME good guys.. and remember he wasnt worth it ne way.. keep ya head up and remember u dont need that crap in your life don't even sweat it .. i know its hard but u dont want him to get the best of u , do u ? na i dont think so remember there is plenty fish in the sea and its just a matter of time when u catch the right one and when u will do they will respect u and never cause u and ounce of pain because they will stay true to u and thereselve... dont let some dude piss u off.. cause u know ur a beautiful person inside and out.... SMILE cause thats what u should be doing hehe.. hope ya feell better
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    talyn, once again, this is dead.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MEN ARE ONLY USEFUL FOR CERTAIN THINGS AND I DO BELIEVE THEIR PLACE IS BEING LOST TO TEHNOLOGY (AKA........ANN SUMMERS)
    Though saying that i'd much prefer to kiss a bloke than a woman, cow, sheep however my dogs not too bad.......( *cough* ooooppps wasn't supposed to say that...another story involving my dog putting his tongue out just as i opened my mouth............boy does he need some mints) lol
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    are all boys bastards?
    no <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    ~dappa
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are all boys bastards?
    I'd say that the majority of us are...especially nowadays!
    There are some of us though who DO respect our partners - and other girls (as long as they have respect for us,after all,not all females are perfect either are they!).
    Just forget about this loser,after all,if he's flirting with you when he's seeing someone already,then you just know that he'll do exactly the same when he's with you!
    You'll find someone eventually...just stick at it,and remember...no-one has to settle for 2nd best,especially girls...they can be as choosy as they like!

    Byeee! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    of course not
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There are some good guys and some bad guys.But it's sometimes hard to tell who are the bad guys and who are the good guys.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by candie_flossie:
    <STRONG>can you believe he had the cheek to say:
    "when ive finished with this girl do you wannna go out with me?"
    RRRAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
    </STRONG>

    i think it might be an idea to pass that little gem onto his girlfriend. i daresay he'd be in more that a bit of trouble! sounds like a right wanker <IMG SRC="redface.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would consider myself a nice guy. I have never done anything to a female that has even been frowned upon. In terms of pulling chicks...trust me, it doesnt work to my advantage.

    IMO, you asked for it. If a chick said that to be, i'd walk.

    Sure, he might like you A LOT, but if you dont show him you like him as well (by accepting his offer), why should he agonise over it?

    Three weeks ago, I might have said something different..look for one of my threads from about three weeks ago if you want to know why..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey not all guys are bastards, i ent, i don't think so. Girls turn me down because i am too nice, honestly. I guess sometimes it pays to be a bastard. Another thing i have noticed is that all the nice girls go out with complete bastards and the nice guys get the worst deal, whats going on with that? I guess the gals who do get the bastards need to look at a different crowd.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    People, this post is dead.

    Ha ha DJP. Got here before you! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, Scarlett, my dear, frankly.....

    It's also because you're up at silly times of the morning and not in bed like I told you to be... <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Listen, i know exactly what you're feeling, coz a very good girl friend of mine did the same thing to me. It's been 5 months now and it still hurts worse than ever, in spite of all i've done to forget her. It doesn't go away, and i dont know what i'm missing because other people can get over their exs. you just gotta hang on i guess. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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