Dodgy friend?

Former Member

I found out yesterday night that a good mate of mine has tried to get off with my girlfriend twice recently when I wasn't around. Apparently she told him to get lost, but she never mentioned it to me. Another friend told me about it, and I don't think he's the sort of person to make things like that up.

Why didn't she tell me herself? And what should I do about my so-called good mate? I feel like shit and I want to smack him one, but I guess that's not going to help much.

Former Member

DONT DO ANYTHING UNTIL YOU KNOW THE FACTS!!!
if your sure ur girlf told him where to go then why dont you just ask her - see what she says?
You cant just go and punch him! Think about it!! Lucyxxx

Former Member

I think u should speak to both the suspects here. Its the only way u will find out what actually went on. I had a similar situation with the father of my baby. He tried to get into bed woith my best mate who lived in the flat below him. It was a bit different as he actually tried to force her to sleep with him. She told me about it the next day, but only after I pressurised her coz I knew that something was goin on. She was glad that she told me in the end but addmitted that she hadnt wanted too coz she knew it would split me and him up (whichc it did by the way...the wanker!). Thats probably why she hasnt told u.
But the best thing u can do is to talk to them both...and together is better than seperatly as its easier to tell lies when u aint around the other person <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

Former Member

Well, I spoke to my girlfriend last night. She said he'd tried it on with her, but she said to get lost and couldn't tell if he was joking or not anyway. And she didn't tell me because she didn't want me to be upset. Still not sure what to do about him though. Twat.

Ed

Former Member

Originally posted by j9j9:
I would say that he's not your friend any more!!

J9

I would say that I totally agree with that <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">!

Former Member

friends don't do that kind of thing! You don't need him!

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Former Member

If i were you id punch his lights out for trying to pinch my bird, being a girk myself Id do it to any mate i found out was tryna get off with my fella. Theres no excuse for backstabbing like that!

Former Member

Well, just to make matters even worse, I've just found out he's been spreading rumours about me too. He's told my friends I am secretly psychotic and violent, and some of them have been avoiding me. If I was really like that, they'd know about it already, wouldn't they.

Oh and I work on freelance projects for websites - and he's told a few important people that I'm a really dodgy character and can't be trusted. What is wrong with this bloke? I can't understand what makes someone like that tick. I was a good friend to him and we never fell out over anything.

One good thing is that it has brought me and my girlfriend even closer together.

Former Member

Originally posted by RedEd:
... secretly psychotic and violent ...

Sounds more like he's the one having a pyschotic episode. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Have you managed to talk to him yet? It sounds bloody confusing if he used to be a good mate, and whatever else happens talking to him might help you work out what he's trying to do.

You never know, maybe someone's told him a pack of lies about you that have really pissed him off (something stupid like you hit on his sister etc.) and so he's trying to take revenge. Doubtful though... good luck.

Former Member

This guy sounds pretty sick and twisted in the head, first he try sto nick your gf then he try sto ruin your friendships with other people then he trys getting you a bad rep with important people.
I think you should try and get him admitted into a physcho home.
Oh and get some1 else to punch his lights out coz if you do it hes just gonna say to every1 I told you he was a physcho. You never know it might all be part of some master plan the sickos thought of so he can steal your girlfriend.
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