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How do you tell sum1 u fancy them... wiv out makin a fool out urself?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

i really fancy this bloke, and i dont knw what to do, sould i tell him, thats if he hasnt already worked it out. but i dont think he fancies me, so i dont want to make a fool out of self.

i have such a good time wiv him, and worried that what ever i do makes it look like i fancy him.

argh...... shd i just wait and seee what happens, or tell him or try and ignore my feelings (tried it b4 dnt work that well).

i want to pull him but how do i go about it?
i am so confused!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this sounds so stupid......... ne1 got any good ideas?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    in my experience anything that could go wrong, will. so i would leave it if your not sure of his feelings ok?

    do I know anything about chicks? fowl.... no, now women... no.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah I wouldleave it for a while, it'll give you time to asses the situation, and see if your feelings are as real as you think.

    Winners never quit and quitters never win !!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree- blokes always seem to get awkward when they know someone fancies them and you don't want to spoil the friendship. This way, you'll still get to hang out with him without him acting weird.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru



    thanks guys...... but i am sure about how i feel. u knw whenu try not to think but it, it doent work, i just dont knw how to slow my feelings.

    Dk i do knw what u mean if i say it will go wrong!

    cheers guys.......... i fancy him loads! y????
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by shine:



    thanks guys...... but i am sure about how i feel. u knw whenu try not to think but it, it doent work, i just dont knw how to slow my feelings.

    Dk i do knw what u mean if i say it will go wrong!

    cheers guys.......... i fancy him loads! y????
    If ure emotions could be controlled by your thoughts then I think that as u say u would stop feeling like this but they are not, so you do.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What if you talk to him about some other bloke that you pretend to like?

    Then you can gauge how he feels about you based on his response. If he seems weird about it then maybe he could have feelings for you too?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know this might sound stupid, but they do say that "wine brings out the truth" so maybe you ought to get drunk with him sometime and talk to him about it then. At least that way if you figure out that he actually doesn't like you then he probably won't remember the conversation so you won't have anything to worry about!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    suzie..... that is a good idea, but i think it is so blantantly obvious that i fancy him..... oh dear y do i get myself in to messes like this.

    and MikeG i went away wiv him and a few other mates, and we were all very drunk and were talking about everything under the sun, and i learnt alot about him, and about the others i was wiv, i just dnt knw if he likes me......... see he is very (not scarcastic)... but very simular and everything he says u cnt tell if he is serious......... he wineds me up so much...... and my mates asked if he fancyed me.. and he didnt say no or yes he said um abit i dnt really knw........ and i have a feeling he was not serious as he is like that..........

    ARGH! ......???????? *CONFUSED...BLONDE*

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MikeG:
    I know this might sound stupid, but they do say that "wine brings out the truth" so maybe you ought to get drunk with him sometime and talk to him about it then. At least that way if you figure out that he actually doesn't like you then he probably won't remember the conversation so you won't have anything to worry about!!

    Yeah and if you make a prick of yourself, tell him you were drunk & pretend not to remember <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">.


    What makes the desert beautiful is that somewhere it hides a well.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you leave things too long he might find somebody else, get involved with them for years to come and then you'll never know!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Or..... dare i suggest u wait till he makes a move, im not saying he will - but if u don't want to make a fool of urself (which u probably wouldn't anyway) its a good thing to do.
    xxxs

    Who ate all the pies??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I TOTALLY DISAGREE with all of you lot except Comedy Dave!

    Shine, u should go for it! Just think what will happen if you don't - if you're in this much of a state, chances are it's not just a passing phase, and it'll continue to hang over you if you don't follow it up - can u see that?

    The best way to go about it, in my opinion, is just to tell him, plain and simple - 'i'd like to be more than friends with u.' I mean, pick the right moment - but that's probably the easiest way, and also probably the best way, to do it. That way, u'll find out what he wants to do about it - and he'll have the situation made clear for him, and be able do decide what to do.

    I really hope you go for it - several of my friends have left situations like this, and seriously regretted it. I was in the same situation w my current bf - i really fancied him, and told him that outright - and it turned out he fancied me too, he'd just not been sure it was mutual - and now we've been going out for several months!

    let me know how it works out!

    x
    Baby



    I used to be schizophrenic, but we're OK now...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oops just noticed how long that post was - sorry about the essay, hope u don't get bored with it 1/2 way thru!

    x



    I used to be schizophrenic, but we're OK now...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ooooo i dnt knw if i could do that, i knw i shd but i worry so mch..
    i did make a prat out of my self last night i got really drunk, and i senthim a e-mail, saying how i feel relly guilty as i spend all day evry day in his stdy,and if i annoy him for him to tell me to just fuck off bascially and he did nt reply to tthat part of the e-mail, he just sort of ignored it and when i was in his study at lunch he giggled about what i had written and didn mentchion it.

    ooooo men....... y do i bother???
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just out of interest dont u just h8 it when u r trying 2 find out how sum1 feels about u or b cum their friend until uve wored up the courage 2 ask them out and then sum1 u trust goes b hind ure back and blabs and u find out they h8 u and ure life gets screwed up?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well darkmaster thats what happened to me today at work my best m8 told ciaran i fancied him and he wont talk to me now so yes i hate it when that happens to

    lolly
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think...if you have to be around him a lot, like at uni or something, then you should leave it. How embarassing if he doesn't. But if you might not see him for a little while, then go for it! In fact, go for it anyway. You never know, it might happen, and if you don't try you'll regret it.
    I don't know. This is a stupid post. Good Luck anyway whatever happens.

    Little Rabbit :o) <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/bunny.gif"&gt;
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