suppose u have the feeling

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ure gf had cheated u. Just a feeling, no evidence. But ure not paranoid, u feel damn strong that something happened, but no proof.

I know, everybody's innocent till u can prove the contrary. But the waiting for the evidence is painfull, plus it might never show up.

What to do?

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I had that feeling, kinda strong it was too. I put it to one side, and hey presto now I learn she DID cheat on me.

Every case is different though.

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A little more detail Max - e.g. why you are suspicious etc.

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Originally posted by Annie:
A little more detail Max - e.g. why you are suspicious etc.

it's nothing that u can rationally explain. U feel that ure partner did someting, let's say when she was in a business trip. U can't verify anything, coz it's too far, u have no common friend or something like this who u can ask what and if she did something. Her behavior when she's back is between regular limits, but u can feel something is wrong. A one night stand maybe, not more, but there's enough anyway. and, by the way, this, if happened, was sum months ago, so u can=t go to ure girl and ask her 'heya, what have u done last summer' It sounds really paranoid. But u still can't escape the painfull feeling...

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i have never felt like that but im sure my boyf fancies my best m8! but no proof

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A girl in one of my classes is in a similar situation.

She hasn't got any proof but wants a valid reason to end it with her bf & so is waiting to catch him out.

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hey max

i understand what u mean but thing is, most of us know that when we're in a relationship, we get paranoid about nearly anything, especially if we really care about the other person.
I'm in a relationship at the moment and i really love my bf, and i always find myself thinking 'what if he doesnt like me nemore?' 'what if he never liked me but doesnt have the guts to tell me?' 'what if he's pissed off with me?' 'what if he's cheating on me?' etc etc
so my advice is to u that unless u have a proper reason to be worried, don't be - i always am, but when i think about it logically, i realise my bf loves me too and wouldn't cheat on me.

best of luck!
x
Baby

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Originally posted by Fab_UKgirlie:

She hasn't got any proof but wants a valid reason to end it with her bf & so is waiting to catch him out.

what about "i dont like you any more/i dont think this is going anywhere/i'd like to get on with my life/leave me alone you're too strange for me etc etc"

if she doesn't wanna be with him, she doesn't need a VALID reason. or else she's just wonderfully shallow?

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Originally posted by Turtle:

if she doesn't wanna be with him, she doesn't need a VALID reason. or else she's just wonderfully shallow?

here ure right turtle. wanna make peace? I promise I'll allow ure ego to be the most important around <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Originally posted by Turtle:
what about "i dont like you any more/i dont think this is going anywhere/i'd like to get on with my life/leave me alone you're too strange for me etc etc"

if she doesn't wanna be with him, she doesn't need a VALID reason. or else she's just wonderfully shallow?

I think the same Turtle. I don't know her THAT well its just what she was saying in class.

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Yeh, but come on guys. You know how hard it is to tell a guy who is really really into u to 'go away' don't u? Sometimes it is easier to wait for a valid reason. She's probably not THAT shallow...
xxxs

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