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who makes the effort?

this is too both male amd female. when u are goping out with someone who makes most of the effort?

im just asking for example me and my boyf i always seem to be the one asking him if hes doing anything or if hes interested in going out. i always txt and he never really rings the last time he emailled was 2 months ago and he never asks me to go out its always me saying r u busy fancy going out or meetin up?

is this the same 4 all guys?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Best thing would be to talk to him about it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I certainly make an effort with my gf, but then so does she! Some guys like to play it cool, personally I've got no worries about showing that I want to be with my gf, but then I've never shyed away from commitment so maybe it's just me! lol
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    U seem to be doing all the work inthe relationship and it may be that theres an imbalance in affections perhaps.If he doesn't to bother phoning u etc then it may show his true feelings. I mean, If u really liked someone that much u'd make the effort won't u? Not just that, as a girl your man should be the one pinning for u and arranging things etc. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND.
    If i were u, u should have a long and serious chat with him and ask him where u stand.For example, he may think its a very casual relationship and if so at least u should know what his view is and how to deal with it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im the one who does the work in my relationship, and im getting totally fed up with it, she dumped me before but thats cos i caught her on a bad day, but im fed up with the one calling/texting her. She hardly sees me outside of college anyways and its getting to me a bit. Try talking to him, but my theroy is, that you cant change people in that way.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't phone him. Don't email him. Don't text him. Don't ask him out.

    Then, when he realises there's something wrong, tell him 'that's the situation i've been in; when was the last time YOU called ME? / txtd me / emailed me ?'

    That'll make him think, and he'll realise he's been neglecting you. And if it was deliberate, he'll realise you aren't taking it ne more, and he's got2 either give up on u, or be more attentive.




    I used to be schizophrenic, but we're OK now...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    things r fine we see each other and he will ring me most nites we dont see. and we see each other every friday no matter wot and no-one asks weach other because we know its normal. i dont want to split up with him because he is the nicest person but i am just not going to make all of the effort especially when he asked me out!
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