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HELP ME!!! *** Crushy always-in-my-head problem ***

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hello! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

I have a really bad crush on this lad in my class, he's much older than me (about four years) I find him very attractive and I have recently been talking to him and he seems like a really nice bloke! Thing is, I'm too shy to ask him out because I don't know whether he likes me in that way. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; I guess I'm scared of rejection and what it would be like if I asked him out, he said no and then I'd have to face him every day for the next couple of years feeling uncomfy and unsatisfied.

However, I have been given a few hints that suggest he might like me:

* I've looked at him and he's looked back and we've held the glance without looking uncomfy or digusted.
* He's smiled at me a couple of times <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
* He aims about 90% of his "sarcastic-but- funny" jokes at me (a lot of the jokes are related to sex... but don't portray me in a negative light)
* He said something that slightly offended me even though it was just another one of his jokes and I started hitting him (play fighting) and he was smiling.
* He mimics some things I do... like I have this phrase (or collection of catch-phrases) that I say a lot and he says them too in a girly voice; taking the piss sort of thing.

Most of the attention he gives me is kind of funny really but he doesn't do this to any other girls.

Do you think I have a chance or am I looking into things a bit too much? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;

lotsa love & stuff

P.S - The sufferings gotta end!! lol


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well talk to him then!

    Either that or go to the club he goes to and see if you score with him....

    It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My friend has begged me to let me put a reply in under my name! Lets call her “buffy” for the sake of this. The views in her are hers and not mine, so please don’t blame me! Get registered yourself buffy!!

    Buffy says;

    I’ve been in a similar situation in the fact that I have a “friend” that I like and he has been giving off weird hints… he flirts with me something chronic and then comes out with silly phrases that makes me think that I have a chance. The thing is that this is the bloke that I know that someday, (don’t know when or where etc.) me and him will get it on… he makes me laugh, he makes me feel special etc… yep… I thinks that I is in love.. He is a naturally outgoing sorta bloke and seems to be m8s with every1 I feels a little twinge when he chats 2 another girl, but the other week he admitted that he has feelings for me, but now, even though it is everything that I want & more, I is still confused, coz like you, I am not going for it… it is a fear of rejection – it’s really tough and confusing because if only I could take that leap and go for it, yet there is still that thought at the back of your head thinking what If it happens and then fails – would you then of lost the relationship that you had before, but if you don’t you 2 will be like buffy.. sitting there, wondering, hanging on every word he says.. you know what I mean.. you have to weigh it up…if it’s meant to happen it will & you will be happy. However, it’s not easy – it is really very confusing….Good luck!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hiya i reckon you should go for it to many people dont take enough chances in life and then they regret it for the rest of thier life i know rejection isnt a nice thing but if you dont ask you'll neva find out.
    good luck how everything works out for you
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you say he is four years older i know when you get to maybe 19 or 19 this doesn't matter but if your any younger than this i wouldn't other wise jump him :P
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey Buffy! you should go for it! If he has actually said he has feelings for you then ask him out for dinner or go to the cinema together. He's made the first move for you. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    The guy I like is frustrating me like hell! Maybe, one day I might just come out with it "hey, I Like you", or just come up behind him and kiss him on the neck. i dunno. One day. When I feel like I've got nothing to loose. I just don't have enough confidence right now.

    And I'm worried that he might not like me cos of my age.... I'm 15 and he's JUST turned 19. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; Could this be a problem?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    go 4 it talk to him u never know!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He has a problem with my age FOR SURE.
    A few months a go he thought I was his age and now that we are friends he knows that I'm 15 and he keeps bringing it up all the timein conversations.
    He will say things about me been under age and say it in an insulting way like it's wrong for me to be younger then him.
    Now I REALLY don't know if he likes me or not!
    I mean some of his body language is very suggestive but he's a confident lad so I can't look into that too much. What to do?
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