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hi i suppose when we talk about relations we can talk about parental relations well my prob is that my mum and dad are v. over protective they wont let me do anythink im 17 and i cant win! it really stresses me out only last nite they had a rite go @ me in front of my b/f and he kinda rushed home saying bye with no kiss he wont answer my messages ive gotta go a whole week without seeing him as we are both really busy all week. we were going to see on the monday but as my dad was complaining he said im sorry i wont be down. my dad will talk 2 him as if they were great mates and he treats me like dirt my boyf will come down and my dad will talk about footie and all that but treat me like dirt. i know that when dad is going on about wot a moody cow i am and saying how do u put up with her? to him im thinking wot if he believes everything dad says afterall he didnt really say alot last nite after dad finnished on one!

how do i say to my boyf that my dad aint all he seems and i am not that bad?

wot do i do with my parent it seems that dad is fine with my sister but with me he is really funny?

thanks 4 ur help

angel

xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh babe, give us a grin first <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    is your sis older or younger? I get the picture that your dad is fond of your b/f right? I know from experince this is poss. in some cases, Example: Parents had 2 girls and were open/libral with them, eldest girl had bun in oven by 16, parents pissed off, became over protective with younger girl.
    example 2. Parents have 2 boys and are strict, oldest boy turn 17,starts working and goes to pub 4 1st time, gets bladdered and repeats thurs,fri,sat,sun. weekly. parents allow younger boy 2 have the odd drink at home on occasions.
    Whot I'm saying is ( as a father of a 2 year old girl) there is no GCSE in parenting and you do learn as you go along. in the cases above the parents thought thay were 'right' then it went wrong and thay changed the way thay went about things.
    your 17 and almost a grown woman, it may be hard 4 your rents 2 let go. See if you can talk to the 'softer' parent (a girly chat or if a daddys girl ya dad) think why thay might be Very over protective, see it from there point, respect it and then put your point across in an adult fassion. I.E. no shouting in the KIVEN the TEENAGER from hell way.
    Chin up sweety
    luv Ibbow
    hope it helps
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Ibbow:
    KIVEN the TEENAGER
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    Kevin!

    Parents are a funny old lot, i'd be inclined to talk it out with them. Your dad seems to like the guy so the problem appears to be your dads behaviour, hmmmmmmmm..... I don't know what your dad is like so i can only speculate. Does he respond to threats, tears, gifts, affection?

    Your b/friend should be concentrating on you not others opinions of you.

    Keep on smiling <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    aww poor thing sounds like a nightmare

    sounds to me like daddy can't face his little girl being grown up, my dads a bit like that and it's even worse coz im an only one
    hopefully your bf will have his own opinions of you and not listen to your dad, and if u c yr bf agreeing with yr dad he's most like likey just humoring him and as for not saying much he was probably just a bit embarrassed as no doubt u were

    I think that you should speak to your bf and tell him how you feel and ask him what he thinks about it after all it's upsetting you not knowin what he thinks isnt it?

    Hope i've helped a bit.
    x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thankyou sooo much everyone u have all been so kind. i do try to talk to my dad like an adult but he acts so immature and i find it v difficult to act mature. i always end up crying ive been crying on and off all day. i really love my boyf + i dont think he would listen to my dad but what annoys me is that im not seeing him all week. IM SO STRESSED i dont know wot 2 do my dad has stopped me from seeing my auntie cos he says she is a bad influence on me i dont think he likes it how i get on really well with her + he doesnt. she has said if it gets worse i can move in with her but that would only cause more arguments. i think my boyf is worried about upsetting my dad noe he dont wanna see me all week!

    hey ibbow how am i gonna get kinky now? well for another week n e way HELP!

    thanks everyone

    love

    angel

    xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes im eldest but wot i think is that if they do not start making more of an effort to tell my little sis off she will end up pregnant at the age of 13 and smoking and taking drugs i do none of this but still they treat me like dirt i h8 it! i want things to change. i love my family but its getting 2 the point where i want to run away out of site from everyone.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    me and my boyf are not talking ive txted and he has not said anything on the matter. im not supposed to be seeing him all week coz he dont want 2. i really do not know what 2 do!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont know wat the hell is wrong with your b/f maybe you'd wana watch he wouldn't run away with your dad (joke)*maybe a bit outa place sorry* if he loves you he will take your feelings on board on the way your dad treats you.....

    if he doesn't let him get on if thats wat he wants becuz he is obviously puttin his friendship with your dad before your relationship

    good luck wat ever you decide

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes thanx i dont think he likes my dad more... im so confused i dont know wot he thinks.
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